Help Me! I Don't Know What to Do Posted: 10-09-05 00:48am
I have been dating this guy for two years.
We were high school sweethearts and now
are off at college. We had our share of
relationship problems. He is a very
jealous suspicious guy who doesn't want me
to even talk to other guys. I was
emotionally unstable due to family
problems. We say we love eachother yet he
refuses to buy me a promise ring or get
married anytime within the next three
years. Which by that time we will have
been together for 5 years. Before we left
for school we decided to leave the door
open for dating other people. Well, I met
this guy at church and he is great! He is
smart and funny and he likes kids and
animals and we have only spent about 4
hours together but I can't get him out of
my mind. He seems like everything I have
ever wanted in a guy.
I have had lots of doubts before about my
current realtionship and now that I met
someone who seems so perfect I am
definitely having doubts.
How much longer should I wait to see if my
feelings change at all before I call it
quits with my curretn boyfriend to be with
the guy I adore?
Please help me im nervous and scared and
happy all at the same time
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MICKEY-DEE
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 03 Oct 2005 Posts: 5 Location: central coast, NSW
Posted: 10-10-05 06:16am
You need to work out if your just hanging
on to the past coz ur scared of being
alone or if u really love him...........
If u love him ( ur current b/f) do ur best
to keep the relatoinship strong..... Tlk
to him bout ur concerns..................
If its not love get bak out there n c wot
this new guy is like............... U
need to make urself happy cuz no1 else
will do it 4 u!!!
Remember u and only u can make ur own
fate......... Make sure ur's is how u
honestly want it
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anastasiya
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 30 Sep 2005 Posts: 11
Posted: 10-10-05 17:50pm
It doesn't seem like you love your present
boyfriend. You are probably just very
used to being with him. I wouldn't rush
things though and just see how it goes
with with this new guy. Most importantly
compare how both are treating you, whether
you have similar interests.,etc
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cutenerd24
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 14 Sep 2005 Posts: 4
Thanks Posted: 10-15-05 23:13pm
Hey thanks for the advice. Ou
relationship has had alot of ups and
downs, he is controlling and cna be very
jealous and suspicious, sometimes it
bothers me that he is like that and
sometimes it doesn't. Right now im just
not sure that I love him anymore, I feel
like I need to get back out into the
dating world and see what everyone else is
like.
The new guy i've been seeing is really
sweet and I love hanging out with him. He
is 24 and im 18, which means I have alot
of time to decide. I really like this new
guy but I don't know how to tell if its
just that im excited that someone is
paying attention to me or if I really am
ready to seriously see someone else and
forget about my b/f.
I tried talking to him a little about how
I was feeling this past week and he was so
broken up and just kept asking why I would
wnat someone else when he's been there for
me for the past two years through all my
family problems.
Im just not sure. I'm definitely not in
love with him anymore, but I don't know if
im still talking to him just in case
someone else doesnt' work out. So
basically im still really confused:(
