I Really Need Some Advice Posted: 09-09-05 20:02pm
Okay.. I'm 17 and I have been with my
boyfriend for about 3 months. About 3
days ago I found out that I was pregnant.
I am not sure if I want to keep it, or
have an abortion. Most of the reason that
I would have the abortion is because I
wouldnt want to dissapoint my mother.
She and I both have such big plans for me
in life, and her biggest fear was me
getting pregnant. It kills me that I
wont be able to go off to a university and
start like i've been planning my whole
life, but then again.. These are my
actions that I need to live with. I know
that my boyfriend and I have only been
together for a short time, but I honestly
do love him. And I know most people
would say i'm young and dont know what
love is, but i'm a lot more mature than
most people my age... I've had to grow up
fast, and I do know what love is when I
feel it. To me, age is a number... I've
always felt older just trapped in my body.
I know that I won't be able to stay here
with my mother if I do tell her, I wouldnt
want to anyways... I couldnt watch her
look at me in pain everyday. She's always
told me there would be no help if this
happened, it's either abortion or get out.
Ever since I was a little girl i've
always been against abortion. I'm lost
What do you want, it's not important what
other people think, because it's your
baby,thats inside of you which makes it
your decision.
Your baby already has a heartbeat.
Let me tell you something. I'm 17 and am
5 months pregnant. I'm still in school
and am going to college. When people say
getting pregnant will ruin your life and
keep you from school. That's a myth, you
quit school because you want too. If you
really wanted to succeed in life, you'd
set your mind to it and do what you want
to do, not what people tell you how you're
life is set out for you.
You don't need you're mom for support. In
my state you can move out at 17, and if
you have a baby or if you're pregnant.
The state pays for you a place to live and
provides food for you. I'm sure there is
some type of benefit for you, if it's
needed.
I was worried about what my family would
say,who wouldn't worry?? But my mom and
dad have really warmed up to it.
I don't believe in abortions neither, but
it did cross my mind when the test came
back saying I was. I went to the doctor
and heard the heartbeat and started
crying. Anything that has a heart feels
pain, it's no different than killing a
person like you and i.
If you want to talk more just send me a
private message.
I definitely don't generalize; I don't
consider all 17 year-olds immature. I
conceived my first child at 17 and he is
now 6 years old. His father and I had
been dating for a year when we found out I
was pregnant. We are married now and have
2 beautiful boys!
You have to do what's in your heart...
Not what one tells you to do. I
understand you're confused and very
stressed. I wish I could ease your mind,
but I can't.
What does your bf think of all this?
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bambamboom
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 07 Sep 2005 Posts: 5 Location: Deltona
Posted: 09-09-05 20:24pm
I cant stay on, my parents just got home
and I dont want them to see this. But he
told me that it's up to me, that he'll be
here no matter what, hes being way more
caring and supportive than I ever thought
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bambamboom
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 07 Sep 2005 Posts: 5 Location: Deltona
Posted: 09-09-05 20:26pm
Do you think that I can have both of your
e-mail addresses so I can talk more about
it with you?
