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Q: Sex Advice
asked by: Sam-J-J on September 12th, 2005
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Hey.

I have been seeing my girlfriend for around 4 weeks now. Obviously very soon we will be getting onto more sexual activites, most particularly penetration...

This will be my first time, however it will not be for her, and she has quite a bit more experience than me. Obviously this makes me quite nervous when it'll eventually come to it...

Can anybody give me any tips to make sure I don't mess it up :roll:

any key do's or dont's?

Also, anybody got any good tips for other sexual activites? Like when I give her oral, or penetrate her with my fingers etc.

Thanks in advance.
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br56l replied on September 12th, 2005
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Hey man, just thought i'd give you a few tips from my experience, its all about confidence, don't be nervous that shes more experienced than you, and try to keep your mind off it and focus on her, keep plenty of eye contact with her. Take things slowly until you have an idea of what feels good for her, some girls don't like deep penetration etc so play it by ear! If you guys are quite open about things, jst ask her about how it feels, whether she'd like to try and different positions and so on. The best thing about good sex is the ability to talk to each other about things, that way you can find out more about each others desires and end up having mind blowing sex. Trust me!

Dunno if this is what you were after but hope its been sum help
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cd998776 replied on September 12th, 2005
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Confidence is key! :wink:
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Sam-J-J replied on September 13th, 2005
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Thanks to both of you, i'll keep your points in mind.

Anybody else? :)
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cinderella replied on September 13th, 2005
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Hi
You should ask what she likes...Because every woman is a different world
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ProZackMI replied on September 14th, 2005
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sam-j-j wrote:
thanks to both of you, i'll keep your points in mind.


Anybody else? :)


i'm going to assume you're both young. Make sure you let her take the lead when it comes to penetration and only do it when you're both ready and you're both protected. You want to make it as enjoyable and stress free as possible. When you enter her, go slow...Give her lots of kisses and affection. Use her name, maintain direct eye contact, and focus on her feelings. Make sure once your penis is in her, you go in and out slowly, but keep a good pace. Make sure it feels good for you and for her. Ask her if it hurts. Ask her if it feels good. If it doesn't feel good, keep moving around and keep asking until it does feel good for her. Once you get into it, make sure you're getting her off too. Don't cum inside her, pull out before you shoot, and then jack the cum out of you and let her see it so she knows what it looks like and about how much squirts out from you when you blow.

Also, make sure you are squeaky clean. Women love a guy who is clean. Before you have sex, make sure you have gone to the bathroom (both urinating and defecating). Be completely empty. Take a thorough shower and wash every part of your body, including your butthole, and make sure you're so clean you shine. Spray yourself with axe or some kind of body spray. Make sure your penis, testicles, and anus are especially clean. If you have problems with getting too excited and cumming too fast, masturbate a few hours before your date. Show her your body and let her explore you. There is nothing more erotic than having your girl examine your penis, balls, and anus. It's great when she puts a finger inside of you, rubs you down and is curious about you. It's great to do the same with her.

Try these things and it'll be great. Good luck.
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moemoe20006 replied on September 14th, 2005
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I Have a Big Problem I Need Help!
Hi my name is moses and I have a big problem because I have this specal girl and my life and I love her but she still a virgin im not but my problem is I come to fast why is that? Also I want to go down on her I want to know how can I eat her vagina right?
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Sam-J-J replied on September 15th, 2005
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prozackmi wrote:
i'm going to assume you're both young. Make sure you let her take the lead when it comes to penetration and only do it when you're both ready and you're both protected. You want to make it as enjoyable and stress free as possible. When you enter her, go slow...Give her lots of kisses and affection. Use her name, maintain direct eye contact, and focus on her feelings. Make sure once your penis is in her, you go in and out slowly, but keep a good pace. Make sure it feels good for you and for her. Ask her if it hurts. Ask her if it feels good. If it doesn't feel good, keep moving around and keep asking until it does feel good for her. Once you get into it, make sure you're getting her off too. Don't cum inside her, pull out before you shoot, and then jack the cum out of you and let her see it so she knows what it looks like and about how much squirts out from you when you blow.


Also, make sure you are squeaky clean. Women love a guy who is clean. Before you have sex, make sure you have gone to the bathroom (both urinating and defecating). Be completely empty. Take a thorough shower and wash every part of your body, including your butthole, and make sure you're so clean you shine. Spray yourself with axe or some kind of body spray. Make sure your penis, testicles, and anus are especially clean. If you have problems with getting too excited and cumming too fast, masturbate a few hours before your date. Show her your body and let her explore you. There is nothing more erotic than having your girl examine your penis, balls, and anus. It's great when she puts a finger inside of you, rubs you down and is curious about you. It's great to do the same with her.


Try these things and it'll be great. Good luck.


hey thanks for the tips, that really helps.
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vanessalouanne replied on September 16th, 2005
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there is nothing more erotic than having your girl examine your penis, balls, and anus. It's great when she puts a finger inside of you, rubs you down and is curious about you. It's great to do the same with her.


i'm sorry but I have no desire to my fingers inside a mans problem. Maybe that's just me though.
Seeing as how you are trying to please a women, I think you need a womens opinion. The clit is key...Always pay attention to her clit!! Oral sex and actual penetration both. Also dont be afraid to try different positions. Sex is such an intimate thing that every woman is different..Asking her what she likes and doesnt like is a great thing to do... It wills how you have her best interest at heart.
Good luck. And dont be ashamed that it's your first time. That could be a turn on in itself to her.
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KiareKiare replied on September 21st, 2005
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Don't be afraid to ask her what she likes. If you let her tell you then you won't be questioning if she's enjoying herself.
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