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foundsome1
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Location: INDIA
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True Love Slipping Away..help Getting Back Plzzz
Posted: 10-03-05 03:56am
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Well I met a girl in my country(india)
place mumbai on net and I ws from delhi.
We shared a special bond we talked over
phone and smsd each other everyday.
Though she lives far away. I have never
met her in person and we both were in love
& liked each other verymuch. We were
in relationship (long distance
relationsip) from past 8 months and we
were going to meet in a month or so but
her parents came to know about it and told
her not to talk to me n break it off .She
had no choice .She also loves me too much
but can't go against her parents:( . I ws
shocked to hear it the nxt day when she
said "its over". I was in a state of
shock and still iam in shock from that day
iam having a mild pain in my heart(is it
serious??) I cudnt bear the shock .. Wept
like a baby for 2-4 days n didnt eat
nething. I even called her parents n
talked but they r not ready to listen n
not letting her talk to me. What should I
do now? Can any one of u help me
plzzz..
I really love her alot and she loves me
too but in india its not that easy to
leave parents and move with the guy you
love iam 1 year smaller then her. Just
thinking about the times we shared my eyes
get wet..God bless us.. :(cry . Tears
rolling out of my eyes now while typing
this. How can I get back to her. They
dont have taken her cell phone. I cant
even talk to her :( . Having a very bad
feeling and unstable emotional condition.
Plzzzzzzzz some 1 help and tell me how can
I get her back in my life. I love her
tooo damn much and she's the one for me.
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foundsome1
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No One Is Helping Me Out??
Posted: 10-03-05 20:06pm
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Iam a new member so people please help me
out and give some suggestions and very
depressed and have no one to talk to so
thought ou people have been through it and
all and can help me .. Sp please help me
.. :(
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tamanna
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Hi
Posted: 10-06-05 09:06am
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I know how u feel when the person u love
is moving away from u
i think if u really love her go an see
her, I know it india an things r not the
same but my friend if u want her u need to
show the that go to her house face her
parents an tell them tht u love her an she
loves u but one thing u need to know for
sure will she back u up when u go there do
u think if it come to the crunch will she
be willing to leave her family( I am not
say she should or u should do thatbut u
need to know this) an if she says yes then
she truly lovs u, an u should go to her
parents an talk to them face to face not
over the phone
thats all I can tell u
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overlyworried
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Location: Texas
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Posted: 10-08-05 21:55pm
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I don't think going and seeing her is such
a good idea because it could get her and
yourself in a lot of trouble. I mean,
the last thing you want to do is make the
parents even angrier than they already
are. I think that if you and her are
meant to be together then you will be,
regardless of what her parents think. If
you and her are in love that deeply, then
she will come to you - because she will
understand that love like yours and hers
isn't easy to find. I wish you all the
best!
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foundsome1
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I Love Her Way Tooo Much..cant Live Without Her..
Posted: 10-11-05 01:03am
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Hey @ tamanna you are right. I can go
there and face her parents anytime the
only problem is iam not able to talk to
her :(. She has a friend who called me up
and asked about me after all this
happened, that means she loves me as much
as I love her but she is damn sacrred of
her parents and cant go against her thats
hy she is trying to forget me. I havent
met her but I kno her very well.Should I
try meeting her first?? Then her parents?
I have thought and set my mind that I
will marry her only otherwise I wont marry
at all will wait for her all my life.But
will get her only.Dont know how dont know
when.. I love her way tooooooo much.God
bless us please....
Meeting her parents directly can put
things into more trouble?? Or should I
write a snail mail addrerssing to her
parents?? Telling how much I like her and
the pure relation we share..People plz plz
plz help me out. Its been 18 days I
havent heard her voice no contact from
her..Cant live without her..Nothing is
popping up in my mind..Iam like a life
less person without her..
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danniefoley2004
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Posted: 10-11-05 02:16am
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Yes I think you should hand write her
parents a letter stating your feelings for
their daughter and explain to them the
purity and sincerity of your love. Ask
for their permission to speak with their
daughter and be very very respectful of
them. Remember, they are just trying to
protect her. Tell them that you are
willing to do whatever they require for
their blessing and permission to be in a
relationship with her. Show them that
you understand why they initally banned
you two from speaking to eachother (to
protect her). Just make sure you're very
nice and respectful. If they still will
not allow it, then you need to give it
some time. Although that may be painful,
you don't want to anger her parents or
they may never allow it. Hope I helped!
