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kikagonzalez69
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Does Anyone Regret?
Posted: 09-14-05 14:58pm
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Does anyone regret getting preg. At a
young age? I mean, because of problems
with the baby daddy, parents, or school?
I don't regret it, but I sure wish this
could've came at a future time. Im 18 and
just started college. My boyfriend and I
are having major problems. I cry almost
every night worrying about becoming a
single mother and not being able to give
my baby everything she deserves.
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young_mom
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Location: Canada
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Posted: 09-14-05 15:18pm
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Hey, i'm 16, and 5weeks, I know not that
far but still kind of a big deal. I don't
regret it, but I wish it would have been
later in life, but that was my own fault,
but I love my baby all the same, no matter
who old I am. I have no problem with the
dad me and him are still together, he is
more happy then I am. He just wants to
tell everyone. And no problem with school
I do it at home. But the problem lies
with my grandparents they don't know. And
I don't know how to tell them, I live with
them so I have to tell them some
point...
But you need to think about you and the
baby, if something happens and he doesn't
want to be there always think that it is
his loss... Becase is that happenes you
will meet someone one who is great with
you and your baby. Thats all you should
think about. Yes I understand it is
probley very veyr hard for you right know.
I know i'm not much help but I did the
nest that I can. Jsut try to make the
best of it and sit down with him and talk
about everything and see how he feels
about everything that is going on...
Sorry again that i'm not much help but I
tried...
~ashley~
pm anytime if you would like!
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kikagonzalez69
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Posted: 09-14-05 15:32pm
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| young_mom
wrote: | hey, i'm 16, and 5weeks, I
know not that far but still kind of a big
deal. I don't regret it, but I wish it
would have been later in life, but that
was my own fault, but I love my baby all
the same, no matter who old I am. I have
no problem with the dad me and him are
still together, he is more happy then I
am. He just wants to tell everyone.
And no problem with school I do it at
home. But the problem lies with my
grandparents they don't know. And I
don't know how to tell them, I live with
them so I have to tell them some
point...
But you need to think about you and the
baby, if something happens and he doesn't
want to be there always think that it is
his loss... Becase is that happenes you
will meet someone one who is great with
you and your baby. Thats all you should
think about. Yes I understand it is
probley very veyr hard for you right know.
I know i'm not much help but I did the
nest that I can. Jsut try to make the
best of it and sit down with him and talk
about everything and see how he feels
about everything that is going on...
Sorry again that i'm not much help but I
tried...
~ashley~
pm anytime if you would
like! |
well, my bf is very excited and anxious
too. He's already bout so many baby items
and i've only bought a pair of booties!
(i'm 28 wks) I know he is happy about the
baby; his mom just past away, he doesn't
have a dad nor brothers or sisters. So he
considers her his only family. Next month
we'll have 4 years together. I think it's
just me though. I just want him to be
more affectionate, more caring, and more
close. He says he is, and that I just
have mood swing problems!
Maybe I do argue a lot, but it's only
because I need him more now. Should I
continue to try to make things better? Or
is this relationship just too old that our
love is falling?
Help!
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young_mom
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Location: Canada
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Posted: 09-14-05 15:47pm
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Hey,
you know with being pregnant I have heard
from like my moms friend and that she said
that with most women who are pregnant they
feel people arent that close to them, and
they want them closer because she said its
kind of a scary point in your life. A lot
of it might be mood swings. I would say
work on it becasue after the baby gets
here you might find he is there for you
more then what you thought. And it sounds
like you and the baby are all he has, but
with his mom passing away, he probley
still feels from that. So it will be hard
for him. But at this time in life you
both need to be there for eachother. You
shouldnt be sitting up at night crying, or
anything else. Yo should need to make the
best of things right now. And when she
gets here you might find it will being you
and your boyfriend alot closer. 4years is
along time, but the stress of a new baby,
could be alot of it for both of you. So
just work on it. And when she gets here
see what happens. But just try to tell
him that you feel you need him more then
you feel he is right now and if he says he
is, then just say to him, that you feel he
isn't that much and see what he says. But
at this time you need eachother more then
anything. I wish you both the best of
luck.
Again sorry if I didn't help that much.
~ashley~
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kikagonzalez69
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Location: Houston, Tx
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Posted: 09-14-05 15:52pm
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Again sorry if I didn't help that much.
~ashley~[/quote]
actually, you've helped a lot. As I was
reading your message, I realized you're
right. I should think more positive and
try to make things better instead of just
crying it out. You're right. I guess I
just needed someone to say something
positive in order for me to gain strenght
again.
I really appreciate your advice.
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young_mom
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Posted: 09-14-05 17:31pm
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Hey, i'm really happy that I could be some
help to you.
