regimented chore each month based on her ovulation cycle. Posted: 08-30-05 08:07am
My wife & I have been married for nearly 8
years. We have two great kids, but
getting pregnant with the 2nd was not easy
for my wife. This killed our sex life
since it became a regimented chore each
month based on her ovulation cycle.
Since then (my son is now two) we have
slowly drifted apart. Last year she got
a job to help pay the mortgage on a new
house & she works in the evenings, she
also started going out for drinks with her
brother/friends; which meant we saw very
little of each other during the week.
Now she has had a brief affair. She says
she still loves me, but is not in love
with me (think she means as a friend). I
want her to come to counselling to try
again but she says she has done all her
thinking. She tells me she isnt going to
see this guy again but recently I can't
trust a word she says. We are still
living together & only last night slept in
the same bed (though not intimately)
i love her very much & the thought of
breaking up is killing me, not least at
the thought of what this will do to our
kids. She has agreed to come to
counselling but i'm afraid her heart will
not be in it to make any impact. I want
to win her back but not at the expense of
prostituting myself so I end up with no
life.
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cphilyaw
Experienced User , Rather EHEALTHy
Joined: 24 Nov 2004 Posts: 95 Location: North Carolina
Posted: 09-02-05 14:37pm
My first advice for you guys would be to
go see a counselor but you said she didnt
want to. So my opinion is this.... If
she doesnt want to fix it and only does it
because of you then eventuall it will
revert back to the same ol' thing. She
has to fix her marriage for not only you
and the children but herself. And if she
doesnt want to then count you loses before
you lose more trying to hang on. And if
you two are not going to work things out
then one of you two need to think about
moving out.
