Joined: 19 Sep 2005 Posts: 288 Location: Amherst VA
Unhappily Married?? Posted: 10-10-05 16:30pm
Hello everyone!! How are you all?? My
name is teresa and my husband and I were
just married in september of this year.
My feelings for him are already starting
to fade. The truth is I sarted to feel
this way even before we were married but I
just told myself that it was only my
hormones (i just had a baby 3 months ago)
and that this crazy feeling would go away.
Well, it hasn't!!! I love him, well
atleast I think I still do, i'm just not
happy. He gets on my nerves all the time
and I just don't find him as attractive as
I used to. When he touches me or tries
to kiss me I just get annoyed with him and
don't want him to touch me. We do have
our good days wehn I feel so lucky to have
him and I can't get enough of him.. But
that's not very often. I never want to
have sex with him...And we used to do it
atleast 3 times a day. He is such a
great guy, and he doesn't deserve the way
i'v been blowing him off. My heart
doesn't melt when he touches me like it
used to...Everything has changed and I
don't know why!! I feel like I am going
carzy with this!!! I promised myslef
that I would never put my son through what
I went through as a child. My mom and
dad divorced and it was hell for me. I
don't want to leave him...I just want to
be happy with him again. What do I do??
Please someone help me....Have any of you
been here before??
Teresa
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overlyworried
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Posted: 10-11-05 19:04pm
Well, I can't say that i've been here
before teresa. I'm still trying to get
someone to marry me, haha! (maybe
marriage is just not meant to be for
me).
It sounds like you have a wonderful guy,
and those come few and far between. I
would say try everything in your power
before you take a big leap. Get someone
to watch your child/kids 1 night out of
the week (or atleast 2 times a month) and
you and your husband have some time to
yourselves. Go to a movie, have a picnic
at the park or just stay at home and give
each other backrubs with fragrant oils.
Maybe enjoy "love-making" outside of your
home - just anything that can give you
back that spark!
If that doesn't work, then you may want to
try marriage counseling. I hope
everything works out for you, though.
Good luck! :-)
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wife2jason_mom2ryley
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Joined: 19 Sep 2005 Posts: 288 Location: Amherst VA
Thank You Posted: 10-12-05 14:29pm
Thanks so much. I really want to try...I
don't want to leave my husband because of
my son and because I can remember the
amazing feelings I used to have for him...
I really want that back. I'v decided
that the only thing I can really do is
pray. If anyone can fix our marriage it's
.God.
Thanks again for the advice!! Oh...And
yes you will find a wonderful man to
marry...There is someone for everyone!!!
Good luck!!!
Teresa
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overlyworried
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Posted: 10-12-05 15:20pm
Thanks for the encouragement as far as
myself goes. Maybe I will find that
someone soon!
Well, good luck and i'll keep you in my
prayers as well.
~jennifer~
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wife2jason_mom2ryley
Experienced User , Rather EHEALTHy
Joined: 19 Sep 2005 Posts: 288 Location: Amherst VA
have you considered that you may be
suffering from post-partum depression? Is
it possible?
Good luck!
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diamondsz
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Posted: 11-25-05 07:41am
Hey teresa,
I went through similar thing after
having elisa, almost like all the feelings
fade for awhile try about 6
months...................
You have to make time for yourselfs as
well as alone time, I go out 1-2 a month
with friends or with hubby, I find it
gives me a break from baby as well as
hubby. As for sex try new things, dont
be afraid to voice your opinion on it I
know after having a kid I felt so gross
and I gained alot of weight but its almost
like hubby knew how I felt and was very
supportive.
Honestly try a few things first, go out
for the whole day and just relax and then
go home to a glass of wine or do something
you did with hubby when you first met him
try and remeber what made you like him
orginally. Good men are hard to find and
honestly I really hope thing will work
out, its hard for me to go into details
about everything but send me a pm or email
and maybe we can chat about it, I really
do understand!!!!