Good luck with everything. And if anytime
you need to talk pm me...I'm always happy
to talk, about anything thats bugging
you...
~ashley~
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DaliciaLynn
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Posted: 09-14-05 17:59pm
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I didn't plan my pregnancy, but wish it
could of happend later in life. I've had
to change a lot of plans for my future,
that I wish I could of gotten finished
before I had a baby.
Now since I am pregnant and am due in feb.
I wouldn't change it for anyone or
anything. I can't imagine myself without
my baby.
=)
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mumof2
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Posted: 09-15-05 06:27am
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I regret having my children....... I was
not emotionally or phycially prepaired for
what I am going through right now........
Thats not to say that I dont love my
children........ But any one who says
they have no regrets about what they have
done is a fool............
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jaydynsmomi
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Posted: 09-15-05 09:46am
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health question!? Everyones supposed to
be like you and regret having their kids?
I dont think so!
How can u regret such a beautiful being?
Do you have d.S.S in australia?
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babyrae
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Posted: 09-15-05 13:16pm
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I wish I would have waited later..
(keyword wish.. Not regret) becuz there
is no way I can regret bringing my baby
girl into this life. But I wsih I woulda
waited and finished my school. But sh**t
happens!
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young_mom
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Posted: 09-15-05 15:08pm
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Mumof2 how could you say that you regret
your kids... How could anyone ever say
that. God there are girls 14- and up that
have kids young that would never sit there
and say that you reggret them. And you
call your self a mom, god i'm 16 and due
in may I may not be that far but I would
never sit here saying I regret him or
her.... I mean I could see if you said
you wish you would have waited later but
never the word regret... Do you sit there
and tell your kids that? Like god...
What kind of mom are you...
Not to start anything, but really...
~ashley~
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mumof2
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Posted: 09-15-05 20:48pm
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There is a difference between having
regrets and not wanting/ loving your
children...... Try reading it with grown
up eyes......... I said I regret having
my kids....... I didn't say I don't love
them....... I do believe the question was
do you regret having kids at a young
age........... Not do you regret having
kids at all......... I have post natal
depression....... So yes I do regret
having my kids...... I did not say I wish
I didnt have them....... But when I
think about what I go through every day
and what my children have to go through
every day I do think I would have been
better prepaired if I was older........
So I stand here proud and say I regret
having my children at a young
age........... I also say I love my
children
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BrianBaby
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Posted: 09-16-05 14:22pm
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| babyrae
wrote: | | i wish I would have waited
later.. (keyword wish.. Not regret)
becuz there is no way I can regret
bringing my baby girl into this life.
But I wsih I woulda waited and finished my
school. But sh**t
happens! |
me too except my baby boy*
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mama17
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Posted: 09-18-05 10:32am
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I don't regret nothing even though I lost
her father I don't care I love my baby
girl
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mommytobe16
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Location: ottawa, ontario
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Posted: 09-19-05 13:56pm
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No I don;t regret getting pregnant at a
young age, I am happy with my 6 month old
little girl,she is the best thing that
ever happened to me
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Kourtney08
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Posted: 09-19-05 21:01pm
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| mumof2
wrote: | | i regret having my
children....... I was not emotionally or
phycially prepaired for what I am going
through right now........ Thats not to
say that I dont love my children........
But any one who says they have no regrets
about what they have done is a
fool............ |
no, you're the fool for assuming everyone
should feel and think like you do.
medical question off.
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DaliciaLynn
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Posted: 09-19-05 21:24pm
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Have to agree with you on that one.
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Kourtney08
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Posted: 09-19-05 21:29pm
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Good. You better. Because i'm the
coolest.
Just kidding, of course.
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DaliciaLynn
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Location: Missouri
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mumof2
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Posted: 09-22-05 21:56pm
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Oh god.......... I forget that there is
no emotion behind the written word.......
And that ppl only read things the way they
want to......... Every one is intitled to
their own oppinion......... But to attack
some one because they are honest about
their feelings and how they think is
wrong......... No I dont tell my children
that I regret having them at a young age,
I tell them I love them, because I
do........ I made a mistake and I am
dealing with the conciquences of that
mistake........ Just because you have a
regret about doing something does not make
what you done wrong, it just means that
you are grown up enough to realise that
you have done something that not only
effects yourself but every one around
you......... (when I said "but any one
who says they have no regrets about what
they have done is a fool............" I
was refering to every thing in
life......... Not just having
children.......... Every one regrets
something, not saying something , not
doing something, not meeting
someone......... I regret having my
children at a young age because of what I
am going through at the moment..........
I don't expect every one to feel that
way....... I dont need to be attacked for
feeling that way either
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