Joined: 01 Dec 2003 Posts: 2 Location: Charleston, SC
Finding a Partner With Hpv/genital Warts Posted: 12-01-03 12:31pm
I am a single 26 year old working woman in
need of a partner to share life with. I
was diagnosed with hpv a few years ago,
and I am wondering how someone like me can
find someone else with hpv. Normal
conversation doesn't bring a subject like
this up, and of course no one is just
going to offer this kind of personal
information. My gynecologist says that
if I meet 3 people...At least one of those
people has been exposed to hpv. I was
also told by my gynecologist that I can
still have a normal sex life, but I don't
want to take the chance of laying the
burden of this disease on someone else.
I might have a problem telling someone
about my hpv due to the fact that people
gossip like crazy, and this is probably
the most personal bit of information I
have ever held. I want a partner who I
don't have to take a chance of losing
after explaining my situation. I
certainly don't want to build a
relationship on lies by not telling them
at all, but I don't want to live the rest
of my life searching for a partner who is
in the same boat as I am. Are there any
groups I can visit to meet more people
like myself?
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andieb84
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 14 Nov 2003 Posts: 13 Location: Canada
Hpv Not the End of the World Posted: 12-06-03 08:27am
Hi ! I was diagnosed with hpv about a
year ago, and telling my bf was the
hardest thing I ever had to do. But just
because you have hpv doesn't mean that you
can only ever be with people that have it
as well. I mean, thank heavens for
condoms !! You're sexual health problems
are nobody's business but yourself. As
long as you're not harming anybody i.E.
Like having unprotected sex, you can be
with virtually anyone you want to be with.
Maybe this is something that you should
sit down and discuss with your gyno. You
know for a little support. But one thing
that I do know, is that although you carry
the hpv virus, it is not always active.
It does lay dormant, and one huge
misconception, is that hpv is not just
transmitted sexually, I mean you can get
it from public washrooms. So date, have
fun !! And date who you want to date.
Don't settle for anything but the best !!!
And don't feel bad, I felt the same way
too. We're all human and we can't help
the way we feel !!! But don't feel that
you can only date people that have hpv.
Hope this helps !!
