My Fiance' Has Lost Her Sex Drive! Posted: 08-31-05 16:48pm
I am new to this site so hopefuly someone
out there can give me some helpful
insight.
I am 29 and my fiance is 23. We have a
11 month old baby together. Ever since
she got pregnant she has completely lost
her sex drive. No kissess, hugs, holding
hands, sex...Nothing! I don't know what
to think. She says she has no idea why
she has lost all interest. I think to
myself,am I not attractive to here
anymore? Could there be someone else she
is getting satisfied from? Is there
anything I can do to "fix" this? She is
open to suggestions...Possibly a herbal
supplement that might help? Any
suggestions would help. Thanks!
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angelicaforever
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 20 Jul 2005 Posts: 12 Location: hayward
What I Suggest Posted: 08-31-05 19:43pm
She might hae someone else or she lost her
interest for u..It would be normal to
loose ur sexual famish but not normal
tostop the kisses and it doesn't hve to do
with her oregnancy.U might want to ask a
doctor and he will tell u the same...Even
a little kid will hig u and kiss u why
doesnt she?? Talk to her..Maybe she will
not admit whats really going on. But it
can be that because its incredibly
impossible to loose desire for kisses and
hugs unless you totally dislike that
person. I believe that sexual interest
can be taken away but not kissing and
huging thats a task any person of all ages
does and does not loose for a true loved
one.
Observation would be the key!
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luv4kyle06
Experienced User , Rather EHEALTHy
Joined: 27 Aug 2005 Posts: 82 Location: pennsylvania
Posted: 09-01-05 05:18am
I disagree...She may be going through some
sort of depression or post pardem
(spelling) I was once like this with my bf
and it took me along time. I really
couldent explain why I dident want him
touching me,kissing me,hugging me,holding
me....I just dident want anything from
him. My advice to you is just be there
for her and give her support...I realize
its hard on you because you have needs
too.But in the long run she will respect
you more for just being there. She will
come out of this trust me. Good luck!
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x0x011
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Joined: 10 Jul 2005 Posts: 294 Location: ,
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Posted: 09-01-05 09:50am
I disagree as well. It's probably not you
at all. She may have something wrong
with her hormones from the pregnancy and
birth, which is causing her to lose her
sex drive. Sometimes after having a baby
a women just doesnt feel good about her
body (added weight, stretch marks, etc.)
she may even still have some pain from
penetration due to the birth. Not to
mention all the stress that comes with a
baby, and sleepless nights, it's hard to
get in the mood really easily. She may
also have a fear of getting pregnant again
so soon. All these things can drive a
woman away from sex, and even every form
of affection. Give her some time, maybe
get a baby sitter for the night and take
her out for a romantic dinner, always
support her, and reassure her that she is
beautiful even with those added pounds and
stretch marks. If she doesn't come around
eventually see a doctor to make sure her
hormones are okay, and if she is
physically normal, see a sex therapist.
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mpro
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 31 Aug 2005 Posts: 6
Thanks! Posted: 09-01-05 16:09pm
Thank you all for your input. I just
needed to hear a womans perspective. I
will give her time and try to hang in
there. Thanks again!
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