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overlyworried
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Posted: 10-11-05 08:12am
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I agree totally with danniefoley2004!
Showing up at their door unexpectedly
would be disrespectful to them and would
make the whole situation worse, especially
since they didn't want her talking to you
in the first place. Send them a
handwritten letter and express how you
feel about their daughter. Things may
take time, but they may come around and
allow you both to see each other. Good
luck!
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foundsome1
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Snail Mailing Her Parents But My Parents Have No Clue?
Posted: 10-14-05 06:02am
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@danniefoley2004 and overlyworried: thanx
for helping a broken hearted person.I will
surely write a mail to her parents.But one
thing is that I havent told my parents
about it and iam currently with them and
pretending to be normal. They dont have
any clue than iam in love with a girl who
lives miles apart. I was going to tell
them but all this happened "break off" all
of a sudden nothing happened between us.
Infact day before she told her mom and her
moms reaction was positive and her mom
told her dad a day after and he got so
angry that she was forced to take this
step. :( . How could I tell my parents
that I was in relationship and its
over..?? Iam very confused with life
after all this. I talked to her mom on
phone 2-4 days after all this happned her
mom said "you are small for all this
thing... Its just infatutation and all
its better its over" and her mom also said
best of luck for your life.But my life is
her. I cried a lot ,i seriously love her
alot.
What should I do people?? Tell my
parents first?? But I want to tell my
parents if her parents n all agree.B'coz
currently iam not in a position to tell my
parents bcoz iam not able to talk to her
dont know the situation there.There's
nothing to tell to my parents at this
stage. I think will tell them after her
parents repond to my mail will send a
greeting card of a big indian festival
diwali.. What do u people say.
One of her friend called me up and
promised to make her talk to me hearing my
cry silently but no calls yet .One of my
very close friend(only he knows about all
this) is very concerned about my state of
mind and health and says he will talk to
her friend and try convincing her(my gal)
to talk to me or meet me once in person.
Thanx a lot for ur support and suggestion
I really need them. Keeping helping me
plzzz.
Sorry for writing long but cant help it
bcoz you all people are the only one I hve
to share my feeling and help get my love
again.
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overlyworried
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Location: Texas
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Posted: 10-14-05 14:35pm
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You're right, foundsome1. You should
definitely wait until you get a response
from the mail you sent them (or are
planning on sending them) before you tell
your parents.
Maybe you can talk the parents into
letting you meet "your gal" on a friends
only basis, making sure that her parents
can see you and her at all times, so they
can just get use to the idea. It'll be
awkward - but it may be the only thing
they'll let you do at this point in time.
Always remember that most dads are very
protective of their little girls, just
like moms are usually protective of their
little boys. It may take time, but if
she is the one you want, then you've got
quite a bit of time.
Stay strong and good luck!
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foundsome1
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Location: INDIA
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Can't Stop This Thing We Started...
Posted: 10-15-05 03:35am
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Thanx to every 1 who cared to reply to my
topic. Dont know what's gonna happen?:(
but iam trying to hold on... Still no
contact with her and its getting harder
for me. Hope this mailing thing works
keep my fingures crossed and believe in
god. But this is for sure she's the only
1 for me.
Every 1 please keep pouring your valuable
suggestion...They can save my love :)
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foundsome1
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Her Friend Called Me..
Posted: 10-15-05 10:42am
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Her friend just called me and told me she
is out of station with her family and she
will call you when she gets back. I just
asked how is she?? She said she(my gal)
is fine. And told me to get out of it.
She will call me around 23 oct iam
waiting.. Lets see..
I keep posting latest details of my life
as I only have u all to share with :) and
help me in this.. Iam keeping my fingures
crossed..
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foundsome1
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Any One Out There to Help?? Then Pls Do..
Posted: 10-16-05 20:13pm
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Waiting for ur replies... Bcoz I cant do
anything :(
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foundsome1
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Still No Call
Posted: 10-22-05 09:09am
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Still waiting for he call on 23rd that is
tomorrow. Lets see. U people keep
pouring ur suggestions
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foundsome1
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My Gal Called..but Lost All Hopes
Posted: 10-28-05 02:56am
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She called day before yesterday and
talking to her was like totally talking to
some one else. Her father has brain
washed her. She has lost all hopes that
we can get togther. Though I told my mom
and she is supporting me very much and
ready to do anything to get her. But
she(my gal) said I have come out of it and
you also come out of it and while saying
that she a crying. I said talk to your
parents again she said they created a hell
for me and now I dont want it again I
cannot go against my parents. I told her
i'll live with your memories all my life
and I mean it. I really love her alot.
