Don't get down although its very normal I too lost a baby last year on christmas eve 2004 and it would have been my 1st. It is hard to see other people pregnant or hear about them having there baby and how old yours would be if it would have lived!! Been there but I have done everything to not get so down in the dumps and not have faith and pray to god every night!! He does listen girl and ya know what ....It took 8 months but I am pregnant again I just found out and my 1st appointment is sept 7th. I am excited and scared I try everyday to not worry about a thing and stress out...I thank god every night for blessing me and I ask him to bless me with a full~term pregnancy amd I have faith that he will!
Although this time I have to do it on my own my boy~friend left me but thats ok! I am strong and will not let his sorry ass bring me down!!!
So you cheer up!! Talk to me if you want i'd like that!!! And I know you will get blessed too I will pray for you!!!
My name is jen and i'm here for you!!!

hi askara,

just remember one thing, u r not alone in this world. There are more women out there with miscarriages and have their sisters or friends pregnant at the same time like u n me.

I was 2 month pregnant with my good friend pregnant a week apart. When I miscarried I felt hopeless. From the family I come from, my husband's family were wondering why I miscarried. My mum-in-law kept talking about other ladies in the family getting pregnant and everyone asking when it was my turn. My husband is the only child and so she is upset that there is no good news. When I got pregnant last year, she went around making a fool out of herself. Then within a short time, it died. She kept asking me whether my mum had problem conceiving n I said "no!" she has 3 children. Unlike her, her first child was still born and the second child is my husband and then after that she tried but no other children.......

U c, I went through hell with people's mouth, my mum-in-law told me to go for indonesian massage to make my womb stronger and asked me to eat all kinds of things. To the extent, I told myself that if I ever wanted a child again, it should be becoz I and my husband want it n not to prove others that I am fertile.

I was really pissed off. Even the sorrow of loosing a baby was not so much but the anger at my mum-in-law was great.

Presently, I am trying for my first child n my good friend had delivered a healthy baby girl. But everytime, I think about her child, I get reminded of my lost.

Now I am stronger at mind n soul, I am looking forward to getting pregnant unless, god has other plans for me...

So cheer-up dear and start trying when u r ready and when u really want the baby, u will get one.

We can do it together......... Step by step...........
Have faith dear!

hi jen,

dun worry much now!
U have got it started again with ur good news of being pregnant after a loss. Congrats! God is there and he will protect ur baby. Let us know when ur due date is............ I am here, if u need a listening ear.

Lalitha here. Take care!

Thank you so much.

You dont know how much what you said means to me. I feel betetr today, but its ngonna be a while before I can see her or her kid. I am happy for her I really am, but as you said every time I saw her I saw what I should be.

When we have more money we wil have a herd!

Thats the spirit.

I will make a confession! I have not visited my good friend whom just gave birth, the one I mentioned. Becoz it is truly hard, I will be in tears, not becoz I am jealous but I am afraid of what I would feel and what others would think of my feelings and oh god!

I guess u will understand. It's hard to explain....... Feelingsss..... Especially when u really want a baby n in other parts of the world people r dumping their babies.........