Nikki

I did, I dont have anything. Did you send me something?! I love checking my mail, but there is nothing there!

I sent it, but I guess I dunno what happened...This is what it said:...Ok, I moved in here to my cousins house and he doesn't know where I live or what my # is, what happens if he can't find me..He can't do anything can he?...Also, I don't want to have to go get a lawyer and fight and fight and fight, so do I write the judge before or after the baby is born? And what do I say?...Also, knowing chris, he has already talked to his lawyers about fighting for custody...And I really cn't afford a lawyer and he has the best in the state..Is there any way that he could get custody???

No! He cannot. No matter how hard he tries, there is a form at the court and you have to write the reasons he cannot have joint custody, but supervised visitation, and you put how hes on house arrest for homicide, put his whole backround. Then you submit it. You tell the judge you do not want him knowing where you currently reside, kind of putting a temporary restrainging order, because of his backround. Then they set court dates to discuss child support and visitation. You will have more luck with a lady judge! I can ask my mom about when you can file it and stuff. She loves doing these kinds for girls and dead beat dads! Lol. But you do not need a lawyer, they will apoint some kind of attorney for the both of you. Dont worry. If you want I can ask my mom exactly what you need. I can call her in a while when my boss leaves.

Jordan

you file a mediation. And that is what you do to let the judge know that you want supervised visits and child supports. And you list his criminal backround. And the mediator meets on the court dates to discuss issues and how much he has to pay. You wont deal with the father direct, the mediator is like the middle man, to settle things, then they show the judge. So thats what you do. See I asked my sis whats that form called and she said mediation and explained it and then my mom was like "why who needs it? Who's confused? I can help" and I was like, no I just couldnt think of the word! Lol. So if you need help just ask me

Nikki,
but when do I file this?
Before or after the baby is born....Will I have to see chris, ? Will he be ther?....

Ok let me ask on when you can file it, but yes he might have to be there, but you do not have to talk to him, the mediator does the talking for you two.

Hold on shes gonna call me back, she had a call

When the baby is born you must give it your last name (which I know you were doing anyways), you have to file and .O.S.C after birth, and that is for the child support and visitation supervision. Then its going to be alot of paperwork for the child support and requesting supervision and stuff. You will maybe be in court once a month or once every two months. Or my sister said just go to the .D.A's office and they will help you with the paperwork and give you all the right things. But they might take a while almost up to a year before you get child supprt. And he might be in jail by then so you should collect welfare when your 18. And things such as food stamps for now, if your not living at home. The welfare builds up on his name and when hes out, he has to repay it. And if he doesnt, they take things like his drivers licence and suspend it or dont allow him to have one at all. Because my mom helped my sister with it, it took about 4 months. But where you are, it might be different. My mom said if hes out, start about 1 month before your baby is due to get the paperwork going. But you might just want to wait until 18 to collect welfare. But food stamps you should start now. It helps alot.