When Losing Your Virginity... Posted: 10-03-05 23:55pm
Ok ladies..I have a question for you.
What is it like when a woman has sex for
her first time...I mean is it a complete
and bloody mess? Just a week ago I lost
my virginity to my girlfriend who actually
had sex when she was 14....However she
still feels like i'm her first since she
is actually in love with me. Even after
we had sex, it still hurt her (she is 18
now..And also had sex her sophomore year)
she still bled a little bit, and still
hurt. Is there much difference from this
than a woman's first time?? Just
curious..Thanks!
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MissShortie
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Joined: 22 May 2005 Posts: 146
Posted: 10-04-05 00:00am
Well some women can be tighter then
others, and if she hasnt had sex often, or
when she did there are long times in
between, she can still be really tight, so
when you enter you can be stretching her a
little, causing some tearing, which can
cause her to bleed a little, and be sore,
some women don't bleed at all, some women
bleed alot, everyone is different, she
shouldnt be sore for too long, if it goes
on too long, she might want to get checked
out, otherwise I think she should be
alright. Best of luck : )
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TysonH
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Posted: 10-04-05 00:03am
Oh no no..She wasn't sore for very
long..Maybe an hour or so..But she stil
enjoyed it much so..I was just wondering
since I am unable to take the virginity
from my girlfriend..Which still upsets
me.. What it's like for a woman's first
time..I've just heard it's suppose to be a
bloody mess...Like the o'l expression (pop
the cherry) thanks
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MissShortie
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Joined: 22 May 2005 Posts: 146
Posted: 10-04-05 00:07am
Well that is really sweet, shows you
really care for her, though there is
nothing you can do to change the fact if
someone is a virgin or not. But im sure
it was very special to her, and means a
lot more to her then any other man shes
been with, I totally understand you
though, because it upsets me knowing my bf
has had other partners, and hes my first,
but you just kind of have to understand
that they had a different life back then,
and they didn't know you, so just kinda
have to accept it, but the knowing that
you really are the special person to them,
is good enough : )
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poohbear101
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Posted: 10-04-05 00:37am
To answer your question I honestly think
that some people over exaggerate when they
think of a girls first time. Of course
there may be some blood, sometimes none at
all, but if there is it shouldn't soak the
sheets or anything. A girl's first time
is different for each girl. Some girls
experience a lot of pain some none at all,
some enjoy the first time and others
don't, although I doubt too many actually
enjoy it it can be uncomfortable and like
I said painful. Honestly when I read "a
bloody mess" I thought of some kind of
homicide scene lol which it really isn't,
its just some blood from being stretched
and torn the first time. Also I think it
would depend on the size of the guy. If
her first time was with someone who wasn't
all that big and her second time the guy
was big of course theres going to be a
little more pain than the first time and
some stretching because of the size. Hope
that helps.
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TysonH
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Joined: 14 Sep 2005 Posts: 52
Posted: 10-04-05 11:23am
So basically, when I made her bleed a lil'
bit, it was kinda just like her first time
over again...In a way... See, it's sad
to say, but I wanted to be the first one
to make her bleed..Lol I do not mean that
in a mean way...Just cuz it's special ya
know.. Neway. Missshortie, that is the
main problem in my g/f and my
relationship. We have been dating for 6
months, but her past of three different
guys still bothers me.. Not near as bad
as it use to. But it still does. And it
hurts her too when I think about it. But
it's reassuring to know she's not thinkin
of them..And the fact that she feels like
i'm her first ya know. Neway..Thanks
again for the info every1..
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Tylanas
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Posted: 10-04-05 12:04pm
I started dating my current bf in
college... And I knew he'd had
girlfriends and sex before, but it didn't
bug me at all, it was sort of like "yep,
that's what people do... I might be a
virgin and he not but that's good, becuse
then at least one of us knows what we're
doing!"
i didn't bleed at all during my first
time, and it didn't hurt bad either.
We'd had sex about nine times (not all at
once, lol) when he told me that now, he'd
had more sex with me than all of his
previous girlfriends combined! That made
me feel so good.
Don't fret about her previous boyfriends.
They are "previous", remember? She's with
you now. That's what mtters.
Just play it safe, use protection, etc,
bla bla. I don't wanna see you or her on
the pregnancy or abortion forum!
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dixiegirl
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Posted: 10-04-05 21:30pm
I did bleed some my first time, I think it
was because my boyfriend was rather large
.............. Sometimes I wish I could
have one more time with him, now that we
both know what we are doing, lol!!!! As
crazy as this sounds, it hurt, but it hurt
in a good way. Know what I mean? I can
still remember how sex with him felt. I
can also remember how one of my other
boyfriends kisses felt. Sorry for the
ramble, im just mising old times
................. And boyfriends, lol
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lonely_angel
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Posted: 10-04-05 22:23pm
Well, my first time didn't hurt really,
and I didn't bleed. I have had sex only
like 5 times. The last time I did it I
bled though but I think it is just cause
things got really rough lol. I hurt for a
day or two after I had sex my 1st 2nd and
5th time. There were only three guys
though I though I was in love and I waas
trying to get over him in a not so right
way. The sizes did very though. I didn't
bleed alot though I think I just got tore
really bad. So I bled for about a day and
a half. Then the day after I started my
period it sucked alot lol. Sorry I
rambled but yeah.
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kbthac
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Posted: 10-11-05 09:59am
I bled just a tiny bit the first time that
I had sex. It wasn't like anything
major, just a spot or so. It did hurt
though, my boyfriend is large (i think
personally lol), and it took forever to
get it in the first time!! I don't know
if it is like this for everyone though.
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Tylanas
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Posted: 10-12-05 19:45pm
No, my bf is average, and he got in easily
the first time; we did it spoon style.
That position is much less painful for the
girl.
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Fudgecake
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Posted: 12-20-05 16:09pm
When I had sex for the first time it
really hurt, but it was a gd hurt if that
makes ne sense it made it feel real and
also during it he was checkin to see if I
was ok and being gentle with me. I
understand y u are feelin the way u are -
I dont no how it feels becasue we were bth
virgins but im sure she feels like this is
her first time and technicali it is wiv
the bloke she loves. So dnt wrry bout
that! And no there aint much difference
than the first time other than now shes in
love!
Hope u sort this one out! Take care
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munky23
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Posted: 12-23-05 17:46pm
I never bled. It depends on the woman.
Some are tighter. Some rip their hymen
from other things. I find if you go a
while (even a week) without sex you can be
sore afterwards (especially if you weren't
turned on enough for sex). Or I found if
you go a week and then have sex a lot in
one night, you can be sore from that too.