My mom wanted to talk to her but her mood
was off so my mom said will talk to you
later. Her friends is helping me a lot in
getting in touch with her though she her
self has left all hopes.. Hope she calls
my mom today ..
What can be done in my situation now??
People..Come on plzz help..
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overlyworried
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Location: Texas
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Posted: 10-29-05 09:02am
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Hey foundsome1! I'm glad to hear that
she finally called you (even though it
wasn't the greatest conversation).
You can't push her into going against her
parents when she doesn't want to. All
you can do is let her know how much you
love her and try to stay in contact as
best you can. Maybe, as time goes by,
she will become stronger and decide that
she wants to be with you and that nothing
is going to stop her from doing just that.
She seems tore up about it, but you have
to respect her wishes - even if you don't
agree with them. She has chosen to
sacrifice love in order to please her
parents and make her world better (because
there won't be all the drama and fighting)
... And you have to accept the choice she
has chosen to make.
In the meantime, keep praying and I wish
you all the best!
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foundsome1
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Lot of Things Happened Now...iam Still Waiting...
Posted: 10-29-05 09:57am
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@:thanks overlyworried for being there and
replying to my topic.
Well day before yesterday lot of drama
happened. I told my mom about this whole
thing and she was surprized but supported
me fully. Day earlier to this I was soo
frustrated that I planned to go alone
without teliing any one to my gals
place2000km by train and ask her wats
wrong and all but my friend told my plans
to my mom and she came over as iam in my
gradfathers flat alone. Now my friend
called up her friend without letting me
know and told her that he is way too upset
please make her(my gal) talk to him. So
in evening she called..
Me: what happened al of a sudden?
She: you know my parents are totally
against it and some priest also said
no..Thats why.
Me: didnt u try and convince your
parents??
She: I tried my best but they just dont
understand and my father is too
against it.
Me: nothing is impossible lemme try
once..
She: no use now.. I have realised that it
was very immature of me all the time.
That without meeting some 1 how can you
talk about marriege? And
was cring ;( .And said iam coming out of
it and you also come out of it.
Me:how could you.?. I love you way too
much..Please dont do this to me..
She: well I have taken a decision and wont
changed..She also said dont call me ,try
forgetting me. Delete all my sms and
pics
me:well I said I wont bcoz i'll be living
with the memories we shared all my life
and keep waiting for you bcoz I know you
will come..
She has been totally brain washed by her
parents. Well I cannot play with free
will. But I loved her, love her and
always will love her. If my love is
strong she will come back to me.
My mom even cried for me that you love her
so much and she's not backing you up....
You all must be thinking what a mad person
iam?? That still hoping things would
workout but yes they might workout all out
of the blues.
Iam not that kinda a guy who will ever
fall in love again. I loved one person
and will keep loving her till my last
breath though she's not with me physically
but the lives inside me.. She's the air I
breath..
I daily pary to god whatever she does ahe
should be happy...Always though I might be
in total darkness..
God bless everyone
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overlyworried
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Posted: 10-29-05 12:43pm
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I don't think you've gone mad, foundsome1.
It's amazing what some people would do
for the people they love. I think you've
done about everything you can do at this
moment in time (without causing a bunch of
hell). Just continue to take it day by
day and maybe she will come around. Just
because y'all can't be together (right
now) doesn't mean that you haven't made a
place in her heart. I believe that love
always triumphs :-)
i hope all your hopes and dreams come
true. Good luck!
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foundsome1
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God Please Give Me My Life Back..
Posted: 11-20-05 06:45am
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Still no contact almost 3 months have gone
by and iam missing her way too much. God
when is your test gonna be over and you
pass my with flying colors. I cant take
it no more. Life without her is so dull
and black.She is my life and iam waiting
for her..
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krishna29
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Posted: 11-25-05 04:35am
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Hello, I think you should go on with your
life. I know it hurts but you have to
deal with it. Feeling depressed will not
bring her back but will only destroy you.
You are still young I guess, go out and
make friends, enjoy life.
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foundsome1
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I Dont See Her Comeing Back to Me :(
Posted: 04-14-06 07:32am
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Its been more than 7 months and we havent
talked to eachother. I guess its not
gonna happen. But still i'll be true to
my self and wait for her all my life.
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