Joined: 04 Oct 2005 Posts: 21 Location: Vista,california
My Moms Crazy Help Me!!! Posted: 10-07-05 17:14pm
Okay i'm almost 3 weeks pregnant and my
mom filed a restraining order on my
boyfriend my boyfriend broke up with me
after and year and half of being together
I don't know what to do about my unborn
kid. I'm just really stressed out right
now if there is anyone out there reading
this please tell me what you thionk I
should do. Oh yeah and my mom doesn't
know that i'm pregnant!!!
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mia7
Experienced User , Rather EHEALTHy
Joined: 09 Sep 2005 Posts: 378
Posted: 10-07-05 17:26pm
Does your bf know that you are pregnant?
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Pocket Angel
Experienced User , Rather EHEALTHy
Joined: 29 Jul 2005 Posts: 241 Location: Thiells, New York
Posted: 10-08-05 09:24am
What was your boyfriend doing that made
her get a restraining order?
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countrychic05
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 01 Sep 2005 Posts: 22 Location: Indiana
Re: My Moms Crazy Help Me! Posted: 10-10-05 12:25pm
The first thing that I think that you
should do is tell your mom that you are
pregnant. I know that this may not be
what you wanted to hear but you need to
tell her. Yeah she may be mad, but with
time she will get over the shock and
hopefully come to love and be a support
system for your baby.
I dont know what to tell you about your
boyfriend though sorry.
Good luck with everything
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MommyChase
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 10 Oct 2005 Posts: 4 Location: Orlando
Posted: 10-10-05 15:01pm
Baby girl! I know the feeling, my ex
deserved the restraining order though.
He decided I would make a good punching
bag at 4 months pregnant. I knew then
that I had to get away. My mom however
was determined to do something more. I
wasn't going to press charges I was just
going to leave. Well, my mom thinks if
you dont do something about it- he'll
think its ok to do it again. So I
pressed charges which is the smartest
thing I could have done. I mean yeah I
dont want to raise a child on my own, but
I also dont want to raise a child in an
abusive home. And if he can hit and
choke me..Then I can only imagine what he
could do to a baby.. I dont know why
your mom pressed the restraining order...
But if its any consulation...Moms know
whats best (most of the time), she was
only doing it for the good of your child
and you. Hope all is well.
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MommyChase
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 10 Oct 2005 Posts: 4 Location: Orlando
Posted: 10-10-05 15:05pm
Baby girl! I know the feeling, my ex
deserved the restraining order though.
He decided I would make a good punching
bag at 4 months pregnant. I knew then
that I had to get away. My mom however
was determined to do something more. I
wasn't going to press charges I was just
going to leave. Well, my mom thinks if
you dont do something about it- he'll
think its ok to do it again. So I
pressed charges which is the smartest
thing I could have done. I mean yeah I
dont want to raise a child on my own, but
I also dont want to raise a child in an
abusive home. And if he can hit and
choke me..Then I can only imagine what he
could do to a baby.. I dont know why
your mom pressed the restraining order...
But if its any consulation...Moms know
whats best (most of the time), she was
only doing it for the good of your child
and you. Hope all is well.
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lilpattycakes
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 04 Oct 2005 Posts: 21 Location: Vista,california
Thank You Posted: 10-10-05 15:17pm
[quote="mommychase"]baby girl! I know
the feeling, my ex deserved the
restraining order though. He decided I
would make a good punching bag at 4 months
pregnant. I knew then that I had to get
away. My mom however was determined to
do something more. I wasn't going to
press charges I was just going to leave.
Well, my mom thinks if you dont do
something about it- he'll think its ok to
do it again. So I pressed charges which
is the smartest thing I could have done.
I mean yeah I dont want to raise a child
on my own, but I also dont want to raise a
child in an abusive home. And if he can
hit and choke me..Then I can only imagine
what he could do to a baby.. I dont
know why your mom pressed the restraining
order... But if its any
consulation...Moms know whats best (most
of the time), she was only doing it for
the good of your child and you. Hope
all is well.[/quote :
lilpattycakes: well he just showed up at
my house really drunk and my mom okay with
it but what she found out 2 weeks later
made her file the restraing order! She
found out I was pregnant and filing a
restrainging order on my baby's daddy
isn't going to do anything! He's never
touched me never will my brother is 6'6
and is in between 200-250 pounds and if my
boyfriend ever touched me my brother would
beat his ass! Well anyways did you have
your baby yet? If so boy of girl? What's
it's name??
!
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MommyChase
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 10 Oct 2005 Posts: 4 Location: Orlando
Posted: 10-10-05 16:01pm
Nope, not yet, i'm due october 21st. Its
a boy!!!!! His name is going to be chase
alexander. I'm very excited. Although
I wish I didnt have to do this alone.
