I found out that I was pregnant after two
home tests last week. I know I had to be
preg too because my breasts got larger and
sore. My ob and I assume I was about 5-6
weeks along as of yesterday. But I woke
up yesterday morning with a significant
amount of blood coming out. It looked
exactly like menstral blood. No cramping,
but some small clotting. It slowed down
after a few hours. I only saw a little
bit of blood when urinating by the end of
the day. This morning there was nothing
but aa small small light amount of pink
only when I wiped...It seemed very
diluted. Still no real cramping. I took
an hcg blood test yesterday and have to go
again tomorrow to compare. I cried all
day yesterday. My husband and I were so
excited about having a baby. My ob says
i'll have to wait three months until we
can start trying for a baby if this turns
out to be a miscarrige. Has anyone got
any advice or have this happen? How does
one cope? Why is it that a lot of women
who want to get pregnant have these
problems but then you get the
irresponsible ones who don't care or don't
want one get pregnant? Then they abort it
or bring it into the world unwanted? It
just doesn't seem fair.
What makes it worse is my husband's
sister-in-law with whom I am very close to
had to have her pregnancy terminated
because the baby's brain was not
developing. She and her husband have been
trying to get pregnant for almost a year
now, still nothing.
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Pocket Angel
Experienced User , Rather EHEALTHy
Joined: 29 Jul 2005 Posts: 241 Location: Thiells, New York
Posted: 08-23-05 08:41am
Oh no, I am so sorry =o( are they sure
its a miscarriage?
I am a person who got an abortion back in
march. Worst mistake I have ever made.
I will regret it and live with it for the
rest of my life. Now I am pregnant again
(again with my fiance). And let me tell
you, I don't go a day without feeling
horribly guilty. I can still miscarry, I
know that, but how is it fair that I can
concieve so fast and easily, after an
abortion, meanwhile all these woman are
trying and trying, sometimes never
conceiving at all, and other times losing
their babies. I am terrified of a
miscarriage, although a part of me feels
like I will have one, as punishment for
the abortion. Your right, it isn't fair,
and I feel so sad and guilty for what you
are going through!
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ctpeach
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 20 Aug 2005 Posts: 39 Location: CT
Posted: 08-23-05 08:50am
My ob didn't confirm a miscarriage, but I
know she thinks it most likely is. I will
find out for sure most likely tomorrow
after I take the second blood test. If my
hcg levels are lower, then I miscarried.
If not, then she is going to test for a
eptopic pregnancy even though I don't have
cramping. It was just a lot of blood. I
just called my ob office actually to see
if yesterday's levels were sent in from
the lab. The lady on the phone was rude
because I didn't give her my name right
off and couldn't remember the lab I went
to because there are a few labs on the
same road. After that for some reason I
started to cry again, not sure if I was
crying about the baby or just hormonal...I
feel like a basketcase today.
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ctpeach
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 20 Aug 2005 Posts: 39 Location: CT
Posted: 08-23-05 14:26pm
With the blood test I took yesterday, my
hcg was only 130. I test again tomorrow.
But, I started to bleed again today, and
now I have mild cramping. It looks like a
strange but heavy period, so I am not
going to get my hopes up at all, I am
pretty positive that I lost my baby...I
think I have cried all my tears, all day
yesterday and most of today. I don't want
to cry anymore...But I am sure I will for
a while. My husband and I will have to
wait 3 months to start trying for another
baby. If I had only waited 4 more days to
take my pregnancy tests, I would have just
thought I was having my first period off
my birthcontrol...A month late. Too late
for if onlys. I guess I just have to keep
myself busy. Luckly I start a new job in
a couple weeks, that should keep my mind
off of things.
-ctpeach
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Pocket Angel
Experienced User , Rather EHEALTHy
Joined: 29 Jul 2005 Posts: 241 Location: Thiells, New York
Posted: 08-23-05 17:02pm
I am so sorry to hear about your baby =o(
you know, you never know whats going on
with your body. Maybe there was
something wrong with the baby and god took
matters into his own hands.
As for waiting 3 months... I have never
heard of that before? I dont think there
would be any reason for you to wait if you
and your partner feel like you are ready
to try again. I found some articles for
you on the subject... I only did research
because I never heard of anyone having to
wait to try again after a miscarriage...
the majority of the articles I have read,
say that since you miscarried so early and
like you said, if you hadnt taken that
hpt, you would of never known you were
pregnant... That your body will still be
strong and ready to concieve again....
