I Had a Miscarriage!!!

Thats so sad 2 hear .Thats a lot 2 go through im sure when ur so young.There's no reason 4 y miscarriage happens-it just does-ur body mite not have felt as if it was strong enough 2 carry a baby.Usually,miscarriage happens within the first 3 and a half months so im not sure about ur case.Didnt ur doc tell u what went wrong? Or if there were any complications or reasosn y the baby died?
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liz x

This sounds more like a stillbirth then a miscarriage. The doctor should not under any circumstances have left your child in you for 4 hours. I would go to a legal advisor an look at some possible options.
Remember these things happen and usually there is no cause. It was nothing you did or didn't do during your pregnancy. You sound very upset (understandably) and I would suggest you seek some counciling as these can be some very trying times. I wish you the best of luck and hope you make it through this. Stay strong and hang in there

Don't beat yourself up, these things just happen. Unfortuanetly, it was meant to be this way, so when your ready everything will turn out perfect. Maybe your body couldn' t deal with, or your little one wasn't strong enough, but one thing for sure...He's up there in heaven watching and waiting for you...You'll meet him one day. But, for now you have to focus on new goals and keep everything straight.

Good luck and god bless,

jennifer

I had a miscarriage sept. 9.2003 but since then its been 3 months and me and boyfriend want to have another baby really bad... What do you think???????? Do you think my body is ready! But the thing is right now I might be pregnant!!!! I'm scared because I don't want to have another miscarriage we're suffering enough from what happen !! What should I do???????????????

And if your not prego, your body is not ready. Just like birth, you should give your body a year to completely heal, so that you have a healthy environment for your precious little angel. And in waiting a year, at least you'll be giving yourself a little time to think this whole "wanting to be a teen parent" thing over. I had my 1st at 17 and it was super hard to finish school, work, and care for him properly on limited pay. They don't pay teens that much, and if you can avoid using government money, cuz when you do get a job, you'll realize how much it raises taxes.

Good luck and best wishes,

if you need someone to talk to i'm here...Jennifer

i'm so sorry that you lost your baby that way. However... From what I can understand... You are still 15?? Are you sure you really want a baby now?? I mean... Maybe losing that baby was god's way of saying you're not really ready right now. You still have your entire life ahead of you. Wouldn't you want to finish school and be financially stable before you start any type of family?? I mean... I know I would want to be able to give my child everything he or she needed. But at 15... Do you really think that you could be ready?? And you're lucky to have a guy that wanted this child as much as you do. But... Really... A baby does change everything. You're only 15... Enjoy being young while you still can.

by the way... If you do decide to go ahead and tey again... Good luck. I hope everything goes right and I hope you never have to go through that whole ordeal again. No one should ever have feel the pain of losing a baby. Good luck!! But please think about what I said about you having your entire life ahead of you.

I completely agree with lan, it coule be .Gods way of letting you know, not yet. So just wait it out. Get on birth conrtol and get condoms and be safe. Finish school and get a career before you start deciding on a family. Im sorry you had a miscarriage, but wait it out before you decide you want another one. Another miscarriage might be too painful. You have so many years to go.

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hey hun I am soo sorry to hear that but it does sound more like a stillbirth to me...As for trying for another baby there is nothing wrong with that feeling. U lost something and u want it back or something to replace it.. Its competely commen and natural to feel this way... Unfortunaly I think at 15 you should not try to have another baby... Maybe this experince was a way of your ody telling you ,, ur body can not handle having a baby... Think carefully I would wait..

One thing you need to make sure of is that you don't have an incompotent cervix. This is when the cervix begins to dilate prematurely. If this is the case, you will need to get it stitched up during your next pregnancy so that this doesn't happen again. Other than that, I would just say you went into premature labor and your Dr. Acted poorly by not getting the baby out.

I know that that may be hard to hear and in no way am I going to judge, but, at 15 years old you have your whole life to have a baby. How old is your boyfriend? Do you really think that your ready to have a baby at 15?I'm 25 and on my 3rd. When I got pregnant with my first I was married, (now divorced) and I wished to god that I could've finished school and got my life on track first before I brought life into this world. Now I am married, have one child with my new husband and about to have another with him so in that aspect my life is great. But I don't get to see my first child all that often b/c her father is mean and only thinks about himself. I would hate to see a 15 year old to go through that let alone a child. My advice is to finish school, go to college or at least get a good job with benefits and in a few years like 18 then start thinking about it. If you are still with your boyfriend then, then hey, god's on your side, if not, think about, you would have a child that you are trying to raise with no father around, trying to make ends meat, and passing a child back and forth from parent to parent. I know many parents do that but I don't think that it's far in some ways to the child.

Again, i'm not judging you in any way, I just want to help.

Pregnancyishard,

yes pregnancy is hard & miscarriages are horrendous especially one like you went through.

You did nothing wrong _ the dr on the other hand - leaving you for 4 hours _no, not on!! I'd definitely seek legal advice.

I also think you should get your self fully checked by an ob/gyn to make sure that there's no cervix problem or anything else that could cause another miscarriage (having said that I had all the tests as did my husband after I lost our first but I still lost the 2nd then we had our daughter then I lost another had a medically advised termination as he was trisome 18 then lost our sons twin - so all the tests in the world don't give guarantees). Actually pregnancy & babies just don't come with guarantees.

If you are pregnant again take it easy, eat healthy, get reasonable exercise & pray - good luck.

If you're not then get yourself checked & give your body & your emotions time to heal after all that you've been through before trying again.

Girl finish school and get everything straight before you have a kid. When I was 15 I didn't know I was pregnet until I misscarried.. I didnt plan to have a kid.. I was uh.. Yeah.. It was bad.


Right now I am 17 soon to be 18 and my period is a no show.. Only spotting that stopped.. So eh.. Yea.. I wish the best for you.. Be smart..

Ok pat you know you could try to show some remorse. She lost a baby for christ sake. Do you have feelings? Or are you just some heart less prick? A bunch of people on here are tired of you playing your little games. I am 16 and I act more mature than you. Stop being a prick and help people out or don't be on here. This ain't a site to hurt others this is a site to help people out and show them that people do care.

Lilmama