Things will work out. I live in orlando
fl. Now and the baby daddy is still in
chicago..Where I left him. He and I were
together for 4 1/2 years and engaged to be
married...When I found out I was pregnant
he tried to force me to have an abortion
and I wouldnt, then he tried to make
things better and pretended to be
accepting...And he made me an appointment-
which he told me was for a check
up...Blah blah blah... I get there and
fill out all the forms...And I get in the
back room and these people are telling me
that I can still change my mind...I'm like
why would i?? I've had pap smears before
and physicals...Whats the big deal...And
they are like you dont know what your here
for do you? Im like yea a check up - im
pregnant. Well come to find out I was at
a clininc where they see pregnant women
and also do abortions and I was scheduled
to have an abortion and didnt even know
it.. I did get documentation and it will
go well in court if he tries to take it
there... Anyways...........My date is
getting closer!!! I'm getting
scared..Lol...I think I watch the baby
channel tooooo much. How old are you if
you don't mind me asking? I'm 20 and
honestly had no intentions of getting
pregnant so young. I feel like i'm going
to have to put my whole life on hold
(which basically I am). I've had to make
lots of adjustments. I started taking my
classes online, I haven't been able to
work..I've been on bed rest since I was 30
weeks. (bed rest sucks big time) but
everything happens for a reason... I got
pregnant while I was on birth control
(depo-shot) and we used condoms (99% of
the time)....
Angel
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Jazzy36
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 07 Sep 2005 Posts: 46 Location: Chicago
Posted: 10-11-05 12:55pm
Hey all...Im 35 wks and my mother
absolutely hates my boyfriend. What's
worse, we r having alot of problems right
now. He decides after 2 years he doesn't
know what he wants anymore. I am soooo
depressed cuz I love him so much, and im
trying to hold onto him. He was really
excited when he found out I was pregnant,
but now he barely mentions anything abut
the baby, and it makes me so sad. I am
thinking about just leaving him alone
until he gets his mind right. I mean, I
cant be stressing right now, I have
another life to think of.
4 all of you's, stay strong- that's all we
can do. Im sorry to hear about your
situations, but it is comforting to know
that im not the only one thats facing
challenges at this life altering time.
Good luck to all of you and always put
that baby first..... As for the girl due
october 21st, u are so lucky!!!!! Time
seems to lag on and on as im waiting 4 my
baby!!!Hehe good luck!
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lilpattycakes
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 04 Oct 2005 Posts: 21 Location: Vista,california
Posted: 10-11-05 17:08pm
mommychase
wrote:
nope, not yet, i'm due
october 21st. Its a boy!!!!! His
name is going to be chase alexander.
I'm very excited. Although I wish I
didnt have to do this alone. Things
will work out. I live in orlando fl.
Now and the baby daddy is still in
chicago..Where I left him. He and I
were together for 4 1/2 years and engaged
to be married...When I found out I was
pregnant he tried to force me to have an
abortion and I wouldnt, then he tried to
make things better and pretended to be
accepting...And he made me an appointment-
which he told me was for a check
up...Blah blah blah... I get there and
fill out all the forms...And I get in the
back room and these people are telling me
that I can still change my mind...I'm like
why would i?? I've had pap smears
before and physicals...Whats the big
deal...And they are like you dont know
what your here for do you? Im like yea
a check up - im pregnant. Well come to
find out I was at a clininc where they see
pregnant women and also do abortions and I
was scheduled to have an abortion and
didnt even know it.. I did get
documentation and it will go well in court
if he tries to take it there...
Anyways...........My date is getting
closer!!! I'm getting scared..Lol...I
think I watch the baby channel tooooo
much. How old are you if you don't mind
me asking? I'm 20 and honestly had no
intentions of getting pregnant so young.
I feel like i'm going to have to put my
whole life on hold (which basically I am).
I've had to make lots of adjustments.
I started taking my classes online, I
haven't been able to work..I've been on
bed rest since I was 30 weeks. (bed rest
sucks big time) but everything happens
for a reason... I got pregnant while I
was on birth control (depo-shot) and we
used condoms (99% of the time)....
Angel
wel I am 16 and live
in california san diego to be exact that's
really messed up that he would trick you
like that though! I would've been pretty
pissed too! Did he go with you to the
doctors? I would've slapped him and
walked out! Well I know I could put my
dreams and goals on hold and when i'm
ready I can have my boyfriends sister
watch our kid she has her own daycare so I
know everything will work out. I'm
basically on my own right now also. My
boyfriend doesn't want to have anything to
do with me as of right now because of my
physco ass mom but we talk once every like
two days he takes me to my appointments
and everything I just don't know what to
do about my mom. I'm moving in with my
boyfriend in about two weeks and when I do
that I think i'll tell my mom about me
being pregnant. Wow I didn't mean to
write that much sorry. And I watch the
baby channel as well and the lifetime
movies thoughs are the best lol! Write
beack when you get a chance!
