Joined: 30 Aug 2005 Posts: 6 Location: Tipperary, Ireland
It Feels Wrong to Pleasure My Boyfriend???????????? Posted: 08-30-05 06:35am
Iam 21, and have never had sex or done
anything with a guy,
so now when I get into a relationship with
someone, I dont know what to do, iam too
imbarissed to do anyting to them,
i know that sounds silly, but I cant, even
when they do things to me I feel
mortified, like fingering, I totally seize
up and cant relax and I feel out of place,
I dont know whats wrong with me, I know I
have a sex drive because I masturbate
nearly every night.
And I want to have sex but when it comes
to it I seize up, literally. And I just
dont know what to do.
I want to pleasure my boyfriend but I dont
know how to go about it without feeling
like iam making a fool out of myself, I
feel mortified if I mastrubate him.
I feel stupid, like im doing something
wrong.
And also I feel mortified when lying
beside someone naked. I cant relax, is
this right can anyone give me some help
with this, I have always felt like this,
never any different so there wasnt any
change in my life.
I dont know any different, so please help
me get over this...
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saglamh23
Experienced User , Rather EHEALTHy
Joined: 17 Jun 2005 Posts: 61 Location: Türkiye
Posted: 08-30-05 07:13am
Maybe he doesnt know how to relax you.
And do u really love him? Or is it just
to have some sex?
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Tanya G
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 30 Aug 2005 Posts: 6 Location: Tipperary, Ireland
Posted: 08-30-05 10:28am
No it not that, this has happened with
every boyfriend iver ever had, not just
this guy.
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Tylanas
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Posted: 08-31-05 22:04pm
Don't worry girl :)
it sounds like you're trying to do these
things because you think you should, but
the fact is, you're just not ready.
Beleive me, if it feels "wrong" to do it,
then you need to wait longer. Being
embarrased to do stuff is one thing, but
to feel mortified, or feel that it's not
exatly right is a total other.
I had to slowly acclimate myself to
pleasuring my bf (only guy i've ever had
sex with) and i'm almost 21 myself. As
long as he's patient with you, and lets
you learn things at your own pace, it will
be beautiful in the end :)
if you're not comfortable when he
pleasures you, then what's wrong with the
situation that you're in when he does it?
Are you making out beforhand, working
slowly into it? Because believe me, if he
gets you hot enough, you're gonna want his
fingers on you. Everything involves
patience... And I mean months of
patience!
I met my bf at the start of my freshman
year of college, and we didn't start
dating until the end of my freshman year.
Summer was of course no-see each other
because of distance, but once we got back
to school, we spent as much time as
possible together.
Me being the virgin I was, i'd never even
seen another penis in real life besides my
dad streaking through the house o.O so you
can understand how nervous I was. But my
bf just slowly let me explore on my own,
and let me "discover" each step of the way
with subtle guidance. I like pleasuring
him, it brings me joy to see him like
that, and it should bring you joy to see
your bf react the same ways.
We talked about sex, but I decided I
wsan't ready, despite our friends
pressuring us to. I was a virgin, he
wasn't, but he was really cool about it,
and letting me set the pace.
We didn't have sex that fall semester, but
when we got back after christmas break...
I was ready; the situation was right, and
it just happened. Now i'm not saying yo
have to have sex! But what I mean is
that... I was nervous to pleasure my bf,
but once I learned how to do it, I liked
doing it.
I have no idea if this is any help..
Uh... Yeah. Do what feels right!
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Tanya G
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 30 Aug 2005 Posts: 6 Location: Tipperary, Ireland
