How Worried Should I Be (possible Pediphile Boyfriend!!)

What proves that your it was your boyfriend looking for this? Maybe it wasn't him. But don't directly yell at your brother or father or anything lol.

I suggest to not talk about it. You weren't supposed to sneak around to find that anyway. Even then it's not because he watched some childs that he's a pedophile. And there's also not necessarily a link with you.
I sometimes surprise myself surfing on rotten.Com, and I hate those kind of pictures. Or a site about spiders (i hate them too). I was just curious, even if I don't like it. Maybe it was the same case for him. Just curious. Temporary.

Just let it go for this time and erase your history. But if the problem occurs again you should ask him "i sometimes have weird searches in my browser. Do you know anything about it?"
or
you "make a search" in front of him and say like "oh, what's that? What does that mean?"

but anyway, as a guy, I really don't think it's a huge problem. Just some curiosity.




(info: for guys, internet and girlfriend are worlds of difference. There is mostly no link between them. When I watch some porn, I am not thinking about my girlfriend. At all. Not even like "would be cool if it were her and me". She just doesn't exist during that moment.
I think that guys have that special "switch" that can make them focus on one thing and forget all the rest. That's why guys forget birthdays, don't listen when there busy, and also are able to recover faster from bad news (because all they have to do is for example play a video game and they forget problems: focus on video game))

Is "happening a lot" like daily, weekly, monthly ... ?

And are those just sites with specific explicit child porn, or are they like normal news sites blaming child porn?

But okay if it happened before and several times with actual child porn, you should ask him. I'm not saying you're not safe but maybe you could help him stop this somehow.

Is "happening a lot" like daily, weekly, monthly ... ?

And are those just sites with specific explicit child porn, or are they like normal news sites blaming child porn?

But okay if it happened before and several times with actual child porn, you should ask him. I'm not saying you're not safe but maybe you could help him stop this somehow.

Sounds like you really have a problem with your boyfriend, blackwinded. Maybe you should really consider leaving him if he's doing all these things to you. On to the actual subject...
If he's looking at it often enough, it's 1. Not good for your relationship with him because you're losing trust and 2. Quite illegal to be owning any sort of child pornography. You really do need to talk to him about this, i'm pretty sure he doesn't realize you know. Good luck.

Speaking from experience, and very new and raw wounds. You should be very concerned. I found child pornography pictures on our computer of little girls about the same ages as you described. I confronted my husband and he said "not to worry about it." I later found that he had been burning CD's of these pictures and storing them in our house. As of 2 weeks ago, I also walked in on him sexually molesting my daughter and found out it had been going on since we first started dating. He is now in jail, and my daughter's, myself, and the rest of my family's lives have been turned upside down, and don't know how we will ever completely recover. If your gut tells you something isn't right, believe it. I should have done more earlier, and now I am living with guilt every day that I could have kept my baby safe had I done something when I first found out about the porn.

yeah no matter how you look at it child porn is wrong. No one regardless of age or gender should be exploiting children like that. Personally I would leave him. There has to be something up with his mental state to be wanting to look at kids. Maybe you could suggest counseling or talking to him about it to find out where this desire comes from and why he likes kids. Thats just wrong. Just remember though this isnt your fault or there is nothing wrong with you, its him that has the problem. If you have children be careful.

I hope the best for you.

Leonaa - stay strong for yourself and your daughter. Its a horrible thing that happened but you did not do that to your daughter. People are mean and evil and you had no control over the actions he took. Please try to forgive. You are a good mom, you stopped it when you knew something was wrong. Try counseling. I was abused as a little girl and couseling go me through it

Rosie,

Thanks for the support. My daughter and I are both in counseling. I actually went to talk to my husband yesterday in jail. I wanted answers as to why he would do this. He would not talk to me because the conversation was being recorded, and he seemed more scared that my daughter was going to hate him, and he was not going to get to see her than he was remorseful. I truly do not think he understands what has happened. Or at least he is telling himself that he did not do anything wrong. When I would talk to him about my daughter not understanding what was going on, the only reply he gave me was, "she knows more than you think she does." I'm sorry she was 4 when the sexual abuse started, I don't think a 4 year old knows how to have sex. Call me the crazy one.

Thanks to anyone who is reading this. It is helping me to get my mind back in to one piece and hopefully in time my daughter and I will get our life back on track.

This is a serious issue and it needs to be cleared up. But as mentioned, maybe it is not him?! I work with computers; I build, install and fix them and I know many times my "customers" have very provocative pop-ups because of spyware or a virus. This could also be the [better] reason for such things being on your computer.

Don't let it go. I think, to keep your relationship friendly, the best thing to do is catch him in the act (if he is actually doing it). Or, what may be better - there are programs out there that can discreetly capture computer activity, including what is showing on the screen.

I hope for the best.

P.S. I am very disturbed and sorry that such a thing came upon you and your daughter leonaa.

I don't know his characteristics, but just in case you should keep it to yourself for now, there are a lot of messed up people in this world, even if we swore we knew them. If he has such a secret, such a dangerous secret, there is no telling what even the best of us would do out of desperation. Better safe then sorry right?

The most I would do if I were in that position is get a black light and check for semen stains and the like around the area of your computer, keyboard, mouse to check if he has been sexually involved such as masturbation to these sites. It wouldn't say 100% that he has been masturbating to child pornography, he might have been doing it to regular porn or the chemicals you see through the black light might be something else. But it would increase chances significantly of what he is doing as compared to what you know now. However, you will need to act fast once you find out whether you catch him, etc, after that. I imagine it would already be difficult just being near him much less laying on the bed with him at night without this issue running through your mind.

but I am wondering, he found you, knowing you were underaged legally, and you two ended up together, if he truly is into child pedophilia was that his intent?

If you are going to confront him, confront him with some sort of a back up that is failsafe!