In the beginning of my relationship w/ my bf, if I didn't offer anything, i'd get this "almost-silent-i-sorta-feel-upset" feeling from him but he'd always say nothing was wrong. But he didn't act the way your guy does. I made my bf get "used" to it. Get used to me saying "no" and sticking by it and make him see what I am trying to say. He has a high sex drive and mine is low, but I give him all the hand jobs he wants (to satisfy when I am not in the mood to give him something else.) you can try this also. Start seducing him w/ ur hand and finish him off. Ever notice how they start to act normal and less perverted once they "finish off?" :roll:


but maybe it's hard for you right now b/c you can't bear to see your guy upset and it makes you guilty. It did for me too at first, but you make him get used to it. Ask him why can't he just compromise with you? And yes, I think your guy is being selfish, but don't push your own self to do something you don't want to for someone else...All the time.


I hope you sorta understand what i'm trying to say. :wink:

Thanks jasmine, yeah it is really crazy when he pouts but denies anything is wrong but as soon as he "gets some" he is his old happy self. He has to realize what he is doing! But the fact that I do it when I don't want to makes me feel really resentful. And he refuses to masturbate, that's my job. :x I wish he would get used to it but we have been together for a year and three months so I don't think that's going to happen. :( he gets it 3-4x a week, most men would be happy with that! :roll:

I totally feel you. My husband wants to go at it at least once a day (which we usually do) I have a hypoactive thyroid which makes me have a lower sex drive. When im not in the mood he will make it out like I dont find him physically attracitve (which is totally not the case) and his feelings get hurt.
I admit that sometimes we have sex when im not in the mood, but for the most part I just try new things to turn me on. Like last night, my husband is in the military and it is a total turn on to see him in his uniform. I know this sounds so lame but I made him wear his cover ( his hat), and only his cover. For whatever reason, it did it for me.
Just maybe try new things that turn you on. I do believe that if we have a low sex drive, we need to put in some extra effort to satifsy our men (or women)
they shouldnt have to suffer from it and I do believe a healthy sex life makes for a healthy relationship.

I like to think of it as -- if he wanted sex sooo much and on those days that I can't give it to him, it's a test. It's a test to see how much he respects you and your needs. He's the one that should know that it's not "your choice" to not give sex. It's just our drive and our certain health conditions.

Some guys might cheat on girls because of this reason. And if he does cheat, I think i'd rather know this about him rather than stick with him for the duration of the relationship.

And i'm not too keen on the idea that sex defines a relationship. I wouldn't want to be a partner that thinks this way and only "lusts" me and when it comes down to it, he's only in the relationship for that certain reason.

Trust me, when you get married your going to realize that without a healthy sex life your not going to have a healthy marriage.