Three weeks ago I had a misscarriage. All
I can do now is cry. I will say im over
it but if I see anything that reminds me
of it all I do is cry. At first I thought
I could handle it because while I was
loosing my baby people were loosing every
thing they have ever owned in new orleans.
My boy friend dont know how to confort me
and I think I punish him for that by
trippin' daily. What makes it even worse
is all people can say to me is "its ok
your still young you can always have
another one" the way I feel is another one
isnt going to make up for this one.The
first time I heard the heart beat I was so
fasinated with it and right then I was in
love with something that was smaller than
my fist. I still love it and wish I could
have it back inside me. So is it normal
for me to feel what im feeling now?:(
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crusheddiamonds
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 22 Sep 2005 Posts: 24 Location: North East England
Yes It Is Posted: 09-24-05 21:29pm
Normal...................And it will take
a hell of a long time to calm down, from
losing a life time responsibility and
joy..............
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sad_eyes
Experienced User , Rather EHEALTHy
Joined: 19 Aug 2005 Posts: 96
Posted: 09-30-05 17:44pm
Hiya,
i am sorry to hear of the loss of your
child - I have never experienced a
miscarriage myself but I understand that
it can be a very traumatising event to go
through.
I believe that it is completely normal for
you to be still grieving after three weeks
of the miscarriage - as individuals we all
respond differently to loss in our lives
(different rates of grieving and the use
of different coping mechanisms to deal
with the loss).
Have you been offered any therapy at
all?
Have you talked to others that are in a
similar situation as you are? - if not it
may be of help if you use a forum based on
miscarriage. Or you could speak to
someone from the miscarriage association
through a method of communication of your
choice (email, phone etc). -
i'm unsure of how long it takes for your
hormones to return back to their normal
state - there may be a possibility that a
change in your hormones are also affecting
the way you feel at this point in time.
I wish you and your family all the very
best for your future,
take care.
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Lilypad
Extremely EHEALTHy
Joined: 10 Oct 2005 Posts: 1043 Location: Ohio, USA
So Sorry Posted: 10-14-05 05:16am
I lost a baby too. Its devatating. Even
though people are trying to say things to
make you feel better sometimes they are
hurtful.
I lost mine at 5 months. I dont think
anyone really can understand the pain
unless they have experienced it
themselves. My heart reaches out to you
sweetie. Email me if you need someone to
talk to.
Jamiefoster1122@sbcglobal.Net
