Joined: 10 Oct 2005 Posts: 10 Location: McComb, OH
He Thinks His Penis Is Small Posted: 10-10-05 21:21pm
My husband thinks that he has a small
penis, and I feel like it's my fault.
I've never been able to orgasm during sex,
neither through intercourse or oral. I
think this makes him feel like he isn't
big enough. I reassure him all the time
that he's fine. He's not small, and it's
not his fault. It's mine. With him
thinking this way, it puts more pressure
on me to come, which reduces the
likeliness of it happening. I guess I
have two frustrations. I can't get off,
and my husband doesn't feel like he
measures up. If anyone has any advice...
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RGLwantababy
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 30 Sep 2005 Posts: 14 Location: USA
Reply Posted: 10-11-05 12:22pm
Don't feel as though it's just you in that
situation. I have that same problem as
well. I do not seem to come during sex
either. I can come sometimes during
oral. I even come during oral while
doing him. He (my boyfriend) also
makes comments sometimes about his size.
So, don't feel bad I can relate. :d
try masturbating. I do it all the time
with or without him. Get to know ur self
and what u like first then the rest will
fall into place.
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Justin_Toronto
Experienced User , Rather EHEALTHy
Joined: 28 Jan 2005 Posts: 418 Location: Toronto, ON
Posted: 10-11-05 14:19pm
Simply put, sexuality is all in your head.
Your mind determines how your body
responds. Let's face it, if in your mind
you are not into the guy, the situation,
or the experience.. Regardless of his
size, physical appearance, or what he
does... You will not orgasm, or even get
sexually aroused.
Besides this, you also need to teach your
body how to orgasm.. The release is
something you bring yourself to, and
release. It doesn't matter how good he
is in bed, if you haven't learned how your
body acts and reacts, you will not orgasm.
This is typically learned through
self-masturbation and experimenting.
And lastly, he has a responsibility to
learn your body too... You determine
which feelings, touches, and atmosphere
your enjoy the most and he has to comply
with this. A girl's body is a lot more
complex than pornography leads men to
believe... He needs to do some learning
too.
Justin
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psyco2004
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 10 Oct 2005 Posts: 10 Location: McComb, OH
Posted: 10-11-05 15:14pm
Thanks for the advice. I do masturbate,
and I can get off then, but it seems as
thought when he's down there, and hits the
right spot, I can't take it. I have
purchased and read a few books on orgasms,
and I feel like I am learning some things,
and I am hoping when he returns home from
iraq that he will also learn. I would
like to know how to make him feel more
confident about his size. I have never,
never thought that there was anything
wrong with his penis. It's perfect. He
told me that when he comes home, he wants
to start taking these pills to make it
bigger, because it will make him feel
better. I told him that I don't want it
to be any bigger, but it is his penis.
But, we're married, and shouldn't I have a
say in it?
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Lilypad
Extremely EHEALTHy
Joined: 10 Oct 2005 Posts: 1043 Location: Ohio, USA
Posted: 10-17-05 02:33am
Practice makes perfect
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RGLwantababy
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 30 Sep 2005 Posts: 14 Location: USA
In Reply to Psyco2004 Posted: 10-18-05 11:55am
I like to talk dirty and try all kinds of
exoctic things with my man. Often times
I find that when I perform oral on him
that his size increases when he is really
turned on. But, I do all kinds of things
to take his mind away from his size.
But, have you ever noticed that when you
get used to their size you adjust. I
like the size of my man because it just
feels right. He can beat it the way that
I like. So I am satisfied.
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hpylar
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 03 Nov 2005 Posts: 6 Location: Michigan
Posted: 11-03-05 17:13pm
Been there, done that. Listen you are
making too much out of this. Many, many
women do not orgasm threw intercourse
alone. In fact very few can, your love
making can be wonderful regardless of the
size.
That is a very touchy subject for a man.
May I offer some advice in the "how to
make your man feel big without being big"
when you are fooling around, focus on how
hard it is. Tell him that it is soooo
hard, men love that. Try saying "oh my
god you are so hard" it will make him feel
like a king. Tell him you love the way it
feels, taste, you get the idea. If you
enjoy oral, the spot just below his
testies is a big turn on for a man. The
truth is, this does not have to be an
issue, unless you want it to be. I have
had big and small and I would take small
any day of the week. Men with smaller
packages are the best lovers.
I am 42 and can only cum threw oral.
Never threw intercourse. My husband
thought like yours and I had to do some
research to prove to him that not all
women can. I told him I like it, the way
he feels inside, but I am not going to
cum. Since he knows this, he works extra
hard on making me enjoy myself the other
way.
If this is the only thing thats a problem
and the rest of your marriage is happy,
make it a non issue. Invent your own fun.
Once you get him feeling more at ease
with himself, the rest will be easy. Good
luck
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hell
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 04 Nov 2005 Posts: 7 Location: Redcar
Reply Posted: 11-04-05 09:20am
Hello my boy friend also thinks he's too
small, but to make life a little bit
easyer I fake it some time's to build up
his conferdance I found that this works.
Which is better for both of us as I love
him and I set ut to make him happy
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Lilypad
Extremely EHEALTHy
Joined: 10 Oct 2005 Posts: 1043 Location: Ohio, USA
Re: Reply Posted: 11-04-05 09:22am
hell
wrote:
hello my boy friend also
thinks he's too small, but to make life a
little bit easyer I fake it some time's to
build up his conferdance I found that this
works. Which is better for both of us as
I love him and I set ut to make him
happy
i think faking it is a bad idea. You are
cheating yourself
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Lilypad
Extremely EHEALTHy
Joined: 10 Oct 2005 Posts: 1043 Location: Ohio, USA
Posted: 11-06-05 04:10am
Many women cant orgasm during intercourse
from penetration alone. I think if your
man realizes that he wont take it so
personal.
Also maybe you should tell him that it
is better for both of you if you get off
first (thru oral or manual
stimulation-clitoral orgasm) because you
will be much more aroused when you have
intercourse and you will feel tighter to
him and for you he will feel so much
bigger.
I have only orgasmed during sex once and
that was because I was touching myself at
the same time. There is nothing wrong
with you or your man.
Good luck to you and I hope I could be
of some help
