He's Not Attracted to Me Any More Posted: 10-10-05 18:14pm
My boyfriend and I have been going out for
a year. We actually just had our 1 year
anniversary. We're both 19.
He hasnt been horny at all lately, and I
asked him about it.
He said that he's not sexually attracted
to me anymore, but he still loves me.
And he has been this way for the past
month.
I don't know what to do about it. Help!
Is this normal?
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Justin_Toronto
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Joined: 28 Jan 2005 Posts: 418 Location: Toronto, ON
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Posted: 10-11-05 14:07pm
Is this normal? For some people, yes.
But that doesn't justify anything.
Unfortunately physical attraction is a
strong part of our relationships in our
world---especially being from a big city
like toronto. What you need to find out
is why he is not sexually attracted to you
anymore.. Is it appearance, or that he
doesn't enjoy the sexual experiences.
You both need to do your job to fulfill
each other's needs. Also, if he's not
fulfilling his sexual desires with you,
where is he doing it? Masturbation?
Justin
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bebe1234
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Joined: 02 Sep 2005 Posts: 8 Location: toronto
Posted: 10-12-05 00:50am
I have asked him why, and he says that he
doesnt know why.
I also asked if its me, or him? And he
said mostly likely him. But i'm not sure
if he's just saying this to be nice.
I'm not sure how he fullfills himself. I
think he just doesnt do anything. Or we
have sex sometimes, but I think he only
wants it because he hasnt had it in
awhile, not because I turned him on.
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DLSmexico
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Joined: 26 Sep 2005 Posts: 4 Location: Mexico
Posted: 10-12-05 23:30pm
At 19....I wanted to have sex with any
woman I could find. I would suspect
something else. It isn't your fault. In
any event, without sex it is extremely
difficult for a relationship to
survive.....Even with love. Maybe he is
wanting to let you go but doesn't know how
to do it.
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bebe1234
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Joined: 02 Sep 2005 Posts: 8 Location: toronto
Posted: 10-13-05 11:36am
I asked if he wanted to break up, but he
said he didnt, wants to be together , and
still loves me
so I duno?
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Kittykatus
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Joined: 12 Oct 2005 Posts: 89 Location: United Kingdom
Posted: 10-14-05 07:07am
Even though he's giving you the 'i don't
know why' you really should sit down and
have a chat with him. Perhaps try
something new in your sex life.
Relationships go through phases in any
form whether it's sexually, physically,
etc.
Experiment a little and talk to him.
I know it's troubling but the fact he
loves you is great. Sex is good agreed,
but the fact he still loves you is what is
holding you together.
Good luck
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Lilypad
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Joined: 10 Oct 2005 Posts: 1043 Location: Ohio, USA
Re: He's Not Attracted to Me Any More Posted: 11-26-05 09:21am
bebe1234
wrote:
my boyfriend and I have been
going out for a year. We actually just
had our 1 year anniversary. We're both
19.
He hasnt been horny at all lately, and I
asked him about it.
He said that he's not sexually attracted
to me anymore, but he still loves me.
And he has been this way for the past
month.
