Wait and finish school.

I agree. Right now you really just need to have fun and be a teenager as long as you can. Once its gone its gone. And having a baby changes everything trust me.

All I have to say is:
are you living on your own?

If you are, is the place a safe environment?

Do you have a job?

If you had a job, could you pay all your bills?

Pay for food for you and the baby?

Have an education well enough to find a job that can support you and a child? (ex- working at (mcdonalds) is not suitable)

have a mate who will support you and your child?

If so, does he have a job/ suitable to support you and your child?


These are all things you have to think about before having a child.


The hospital bills, medications, cribs....And everything else on this list.


So, do you still want to have a child? Because im 21, and I know damn well that I can not support a child even though I work 40 hrs a week at a good job and have my own place because I cant even support myself. So this is a life changeing experience and I wish all teenagers would save theirself's from this stressfull situation.

Amen sister!!! Same here except I am not working though my hubby is and it is so dang tough!! I wanted a baby only bc we found out that we couldnt have one other wise I was going to wait for a while and I am 20yrs old. We were not ready but ready or not here she comes.. Seriously hunni you need to think about this I know I have already told you but you have your whole life ahead of you have fun be a kid. I know I sure wish I could sometimes.

Advice....Wait untill you can afford one and take care of it by yourself....

Yes wait! I am 17 and pregnant and its stressful. I cant say im not excited, cuz I am very excited. I am almost 6 months right now. My bf is 21 and he lives with his parents cuz he had been truckin so he never even thought about moving out but now since we have a baby on the way we want our own place...We went and checked out app. And a month rent is $400! Its crazy. My bf isnt workin anymore cuz he has to get back surgery in iowa city and im not working either, im tryin to get good grades in school and make sure I can graduate. Babies cost a lot of money and I think you really need to think about it. Its not just gonna be you anymore, its gonna be you and the baby. You cant just up and do whatever you want after the baby is born, you have to be there for him/her. I know im not ready, but I have to be and my bf is very supported. I love him to death and im glad its his baby. But really really think about having a baby........Lots of things change..

I would totally agree with everyone else. I am 23 yrs old, married & I have a 6 yr old stepson. He is a handful and just to imagine me being 17 again and wanting a baby. No!! That baby will take time, money, love & support from you and the father. Please wait until you get out of school, go to college, get your own place & get married. Good luck with your decision...

I would totally agree with everyone else. I am 23 yrs old, married & I have a 6 yr old stepson. He is a handful and just to imagine me being 17 again and wanting a baby. No!! That baby will take time, money, love & support from you and the father. Please wait until you get out of school, go to college, get your own place & get married. Good luck with your decision...

Nobody can really tell you what to do, but they can indeed give you some advice. My advice it to wait!



I got pregnant at 15 by my bf of 2 years. I turned 16 in aug, married in nov (shotgun wedding), and had daughter in dec. Of course there were promises of nice house with white picket fence, etc. Before this.

His parents found us an apartment. They paid the rent for us. Well he never would get a job. I had to apply for government assistance just to help get the bills paid!

The pressure of having to be responsible for a family was too much for him I guess (he was 19). He started drinking more and more. This led to fights, which in turn led to him start emotionally and physically abuse me.

All the while I conitinued going to high school. My mother was a stay-at-home mom, so she watched my little one so I could do this. One day she had the flu and couldn't. I couldn't miss anymore days of school or be late again otherwise I wouldn't graduate. My only choice was my husband. I woke him up and told him he had to watch the baby. When I got home from school my little girl was still in her crib, screaming her little head off. She had the same bottle I had left her with that morning, now soured. She was soaked through, soaking the sheets. That was the last straw.



On two other occasions when he was drunk he threw a knife at me, which stuck in the wooden door an inch from my head. At yeat another time he went to hit me while I was holding the baby. When I went to turn away he got the baby instead.

I finally broke down and told my parents about the abuse, etc. And they allowed me and the baby to move back home.

All through this I was eventually alienated from all my friends. My parents would never watch the baby so I could go out. Only so I could attend school. My friends eventually just stopped calling because they had their on lives, and knew I wouldn't be able to go out anyway.

