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bandman

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Joined: 11 Oct 2005
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Location: georgia

Anger Managment Posted: 10-12-05 07:49am


I am a husband, dad, teacher and have a very busy schedule. I work from 4 am and finish around 6 pm. I cannot sleep much and have a short fuse temper wise. I am strong into my church but at times that too causes me to be upset. Are there any hints as to what to do out there. I dont think I need medication. Worried about life and beyond

kismit

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Joined: 14 Aug 2005
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Location: tx

Posted: 10-12-05 23:11pm


Hello. Im a first time mommy so I dont know how much help I can be to you. Except that my boyfriend is sort of the same way. He doesnt really blow up I can just tell ans see it on his face that sometimes he feels overwhelmed or irritated. It maybe just the overload thing. Its tough to keep a clear head at all times... I think its normal to be worried about life and beyond...I mean I personally would be more worried if you werent. As long as you have your priorities straight then just try to enjoy the time you have...Even if your breaks come few and fair between...I know its much easier said then done but its worth a try... Again sorry if I wasnt much help. Sheena

wife2jason_mom2ryley

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Joined: 19 Sep 2005
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Location: Amherst VA

Re: Anger Managment
Posted: 11-04-05 16:19pm

bandman wrote:

i am a husband, dad, teacher and have a very busy schedule. I work from 4 am and finish around 6 pm. I cannot sleep much and have a short fuse temper wise.

I am strong into my church but at times that too causes me to be upset. Are there any hints as to what to do out there. I dont think I need medication.

Worried about life and beyond

my hubby is like that also. We are both first time parents and it has put alot of stress on both of us. My husband gets mad very easily and has a very bad temper. He has never hurt our son or myslef...And I will not let it get that far. The last time his temper flared I told him that if he didn't get some anger managment I was leaving. So, he called a few places and he will be started classes soon. I think that sometimes, that is the only thing that will help.

God bless and good luck,
teresa

Rosh

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Posted: 04-23-06 03:51am


It's pretty big of you to face up and admit you haave an anger prob. My partner has a similar thing - sometimes I think that for men getting angry is a reaction to other emotions, like being scared, feeling vulnerable, feeling sad. I think it's easier for men to be angry than to admit that they feel those things and having to deal with them - they may see those feelings as being weak. Maybe you're feeling something and getting angry out of habit, or because it's easier. You caould ask yourself if there's something else going on.

ProDad

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Here Is What Works For Me.. Posted: 05-01-06 15:30pm


I have a rotten temper. I try to not be like this but I think I got it from my dad. He was quite a tart to me for more tims than I would like to remember. I don't want my son to be saying the same thing 28 years from now. He is 3 years old going on 16 real quick. I'm sure what works will be different for everyone but here is what works for me. My situation may be a bit different as my son was born about 3 months early (11 weeks to be exact). We spent 63 of the most painful days in the newborn icu waiting for him to get out of there. Actually it was more than waiting but I won't get into the difficult and painful experiences but let's just say I would rather of someone cut one of my body parts off and have that process never have happened. After going through that I think that both my wife and I don't let little things bother us as much. Dent in our new car? Oh, well. Taxes just went up? Bummer. Lost my wallet? Have to find it or make some calls. My son crying because he can't have a second desert? Have to talk to him and explain. He will still cry but everntually he will learn. I often get frustrated and used to be a lot worst. I work long hours, have weekend projects, take care of all of our finances, investments, and overall if i'm not busy doing something I feal like I am doing something wrong. My wife is just as busy but more patient that i. Why do I do it all? For him. No really, for him. Just thinking of some of the images from the past allows me to not let little things bother me. And when they start to I just think of him. He means more to me than anything that I could ever imagine. Putting that into perspective I realize that no matter what i'm doing, not matter how a project may suffer, how tired I am, moody, etc. There is nothing more special to me than that smiling face saying "i love you daddy". Someday he will not be saying that, someday he may even hate me, so today, right now, 10 minutes from now, tomorrow, next week, and in fact the rest of our lives is our chance to make our relationship the best it can be. I think that we all can get irritated. Sometimes I wish it were legal to eliminate stupid and insensitive people from our planet. When I start to get like this even when my son is not around I use him to reverse it. I use his 1st smile, his success story coming out of a struggle to live when he was born, and most of all his unconditional scincere little voice saying "daddy, I love you". Life is way too short and kids have great memories. Use your love for your kids as a tool to help you. I'm sure they mean lots to you and they can help you. Sorry for the long post. Brian