Hi angel...Don't know if I will be of any help b/c i'm not pregnant but i'd like to try...:-)

You must really be getting ready to have your little miracle. I think almost every woman, come the end of her pregnancy, just wants labor to happen so she can meet her new bundle of joy and get on with loving him/her. I know I stirred the pot earlier, but I am a really good listener if you want someone to talk to.

Leslie

Its ok. I dont really know what to say except I am so frustrated and I just dont know what to do anymore. All I do is cry and fight with my husband. I feel as though I cant do anything right for him any more. He is always telling that I am asking to much out of him well I am sorry but I just want to be with him. Yes I had a bad past but for the last three months it has been diffrent. I just dont know what to do. I am sorry but I didnt know who eles to talk to. I am getting depressed again see a month ago I came home from being in the hospital and I found our cat sheba dead. Then two days later we had to put her kittens down. I know to some its no big deal but now I feel so alone and it seems no one understands.

:cry: :cry: :? :( :oops: :?:

When's your next ob/gyn appointment? They can do things to start the ball rolling. One option is called "sweeping the membranes". This isn't very comfortable, but it can definitely get things started. I also think it's time to have a really good heart-to-heart with your hubby. Just let him know that you love him very much and you know it's been difficult for both of you the last little while. Let him know how frustrated and such you feel, but let him know that it's not him...It's hormones that are going nuts. Maybe watch a nice show together and just have some you time.... I think you may need it. I really hope that helps a little.... Arguing right now isn't good for you or the baby.... God bless

Thank you that helps alot. I have over and over again. I know it is me and not him. He has put up with so much so I am not mad at him at all. He is just frustrated right now and just needed to get all of that off his chest. He is just as tired as I am cause he is a teacher and in college plus a basketball coach so he is going through alot right now to.

I just dont know what to do about my slef I have tried to change but apperintly I am not doing a good job and will never change.

Pregnancy turns the best of women a little upside down.............All the hormone changes, its as well really, we are talking about preparing for a new life and a new responsibility...............It may be a ver natural thing, but its a major thing in your lives.

Don't be so hard on yourself.........If your partner is feeling so much, its right he is, even if you feel irrational, you are going through a major change in you life..................And its good!! Really good.

Try to rest as much as you can, and put your feet up as much as you can, literally put your feet up.

And dont feel guilty...................You need it.

Hope you are feeling a little less anxious now, cos it will only snowball...........Just accept how you feel is normal...........Cos it truly is.

Lots and lots of love..............
Lynda

"i just dont know what to do about my slef I have tried to change but apperintly I am not doing a good job and will never change."


you say you can't change, but you are a pregnant woman in her third trimester who is tired, uncomfortable and cranky :) before you say you can't change, at least wait until after your pregnancy hormones have settled and reactions are back to normal. For the mean time, try this..... When you want to have an angry reaction to your hubby, stop and take 2 deep breaths and really think about your reaction. You may be able to change the "sharp" reactions this way. If all else fails, you could try counselling to help learn new ways of dealing with issues, it really does help.

About the depression, please talk to your doctor about it at your next appointment, ok? It's very important that you do.

For now, i'm heading to bed cuz i've been up since 7 this am and it's now 10:30 and i'm tired! Think about what i've said, and I truly hope that I have helped you in some way. Night.

Leslie

Thank you.

See that is my point cause I have had concelling and obvesilly it didnt work. It has been this way for us for three yrs I just dont know what to do. I have talked with my dr and he sent me to a conciler but she has moved and now they dont have time for me they keep putting me off. My last appointment was back in july. I have called and they are always booked up. I just dont understand why all of this is going on and on.

I'm cranky and ... Well, let's say,...Curt (!) at the best of times. My husband has kind of gotten used to it, and I guess he knows when to just pay no attention, and just nod and smile, and murmur suppotively- i'll bet yours does too, but he's probably a little snappy himself, waiting for the baby.
It's hard on people when they wake up every single day thinking- this could be the day, then go to bed again wondering if they'll be woken up with labour tonight, and then the morning comes, and you're both at square one again.
It's hrad on you, but it's hard on him too- he'll be worried about whether you'll both be ok, whether he'll be somewhere you can reach him when it happens etc. Etc. Etc.
It's the suspence that's getting to you guys, it's nobody's fault. You are living your lives waiting for the bomb to fall!!!! No wonder you guys are edgy.
Just try to remember that the next two weeks will probably be the very last time you guys will have each other all to yourselves. As son as the baby is born, and forever after, you'll all have to share.
Rest while he's out, so you have some energy when he's there, eat together, use candles, drink champagne (it's hardly goig to hurt to have the odd glass at this stage) shower/bathe together and do all the things that are going to be pretty much impossible for a long time very soon !!!!!!
And, as my mum keep saying- put your feet up whenever you can -don't stand when you can sit and don't sit if you can lie.

