New Boyfriend Meeting the X Posted: 09-19-05 15:45pm
My boyfriend and I have been together for
6months. Both of us have dated people
but we are both each other's second real
boy/girl friend
my x and I are friends we have been
friends for 2years. We were best friends
before we dated. Recently the x came
into town and asked me to go out for a
drink. So we did. I told my boyfriend
that night that I did. He asked some
questions but took it fairly well.
Going into this I kinda knew he would be
upset but I didnt think it would all go
wrong, however it did. So the next day
he flipped. He's not the kind to be like
you can't ever see him again, he says he's
just "disappointed" is there anything
worse?
So we went to a movie that nite and as we
were leaving my x walks out of the same
theatre with 2 of his friends, what are
the odds? So my bf (boyfriend) just got
even more mad.
I know I am not all right but I don't
think I am all wrong either. It's not
like I tried to hide it from him and it
was just drinks. Also its not like this
was the first time in 3 yrs that I have
talked to my x we have been friends for
2yrs after a year and half of not
speaking, we both have moved on and we are
finally able to be friends again.
So how wrong am i? And how long should I
let him punish (i don't mean it in a slave
way) me?
Please help!
|
Galodis
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 13 Sep 2005 Posts: 17
Thanks: 0
Thanked:0
Posted: 09-25-05 21:14pm
Well I dont think it was cool that u went
to have drinks with ur ex... If ur going
to do that u and ur bf should go to have
drinks with ur ex. Yea u 2 may be friends
but think of it like what if his ex came
into town and he went out to have drinks
with her. U would be pissed. U dont have
to say one or the other is wrong. Id just
say dont do that again, because it hurts
ur bf even if he says it doesnt. Hope
this helps.
|
venus05
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 26 Sep 2005 Posts: 6 Location: school
Thanks: 0
Thanked:0
Re: New Boyfriend Meeting the X Posted: 09-27-05 00:14am
Well im kind of in the same situation, but
I think you should've told your boyfriend,
so he never has a reason to assume you
were off doing other things, if you both
have moved on I don't see why your
boyfriend couldn't have come with you, but
that's your choice, just tell him what's
going on and that will help him keep his
trust in you, you know it wasn't easy for
your boyfriend to hear that you were with
your ex, but you gotta tell him that he's
#1 in your life now and that it didn't
mean anything
|
wife2jason_mom2ryley
Experienced User , Rather EHEALTHy
Joined: 19 Sep 2005 Posts: 288 Location: Amherst VA
Thanks: 0
Thanked:0
Posted: 10-03-05 16:44pm
When I am in north carolina (where i'm
from) I go visit my ex and his family
because I was so close to them all. My
husband knows and at first he was a little
upset about it but know, he is okay with
it....He trusts me. Your boyfriend should
trust you as well. If your guy really
loves you, he'll get over it :wink:
The site is not a replacement for professional medical opinion, examination, diagnosis or treatment. Always seek the advice of your medical doctor or other qualified health professional before starting any new treatment or making any changes to existing treatment. Do not delay seeking or disregard medical advice based on information written by any author on this site. No health questions and information on eHealthForum is regulated or evaluated by the Food and Drug Administration and therefore the information should not be used to diagnose, treat, cure or prevent any disease without the supervision of a medical doctor. Posts made to these forums express the views and opinions of the author, and not the administrators, moderators, or editorial staff and hence eHealthForum and its principals will accept no liabilities or responsibilities for the statements made.
Schizophreniahealth
This page was last updated on April 1, 2008
