Past Coming Back to Haunt Me? Posted: 10-09-05 12:54pm
Im stuck in a dilemma guys and I could use
some help to get out of it. You see,
theres this girl I used to know, who ive
always liked, I just didnt know it for a
while. I knew her for years since I
started school when I was like 4-5. We
knew each other through most of school, we
were the same age, in the same classes.
We were really good friends. At school
everybody always used to think there was
something between us and some people said
that she liked me, but I didnt pay much
attention to em right then.
We didnt really talk to each other much in
the last couple of years at school though,
and since then ive hardly seen her that
much. It wasnt until then that I
realised I actually liked her, cos before
that wed just been good friends. And the
thing that probably helped me realise was
the fact that before that I was seeing her
around school almost everyday.
Anyway, since I realised I liked her about
3-4 years ago shes been on my mind quite a
bit, and even more recently. Ive been
having alot of dreams about her lately and
apparently its because im thinking about
what could have been and about what I feel
for her.
Ive talked to some people about it and the
general consensus is that I should try to
contact her and perhaps tell her how I
feel and maybe even try to get our
friendship back. I dunno though, I just
think contacting her out of the blue like
that would be a bit weird. And thats
forgetting the fact that over a year ago I
moved away from the town I used to live
in. The town that, as far as I know, she
still lives in.
I guess the biggest problem is actually
contacting her and talking to her again.
Im scared of doing it. We havent spoken
in probably 4-5 years. Besides, when I
moved away I thought that would be the end
of that chapter of my life, despite the
fact that I miss the town like mad, but it
seems to have followed me. I dunno what
I should do.
Im trying to get as many opinions on the
situation as I can and any input from you
guys would really help. Thanks
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sandyallen
Extremely EHEALTHy
Joined: 02 Feb 2004 Posts: 4580
Posted: 10-09-05 13:53pm
Hi there! You have to do what you feel
is the right thing to do, noone else can
tell you but you but there is only one way
to find out and that is by doing it!
Good luck with your decision.
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theone2k5
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 09 Oct 2005 Posts: 9 Location: UK
Posted: 10-10-05 16:13pm
sandyallen
wrote:
hi there! You have to do
what you feel is the right thing to do,
noone else can tell you but you but there
is only one way to find out and that is by
doing it!
Good luck with your
decision.
thats just it, I dunno what the right
thing to do is. Its not that I dont want
to get back in contact with her, I just
dunno whether I should. Ive kinda got so
much stuff running through my head right
now and I cant make out much of it.
All the opinions ive had so far are from
guys so really I need input from a female
perspective. So to all the girls that
may read this:
if you knew a guy for most of your life,
who you were good friends with and who (i
think) you liked, but you hadnt talked to
him for a few years how would you feel if
all of a sudden he got back in contact
with you?
I know that obviously you cant give
accurate opinions because noone knows how
she'd actually feel if I did it except her
but any opinion will do. I just need
some advice.
No-one 4gets the past and for some people
even the littlest things that may not even
mean anything can mean everything if it's
all bought back. Cuz it's like this...
Say if she did realy like ya and she
thinks your not ever gona get back in
touch and you don't and she makes the
biggest mistake of getin with some else.
Now she'l think... Yeh that its the right
thing becuz your gona be in the past...
And thats gona be your choice to stay in
her past or get bk in touch and see how it
goes. Otherwise what about one day- few
yrs down the line you both bump into each
other how is she gona feel to know you
once was wondering whether to get in touch
but didn't. For both of ya its gona be
like you had the chance but didn't bother
to take it. If your unsure about
something that your thinking about-
it means your thinking about it for a
reason. Becuz why else would you be
thkinkin whether to get bk in touch with
her. And even if 4 some reason you regret
it least you can look bk and say you
didn't let the chance go but you tried:)
soz if you think ive just rambled on hope
it goes wel :)
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theone2k5
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 09 Oct 2005 Posts: 9 Location: UK
Posted: 10-11-05 17:58pm
I guess what you're saying is that theres
a chance she might be regretting it all as
much as me. You said about if we bump
into each other a few years down the line,
I really would regret it all then. I
already regret the whole thing. The only
way I can ever find out how she feels and
what might happen will be to contact
her.
