Will He Leave Me Stranded At the Airport? Posted: 08-29-05 21:23pm
I know this guy online since march, he
lives in another country, different from
mine. During april, he came to my country
on a business trip. We contact each other
daily through emails, phonecalls. He says
he like me alot and want to work on
things. I have feelings for him too. In
fact, I had fallen for him.
He has purchase 2 airtickets for me, on in
august, one in november to see him and
have a holiday.
Things start to turn sour since june. I
don't know whether its his work load, or
he like someone else, or its because i'm
starting to fall for him. I don't know is
it that he's scare of committements or
don't want to go any further than this.
I had purchase airticket to see him in oct
to celebrate his birthday before things
turn sour.
Now he's avoiding me like disease. I
can't confirm 100% but it really feels
like he's avoiding me. He doesn't reply
my sms or emails or calls anymore. He
doesn't call me or send me sms anymore.
The emails just get lesser and shorter in
content, all he says is his work. He used
to answer my calls but now he says he's
avoiding all his international work calls,
and cos when I ring him, its unlisted, so
he avoided it as well.
When I visited him in august, things
already start to feel strange, the
closness is not there anymore, and he
stays very far away from me physcially,
the distance between us can fit an
elephant. I asked him whether he still
likes me, and he said yes, or else, he
wouldn't have ask me to go over. He said
he could have asked me to stay in my
country.
Despite all his words, I felt that the
action just don't matched. From this
trip....Things just start to turn very
sour. There's no calls, no text. And 1
email per 1-2 days.
I felt that if I really mean the same to
him, he would have still email me or send
me text, and definately return my calls
once he hear his voicmail.
Its only another 1 month to my departure
date. I'm in a delima whether I should go
or not. There is no refund to the ticket,
its either I go or forsake $800 bucks.
If I don't go, I lose the money, and I
wont know what's happening between us.
If I go,i'm afraid that he wont pick me up
at the airport and i'm stranded there.
(remember I can't contact him at all, its
been like this for 1 week)
if he picks me up, i'm afriad that I will
just ruin his birthday.
If I ask him to choose, i'm afraid that he
will just ask me not to go. I'm really
scared.
I know from now till my departure date is
1month, and many things can happen during
this 1 month. Things can get better or
get worse. Maybe I had wrong him, maybe
its really because of stress during work
and lack of time. After all, different
people hand things differently.
But my instinct tells me i'm right. I'm
worried that if for these 30days, I can't
even contact him at all, is it extremely
stupid of me just to turn up at the
airport? Or at his house?
Please tell me what I should do. I'm
really confused, worried and heartbroken.
What Does Ut Heart Tell U?? Posted: 09-01-05 08:50am
Does he fell the same way?
If hes just wasting ur time then hes not
worth all this heart ache.
Hav u seen him personally or a photo of
him I mean any1 can say they r some1
behing the screens of the computer. U
hardly kno him just by emails. I hav many
contacts on my msn but I just call them
internet buddys cos I dont kno them
presonally. I think u shud get to kno him
first then decide. Ppl seem to get along
in relationshipsm for some months or even
1-2 yrs. But them later on things get
nasty and then u'll kno who he really is.
But if he keeeps avoidin ur calls then hes
not worth it cos hes just wasting ur time
and screwing with ur mind. Good luck u
decide
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KellyR
Experienced User , Rather EHEALTHy
Joined: 02 Aug 2005 Posts: 90
Posted: 09-02-05 13:42pm
Well, if he keeps saying everything is ok
but you feel otherwise I believe the best
thing to do is to go there. Yes, it is
800$ but if you have them, and you do or
else you wouldn't have considered going
there, you should. Confronting him is the
only way to find out what is wrong and if
he has been avoiding you because he is
busy or because he doesn't care about you.
You will see that from the way he will
look at you, talk to you, and more. I
believe you can handle that.
Whatever happens you will gain
something-peace of mind. Worst case
scenario: he doesn't feel for you and at
least you will know and you will get over
him. Life doesn't begin, nor end with
this guy or any other. Even if it may
seem otherwise for a while.
So, for your own peace of mind go there
for his birthday and find out what the
problem is. Even if he doesn't come to
the airport you can take a cab to his
place, so I woudn't worry about that. But
let him know that you are going.
I don't know if that counts in any way but
my personal opinion is that he is no
longer interested in you and he doesn't
know how to tell you or he is screwing
with your mind. But when it comes to such
a thing you need to be sure...So find
out...
Good luck!
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heartbroke
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 13 Aug 2005 Posts: 17
Update Posted: 09-08-05 07:22am
Yesterday I send him an sms. In it I says
"hi, I havn't hear from you for sometime,.
I hope you are well. How's the weather
like there? I'm not sure when you are
flying home, so have a good flight home.
Take care"
it is this short and I didn't say anything
emotional. He didn't reply me at all.
And I catch a pattern. When he's awake (i
know the country timing), he will switch
off his mobile, and when he's sleeping, he
will turn on his mobile(to silent mode i'm
very 100% sure). This has been the
pattern for like days. What kind of
employee does that on business trip? I
can't even turn off my phone when i'm
overseas trip.
Isn't it obvious that he's screening his
calls from voicemails?
There is a 1% possibility that his company
doesn't allow him to use the phone or he
thinks that receiving calls is going to be
very expensive. But since its a company
trip, and he does travel intensely, there
shouldn't be any reason that a big company
will stingy on phone expenses.
I don't know whether this pattern is
purposely created to avoid me or not. But
I feel that if he has to do this at the
expense of his work, his company, he's not
a good employee....
Unless he's not on a business trip at
all................
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KellyR
Experienced User , Rather EHEALTHy
Joined: 02 Aug 2005 Posts: 90
Posted: 09-09-05 11:34am
Well, even if he has problems as such, he
would have found a way to call you..It is
not that difficult, don't you think?
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