Try to forget abou the "any day now" stuff -that will just wear you down(and you'll need all your strength very soon)-and focus on the date they've said they'll induce you. If it happens before then, well that'll be a nice surprise, and all well and good, but you can't live this day-to day life for the next two weeks because you'll be completely emotionly exhausted by the time anything happens.

Make the time untill the date they'll induce you count. Pretend that is the date you'll start your new job (unless they call you in sooner), and that you are on holidays until then.
I am sending you psychic support waves from over here australia !!!!! Promise me you'll send me some in a couple of weeks, 'cos i'm 34 weeks now myself, and right behind you !!!!! I am sooooooo sick of being pregnant.
Xxxx el.

If you want ot talk to someone talk to your baby
they respond very well even if they are in the stomach
sing to her and talk to her
it will give you great happiness
no wonder your baby will turn out to be beautiful and smart

Thank you both for replying to me. Yes I do realize that the saying anyday is what was wearing us both out. Every morning when I kiss my husband good bye for work he says I will have the cell on so call me if you need me. Then he waits by the phone while hes teaching. You know I hate that for him cause he need to focus more on his kids and not me trying to have the baby.
He comes home everyday early just in case that this could be the big day. I feel so bad for him.

Me I sit at the computer on this board waiting

Angel--whats up honey??

Hormones do some really strange things to us, so make sure he knows its not him and he will let it go. He loves you and he will understand. Im sure of it. Just reassure him how much you love him and that you dont mean to be crabby--and at the same time ask him to be more patient and understanding. It will be okay, when the babe brionna comes it will all seem like a bad dream, joy will fill the room and you both will never be the same again. Believe me ive been there 5 times now. My three and my 2 grand babys.

I am sorry this has been so stressful for you but it will pass--i promise.

I am closing up and packing my pc right now. You have my e-mail addy right. I love you angel--you and verypregnant take care of one another. Ill see ya when the babys come or directly there after.

Love always
mama

I love you to mama...
Thank you so much for all the support that you have been to me. I have really needed all of it. I will sure miss you. I hope that I get to talk to you again before the baby is born. But even if I dont then I will talk to you when I have her. As you know I hope its not that much longer.

To everyone else thank you so much I really do need the friends right now. Yes it sure is hard to be going through all of this.

Ok I need advice someone please help me

If I could find some of my old posts from this and my other forum, I sound exactly like you do. It';s normal to feel shitty at this point, even my doc said these are the times we have good excuses for being b*tchy.

Can I help ya with your latest dilemma??

Well I dont know. I dont know how much more I can take. I am finally broken. My husband and me have faught for two days. It first was about how misserable he has been with me for the past three yrs and now its because of porn and girls. I am sorry but I dont think I needed this bull crap right now. I am so tired of us fighting. Everytime I finally get over being depressed he has to start on me about something I dont care what it is just something.

I think now I understand why the baby isnt coming its cause we dont deserver her. I just dont understand anymore. I cant keep doing this same battel over and over again. I love the man I swear I do but why is it so da*n important that he gets to watch all these freaking girls and look at them online or even talk to them? Ok I understand he needs something besides me and expesially now but why all of this happing now?

He wants a puppet well finally he has one he can watch whatever he want and do what ever I am tired of fighting about it

Well that sure wasn't what me and mine were arguing about but we did argue constantly. Things changed as soon as trey came along though. Maybe your hubby will see the light once your daughter arrives and if not maybe you can go on a "break". Do u have family close by that you can go and stay with and get some help from? I know right now u feel like this baby is never coming but she will be here, be happy she'll be born full term as there will be less to no health probs! We're all here to chat so if you need anything please let me know!

I just feel like such a baby. He wont even talk to me. The last time we talked was around 6 last night. H woulnt talk to me this morning before he went to work either.