But if you are not emotionally ready to
try again, then definitely don't... But
for some people, trying again might help
you heal.
Whatever your decision, good luck to you
and keep us all updated!
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ctpeach
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 20 Aug 2005 Posts: 39 Location: CT
Posted: 08-23-05 17:26pm
Thank-you very much angel. That means a
lot to me. I am feeling a bit better
now...More at peach with the whole ordeal.
My husband came home from work and even
though I told myself not to cry, I did.
And he cried too. The first time I have
ever seen him cry since I met him 5 years
ago.
Thanks again, I will let you know what
happens. I probably will wait 3 months
anyway because that is what we originally
planned and it would work best for me
starting a new job and getting a house. I
will make a post with any updates...And
even a new pregnancy. Thanks for your
support and concern angel.
Barbara (ctpeach)
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Pocket Angel
Experienced User , Rather EHEALTHy
Joined: 29 Jul 2005 Posts: 241 Location: Thiells, New York
Posted: 08-23-05 19:15pm
I am glad to see you have a plan! I
think you will get through this just fine,
only time can heal. Life seems like its
only getting better for you, with a new
job and a new house, its only a matter of
time you will have a baby to share it all
with. Yes please keep us updated, you
are in my thoughts and good luck to you!
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kirztens_mummy
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 23 Aug 2005 Posts: 6 Location: london
Posted: 08-23-05 19:31pm
I know how you feel and it really hurts as
I myself just had a miscarriage last
night. I was on my 6th week and like you
didnt feel any cramps or nothing:-( just
started bleeding. I had hcg test and
internal exam and the doctor confirmed
that its miscarriage this is my second
miscarriage within two years and me and my
husband was both devastated :( coz we were
really expecting for this baby as our
first one's 5 year's old. Ill have my
scan tomorrow just to check if I still
nedd d&c. I cant really get enough
sleep:( my husband took time off work to
be with me so just trying to put a brave
face in front of him coz he's got so much
on his plate. I joined this forum because
I feel like I need someone who would
understand my situation like yourselves.
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fatfamily02
Extremely EHEALTHy
Joined: 20 Jul 2005 Posts: 3050 Location: Georgia, USA
Posted: 08-23-05 19:34pm
Bleeding is common in the first few weeks
of pregnancy--doesnt sound like
miscarriage bleeding. Usually really
long and heavy--really dark red. And I
do know from experience that it is
extremely easy to get preg again after
miscarriage--if you are interested in
trying again right away.
15% of all pregnancies start out twins and
75% of those loose one of the babys in the
first few weeks of pregnancy.
Not trying to fill you up with false
hope--but it might not be a miscarriage
and I think you deserve all the facts. I
dont ever understand in these situations
why they dont always do u/s to see baby or
check heart rate or whatever. Why do they
continue to keep all thse women just
hanging there in limbo--pos reinforcement
would be great--neg could make her
miscarry if she hasnt yet.
One girl on here had levels go up and down
then up again, within a few days and bled
with in those days. Dont know why but
that is what happened to her just
recently. Still dont know if it was a
twin or if she miscarried thoug, but with
levels climbing again prolly still preg.
Good luck hon, we'll be awaiting your dr
visit tomorrow
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kirztens_mummy
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 23 Aug 2005 Posts: 6 Location: london
Posted: 08-23-05 19:40pm
Thanks for your reply dear ill let you
know tomorrow what has happened but im not
really banking on it or keeping my hopes
high as this is the 2nd time I had a
miscarriage:( but it feels good to speak
my heart out to people who could
understand what ive(or women thats been on
my situation) had been going through.
Your advise is much appreciated
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ctpeach
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 20 Aug 2005 Posts: 39 Location: CT
Posted: 08-23-05 20:58pm
Well, I am pretty positive I did miscarry.
I am just going to follow up with the
blood test tomorrow for my ob's sake. An
hour ago, I had very sharp pains, as if
someone was stabbing my belly. Worse than
menstrual cramps. More blood too, and
small clots. My breasts have shrunk
almost to thier original size too and the
tenderness is not so much anymore
either.
But, as mentioned earlier, I am coming to
peace with it and I owe it all to my
husband who has been such wonderful
emotional dumpster for me.
We are still very sad about it, but we are
trying think positive. And it will make
us appreciate having a healthy pregnancy
that much more in the future.
We decided that god sometimes makes
mistakes like everyone else and when he
let me get pregnant, he said "whoops! I
screwed up something" and he decided to
start over again. So, we'll start trying
in november as to our original plan.
