Joined: 27 Aug 2005 Posts: 1 Location: Ontario, Canada
Where Did I Go Wrong Posted: 08-27-05 17:54pm
Hey everyone, here is my .. Sad ...
Story! As of today my boyfriend and I
have been together for 2 yrs. Here is a
bit of history, when we first started
dating things were wonderful! Then I
dunno, about 9-10 months into the
relationship my boyfriend pulls the car
over and breaks up with me. Completely
broke my heart, my first love and my first
sexual partner. We kept in touch the
whole time we were apart and a few months
later we were back together, once again
things were great and going wonderfully!
Then just last week he hits me out of
nowhere with the same story "i don't know
if I want to be with you"! Well we talked
it over and we decided to work on things
because he knows how deeply I love him and
want things to work. Now we are at today,
he is telling me he doesn't know if he can
come over and see me on our anni because
he is upset with out relationship. Of
course I am upset about this and getting
kind of mad because he told me we could
celebrat the anni! Well ... Since the
day he told me he wasn't sure about
wanting to be with me we went about with
sexual activities and all seems fiine and
dandy when we do that and then when we
stop its like he is not wanting me
anymore. He promised me he would do
things with me then break up with me
because he knows how bad that is! Now I
don't know what to do! I love him with
all of my heart! I fear if we break up,
just in a few months he will be back with
me, I fear this because I don't want to go
every yr wondering when he is going to
leave me again. What do I do! Please
help me! :cry:
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FreeSpirited
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 27 Aug 2005 Posts: 8
My Advice Posted: 08-27-05 20:35pm
My dear, my advice to you is simple. This
guy is using you and he is so confused in
his head and he is making you confused as
well. You need to realise you are a
precious beautiful person who deserves to
be treat better. There one way of dealing
with this.
1. You can tell him you need time to
think about things and will contact him
once you have decided. This will give him
a chance to do some thinking and wondering
what on earth you are up to. The suspence
will kill him and he will eventually make
contact with you, but you must act calm
and not all over him, which is what he is
used to. Play it cool and let him do some
running. Guys are parogrammed to enjoy
the chase.....Allow them to do just that.
If he loses interest in you, honey, he is
just not worth your love then. You
deserve a guy who is going to treat you
like gold and want to spend time wtih you
and respect you and love you as much as
you love him. True love is a 2 way
connection, it is never one sided. Hope
this helps a little.........
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First_time_mum
Experienced User , Rather EHEALTHy
Joined: 31 Aug 2005 Posts: 93 Location: Dubai.... for now
Posted: 09-01-05 05:49am
Two things are very clear in your story.
First, he is using you. Second, he
doesn't love and respect you at all. I
have been in a similar situation few years
back. In love (head over heels) with
this guy. We break-up and reunite...
Endless... I thought life without him is
incomplete. But one day I realised that
it is going nowhere. I picked up myself
from our last break-up (i nearly committed
suicide) and told myself that there is
life after this awful mess. Exactly a
year after, I met a guy who is in love
with me, respectable and god fearing. We
married after 1 year and we are now
expecting our first baby. So please, do
not let him use or abuse you. If you let
him do this again, this is where you have
gone wrong.