While I do not regret having such a wonderful daughter, I definately regret getting pregnant so young. I never got to do all the normal things teens get to do. I had to be an adult with responsibilities. I often look back and wonder what a normal life would have been like for me. Dating, dances, parties, having fun, a normal college life. I seldom got to participate in any of those things.

Yes, babies seem like such fun, like little "dolls" to be treasured. They are anything but! So much responsibility. So much stress! So much money! These are the things you need to think about before getting pregnant. Will you be able to handle all the bad along with the good? The screaming/crying for hours on end when the baby has cholic and nothing you do seems to help it? When all you can do is sit down and cry yourself, feeling helpless? How about physically, financially, emotionally? Do you have a strong support network of friends and family that will help you out if needed?

I agree. I am so sorry you had to go through all that.

You seem to forget about the love of children. I know that taking care of a baby will be hard but I have friends and family who would love to help with my baby. My mom will make a wonderful grandma. She is a stay at home mom and she would be there so I can finish school and go on to college.

Definitely wait. You still need to experience being young. You aren't even 18 yet! Seriously, I think you need to reconsider. However, if you really feel you could, then that power is with you. We are here to give you advice, but only you know if you can or can not support a baby. Just out of curiosity, why do you feel the urge to have a baby so young?

Yes love of children is there, and for that reason you need to wait. You mom and family may not always be there for you and your child. My sister got pregnant right after she turned 18. She had 4 months to go until graduation. She almost did not graduate because of the days she missed for dr appts. And morning sickness. She thought his family was going to be there for her. Yeah right.

When you are trying to build a family you have to do it by yourself with you spouse. It is not up to your family to raise your child. You can't give others your responsibility. It's not right. And above all else you cannot just look 2 years into the future, a child is a lifetime commitment and they grow up. Do you want your child to get an education? Do you want you child to have all necessities and then some?

You really need to think about your decision. I got together with my husband when I was 17 and him 18. I moved in with him 4 days before my 18th birthday. I am now 23 and him 24, and we are barely starting our family. We now know we can afford everything for ourselves without having to ask for govt assistance or our family. It's not their responsibility it is ours.

Nancy

Trust me on this my sister got pregnant at 17 and it was the worst thing she could have ever done. She has 2 kids and doesnt treat them like her kids more like burdens in her life. Just wait until you are out of school, have a good job and you are married to a responcble man.

Did your sister get preggo on purpose or accident. I think that would make a big difference. I would never treat my child as a burden.

Amen!!! They are mircales I dont care what people say..

Yes my sister did get pregnant on purpose. She realized that after my nephew was born that she couldnt run around and have fun anymore it was all about the baby. Most all her friends ditched her even the guy who said he loved he so much he wanted to marry her. So just wait its will be best for you and your future baby.

Hi I'm 16 and my fiance and i are planning on having a baby and we might have just done so today. I understand how confused you are right now. i am too. i mean it was our desicion. and i was the one who wanted this. I believe that i am ready for a child. But in the end it's up to you. so follow your heart and you will know

have you thought this through?
what are your plans?
do you have a steady job?
It costs an average of 30,000-40,000 to raise a baby.
Are you going to put all that on your mother and the rest of your family?
Who's going to take you to and pay for hospital visits, hospital fees to delivery your baby, vaccines/immunizations, medicine if your baby gets sick, diapers, clothes, toys, food/formula, etc.
Is your boyfriend ok with this? what does he think, or is he just going with the flow?
Did you know that in some cases of teen pregnancies the fathers end up leaving when the baby is born or even deny that the baby is theirs?
Have you talked to your mother about this decision your planning on making? What would she think, do you honestly think she will jump up and down and be estatic about you wanting to become a mother at 17?
Ask any teen on here who became pregnant, im sure they will tell you that at first their parents were upset and disappointed when hearing the news.
I know mine were, and they may still feel that way now.
why not finish high school, get a job that you love, put money aside so you are financially ready to have a child and give that child all the things he or she needs.
Dont you think your child deserves that?