Swetty no one can tell you what to do. Only you can make that choice. But since you asked I will tell you my oppioun. I would do what my heart says which obvselly it says have the baby.


See when I was 17 I got pregnant and when I finally got back to the guy I told him and he refused to help me. Unlike you I didnt have my parents. I had my grandmother and friends. I choses to keep the baby which I lost within a couple of months. But you have to do what feels right and only you can make that choice.


In my oppioun no man is worth killing a baby over. But I think you should no almost everyone that is on the board is pregnant or trying to get pregnant. I am one of those people. I am 8 and 1/2 months pregnant but I do know where you are coming from that is why I want to help you. I may not like your decition that you ultimaly make but I will be a friend and be here for you.

Angel's right, follow your heart, and make your decision based on what you can live with.

One question to ask yourself is.... "if I were to abort, would I regret it for the rest of my life?"

also, I missed how old you are.

Talk with your family and see how much support they will give you...Ie: child care so you can finish school (which is sooooooooo very important) and make your decision once you know where your support network stands.

Good luck and god bless

thicncute

have your baby. It's your decision, and if you want to have your baby, then have it. Your man made the decision when he agreed to having sex.

If you have your life together financially, have a place to live, and transportation, you will be fine.

If you have any doubts about yourself wanting a baby, then think twice. But if the only reason is, is that your man doesn't want it, then think with your heart, and do what you want.

Screw him, he should have thought of this before he layed down...Imo

I agree. Whether or not to keep the baby should not be his decision. It is your decision, and your's alone. If he wants you to have an abortion, well too bad. If you want to have the baby then by all means do so. He will be obligated to pay child support even if he does decide to leave you. It is time for him to step up, grow up, and to be a man. If he didn't want to have this kind of responsibility then he should have not been having sex.

I think you should do what you want to do..Have the baby...He didnt care in the beginning....I am 18 and we are having a bad time I am against abortions...Plus I been wanting this baby for a year since I been with my now fiancee.:d (happy) u seem to really want this baby...Do it...If he cant be a man and understand that it takes two...Then leave him...I am not trying to tell you what to do...I was kinda in the same situation when I first found out....

Keep us updated:)

becky

I've known many women who have had abortions, and I will tell you that from the ones that have a heart and are caring people--they all regret making that decision. It is you choice not anyone elses, but if you feel any regrets don't go through with it. I'm pretty sure you can qualify for financial aide for school and that can help you pay for childcare. I also know that alot of schools have a child development center for students majoring in that field. It's like a little day care center for the kids. Look into that and check all your options before making a decision.

Nancy

I was the same age as you when I got pregnant, and my partner - only a few months older than myself- wanted me to have an abortion too. I couldn't do it. We had just moved in to gether, like two weeks previously. He was not working- well not paid work anyway, he had taken a year off to work on his music.

Long story short, I told him I couldn't get rid of our baby. She is now two years old, we are married, and expecting our second daughter in about 6 weeks- (planned this time). My now husband was just in shock, and frightened and that was his first re-action- make it go away!!!!!, but after a couple of weeks- well really just a few days, he accepted I would keep the baby, and we'd see what happened.

It's a big piece of news to hear for anyone whose not expecting it. Give him a chanc to digest the information, and let him know if you have decided for sure that you are keeping the baby, and abortion is not an option for you.
That's what I did- I knew I couldn't do it, so there was no point in arguing about the question of it. I told him whatever he decided, I was having the baby, with or without him and I would release him from legal responsibility if that's what he wanted.
I told him I would choose my baby over him - it was true, I really would have.
Luckily, I never had to.

I hope everything goes okay for you.
Take care
el.

I agree with el. How old are you?

Please dont abort your baby because of the way someone else feels. U will regret that later in life more than you may think.

Hey .... I am new at this site but hunny I know what your going through... Its hard when u love someone so much and u are used to them helping u make choices but when it comes down to having a baby they are all ready for it until it happens....Trust me I have a mommas boy too and I am in the same spot as u anyways.... Follow your heart...Look he is the one being selfish he is only concerned about his life not the little pride and joy thats in your tummy ... That baby didnt ask to be here , its so selfish of him to tell u to do that ... Look baby girl what I am trying to say is this is not just his child its urs too u made it .... The baby didnt ask to be here and its not ur childs fault its father doesnt want to be a man ... But dont take its life....All in all theres thousands upon millions of people tryint to have babys and they cant .. Look hunny u got what a lot of woman cant do ... Belive in ur self and follow your heart dont let anyone take you down! This is your baby not just for 18 yr but for the rest of ur life ! Just take everything one day at a time . I will be here for u and I am sure everyone else will too! If u ever need anyone to talk to someone will be here! Okay! Take care hun and follow your heart! ~shawna

Please dont have an abortion, and for someone else especially not.

God help here in jesus name

amen

Hun, its not easy but really if you don't want to have an abortion then don't...
Its not his body or his desision. Its yours. He really is an after thought, since you really don't want to abort.
As for him either he will come around or he won't. Theres alot of programs out there to help you, if you don't want the pressure of takeing care of the baby alone then look into addoption. Theres alot of options out there. You look into them and decide. Its not his choice. The only choice he has now is if you decide to keep the baby is wether or not he wants to be apart of your lives.
My real father made that choice, I still hope one day he will know that I still have a door open for him if he ever decides to be a part of my life and my kids. Just leave that door open for him. Thats really all you can do.
Now if you give up for addoption you don't have to abort, but you won't have that burden of trying to take care of him/her.

1. I say don't abort... If you have the slightest twinge of knowing you will feel guilty about it.

2. Give up for adoption. If you don't want to take care of a baby by yourself.

3. Keep the baby. You have support from your family and freinds. You can get more help then you know.

In the end its up to you.....

I've never had an abortion, but if there's one thing i've learned from friends is never abort for someone else, you will regret it for the rest of your life! Good luck!

We had a long dicussion and he is know coming to terms with my pregnancy. But I feel like absolute crap. My chest is killing me and I feel so much nausea. The beging stages of pregnancy is not cool at all.

No its not, but i'm glad he came around. Congratulations. I hope everything goes better for you as your pg progresses.