Should I Get On the Pill? Posted: 09-24-05 21:59pm
:arrow: I had a misscarriage like 3 1/2
weeks ago. My whole family didnt want me
to have the baby in the first place but I
wanted it. They are trying to make me get
on the pill whie my boy friend dosent want
me to. Hes 23 and im 18, I think thats
the prob. I want to have his baby but I
dont want my family to dis us. So should
I do what they want me to do or should I
follow my heart and begin my own family
with him.
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Rayne
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 22 Sep 2005 Posts: 7
Posted: 09-24-05 22:40pm
Having a baby is a total life-changer.
No more going out with your friends-- no
more loud late nights. Just make sure
you're ready to give up a huge part of
yourself-- and that your selfless enough
to be a dedicated mother. It's hard
work, and poses an entire lifestyle
change. Your life will no longer be your
life-- it will be your child. If you
aren't sure, then do not have a child--
you have the option to protect yourself--
and if you aren't ready then take the
chance. If your boyfriend is a wonderful
as you think he is, he will respect your
decision. Best of luck.
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nicolem
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Joined: 20 Jul 2005 Posts: 46 Location: Minnesota
Re: Should I Get On the Pill? Posted: 09-25-05 23:40pm
I agree with the other. If you do decide
you want to have a baby, do you and your
boyfriend have full time jobs and a home
to raise the child in? Are you going to
go to college? One thing I noticed is
that you said your boyfriend doesnt want
you on the pill and your family does.
Well, your family is prob worried about
you and the child that would be coming
into the world, but its your body, so your
boyfriend really shouldn't have any
objection to you being on the pill,
especially if he loves you. Also, have
you two thought about marriage? And if
the line we arent ready for that comes to
mind, you are definately not ready to
raise a child together. I don't mean to
nag, just want to be sure that you are
thinking everything through, not only
thinking of yourself, but of an innocent
child that has no say in the matter and
will depend on you for everything. I wish
you the best of luck in everything!
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Saniya
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 24 Sep 2005 Posts: 11 Location: Texas
Thanks Posted: 09-26-05 19:54pm
Thanks for the help. Yeah he has his own
apt. And we both have jobs. I really
dont go out. At first I thought I wanted
to have a child because I was lonely but I
realized that it was selfish for me to
bring someone else into the world for my
own feelings. That was when I was like 16
though. I honestly do feel like I have
grown and I am attending college in
january so everything will fall in place.
I can see myself spending the rest of my
life with him. He upsets me sometimes but
what relationship dosent have probs. Hes
still my heart. I never had a dad and he
knows how it feels to have one so I know
even if we didnt work out he would still
be there for his child.
Thanks please
reply
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nicolem
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 20 Jul 2005 Posts: 46 Location: Minnesota
Re: Thanks Posted: 09-26-05 20:42pm
Its great that he has a job and an
apartment, but do you live with him? I
would seriously consider marriage before
the kids come, too many people these days
do it the other way around. If you cant
afford to get married, you really cant
afford a baby. Does he feel the same way
about you as you feel about him? You
should definately be ready for a huge
commitment if you believe you are ready
for a baby. Especially if you are going
to college soon. Even with financial aid,
tuition can be well over $500 a semester
and that is for a cheaper tech college.
And wic doesnt buy diapers... So I guess
as well as being emotionally stable, you
need to be absolutely sure that you and
your bf are financially stable. Yeah, you
can have a baby without a lot of money but
its better for everyone if you have some
to spare. Its great that you are asking
advice before jumping in with both feet,
but I hope you seriously take the advice
to heart. But if you do decide to go
ahead and have the baby, I can tell that
you will love it and try to give it
everything. Another thing to think about
is your family. Do you still live with
them? Would you plan to move in with your
bf? Your mom has already raised her
children and though she would prob do
everything she could, its not fair really
for her to be woken up every two hours by
a hungry baby :) plus I can't even imagine
how hard it would be to take care of a
baby while holding down a job and school.
Brain overload. Again, I wish you luck
and the best!
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