I'm 16 nearlly 17, all my friends have bfs
or are at least "seeing someone" at the
moment.
My problem is i'm very shy and feel very
akward around new people especially
guys.
I really like the guy that lives next door
to me, but he is very shy too so it's all
akward silences
i had a short relationship with a guy
about a year ago, I still love him but we
hardly speak now
it's so hard! Any advice?
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Relyt
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 28 Jun 2005 Posts: 30
Posted: 10-03-05 19:52pm
I also havnt been in a relationship since
I was 16, I am now 19. I fell in love
with a girl and dated her off and on from
grade 8 to grade 9 then made it serious
for almost 2 years, untill she dumbed me.
Im still in love with her, and iv been
very depressed about the fact that I havnt
had anyone else since. The only adivce I
can give you is, if you really want a
boyfriend, talk to as many guys as
possible, just start talking to any guy
you see. Find ones that perhaps you dont
feel intimidated around, start getting
comfortable with the opposite sex and
sooner or later you will have yourself a
good boy friend. Lately iv tryed to
follow this method and slowely im becoming
more confortable around the opposite sex
again. I still wish I had my ex back :(.
Hope this helps, take care!
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BPjoe23
Experienced User , Rather EHEALTHy
Joined: 11 Oct 2005 Posts: 111 Location: dfw tx
Posted: 10-11-05 17:26pm
Just get out there and met new people.
How about inviting the neighbor over for
dinner,or maybe you to can go bowling
together. Talk to more guys and just get
use to talking and being around guys.
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*Pure Heart*
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 05 Oct 2005 Posts: 5
Posted: 10-16-05 13:13pm
Lolz its soo sweet to find someone which
is in the situation I have been a year
ago... Me 2 I fell for my neighbour!! =)
euh... The thing is that now he's left me
=(....
But being shy I remember it took me 2
whole months to finally gather up my wits
to approach him.And havin repeated a
sentence several times in front of the
mirror, I ended up directly asking for his
mobile phone number!!!! How embarrassed I
was! But finally I learnt he 'd been in
luv wit me for over a year!!!
Just one advice--- look into the person's
eyes when u talk and it doesnt matter if u
look awkward coz somtimes guys find this
attractive and cute!=) good luck!
-a 17 year old gurl-
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sandyallen
Extremely EHEALTHy
Joined: 02 Feb 2004 Posts: 4580
Posted: 10-16-05 14:32pm
I would try to think of it this way, I
would rather not be in a relationship at
all than to be with someone that treats
you like dirt!
Never wish for something too much, it may
happen and you might really regret it!
To the one who likes the one next door,
just ask him over, or whatever, the worst
he can say is no and if he says no then
you know it is time to move on.
And to the guy who got hurt, you have to
move on, you cannot dwell on something or
someone!
Good luck!
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hellburn
Experienced User , Rather EHEALTHy
Joined: 29 Sep 2005 Posts: 59 Location: vic australia
Posted: 10-30-05 06:09am
I was like you once until I got bored from
siting by myself because I was to shy. So
I cracked and went stupid and started
talking to people walking down the street.
And it was awsome. And now I have had
about one girl for about 4 months and
another for about 2 years. Before it was
bored from being alone all the time but
now it's like being on some really good
happy drugs.
So yeah my advice is just be a loonie and
even if you stay single at least you'll be
having fun. Or just be yourself yeah that
would make you look less mental. My
friends think i'm wierd. But I make them
laugh.
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Tony Williams
Experienced User , Rather EHEALTHy
Joined: 29 Oct 2005 Posts: 52 Location: UK, Liverpool
Posted: 10-30-05 07:23am
Umm, don't wanna sound like a killjoy, but
are you overweight?, have many spots?
A picture would help, other people could
then judge you on your looks, since a lot
of guys do go stright for that. (not all,
but a lot)
i think since your neighbour is shy also,
you might just have a chance with him, try
speaking to him, if you haven't already.
I hope the best to your dating.
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Eternal
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 05 Sep 2005 Posts: 38
Posted: 11-10-05 18:05pm
Yes, it is hard, you can take heart in the
fact that there are many others who feel
the same, i've never had a relationship,
been on a date, or had any romantic
attraction between anyone, and i'm 18. I
only loved someone once, but she betrayed
me too many times to carry on, and there
was no relationship that could have ever
come to fruition. One thing I have learnt
from this is that if your "prospective
boyfriend" is worried about how you look,
what clothes and perfume you wear, etc, is
that really worth it? So never worry
about such an image too much. Your lover
should have a deep emotional connection,
and it will inevitably be mutual, and you
will know when you find it.
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