I dont think youve rambled on, to be
honest youve said a few things that noone
has mentioned yet and ive talked to quite
a few people about the situation. Youve
opened my eyes a bit and given me some
things to think about. Thanks.
Just don't think too much lol cuz your'l
just waste more time just go for it allll
the cupids will be wiv ya :wink:
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theone2k5
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 09 Oct 2005 Posts: 9 Location: UK
Posted: 10-12-05 16:38pm
Well ive typed out an email, its saved in
my 'waiting to be sent' folder and all I
need to do is click send and its gone. I
dunno if ive got the courage to do it
though. If I click that button theres no
going back. If I send the email then its
gone, its sent and I wont be able to take
it back. Do I have enough courage to do
that? I dont know.
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Kittykatus
Experienced User , Rather EHEALTHy
Joined: 12 Oct 2005 Posts: 89 Location: United Kingdom
Posted: 10-14-05 06:58am
Is your love for this girl much stronger
than your will? If you want to meet go
for it, or you'll be saying what if down
the line...
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theone2k5
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 09 Oct 2005 Posts: 9 Location: UK
Posted: 10-14-05 12:48pm
I did it. I sent it 2 days ago, not long
after I did that last post. Havent got a
reply so far but I can wait.
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Kittykatus
Experienced User , Rather EHEALTHy
Joined: 12 Oct 2005 Posts: 89 Location: United Kingdom
Good Luck... Posted: 10-16-05 14:34pm
We are all crossing our fingers and
praying for you hunny...
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theone2k5
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 09 Oct 2005 Posts: 9 Location: UK
Posted: 10-25-05 17:18pm
Well, I havent had a reply as of yet. Its
2 weeks ago tomorrow since I sent the
email and I havent had a reply. Its
nothing to do with the fact that she might
not come on the computer because I know
shes been online since I sent it. The
address I emailed was a hotmail one so I
decided to add her to messenger to see if
she ever came online. Now this might seem
a bit strange but I blocked her on
messenger. You may think it was a stupid
thing to do, but the reason I did it was
because I wanted to see what she said to
the email before I started chatting to her
one on one. I didnt want to just jump
straight into chatting to her before I got
a reply to the email. You can understand
that right? Anyway thats how I know shes
been on the computer. But she hasnt
replied in 2 weeks. A few days ago I
decided that I was maybe going to try to
talk her on msn next time she was online
but I havent even seen her on since
then.
Do you think maybe she doesnt actually
want to get back in touch with me? But if
she doesnt then why wouldnt she just tell
me? If she said she didnt want to get
back in contact then id accept that, id be
really dissapointed about it but id have
to accept it, but all this not knowing
though is too much, its driving me mad. I
dunno what to do.
Someone said to me that maybe shes as
nervous to reply as I was to send the
email to her, but when I decided I was
going to try to contact her it took me
about 3-4, 5 at the most days to come up
with an email and actually pluck up the
courage to send it to her, so why would it
take her almost 2 weeks?
I dunno, this is all driving me mad. Im
just full of maybes but I cant rest
properly until I find out what shes
thinking. Im going crazy.
Maybe she does not check her emails
because she doesnt use them and she might
not come on msn so why dont ya just call
her or go and see her maybe doing it face
to face or where you to are actualy
talkling might make all the differecne
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theone2k5
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 09 Oct 2005 Posts: 9 Location: UK
Posted: 10-31-05 14:16pm
You did read my first post all the way
through didnt you candyflos? I ask
because I think after what you just said I
think I should point you to the part of
the very first post where I said:
me
wrote:
over a year ago I moved away
from the town I used to live in. The town
that, as far as I know, she still lives
in
so I cant do what you suggested. Even if
I did still live there though, I dont have
her phone number and I cant even remember
exactly where she lives anymore (she may
have moved house since then anyway).
Email is my only means of contact.
