I just got back from my doctor's visit and
I lost my baby again: 10 weeks along.
That wud make my third miscarriage. I
don't think that I can go thru this again.
I am having my d & c done on saturday
morning at 10. I don't even know how I am
going to get thru the next few days with
all the pregnancy symptoms and no baby to
show when it is all over. I am still
feeling sick and my breast are hurting me
so badly.
The doctor said that my fiance and I are
not gentically compatible :(. Last year
after my two miscarriages I got a whole
series of test done and they all came back
that nothing was wrong with me, but I told
my fiance to get tested as well and he
never did. I guess like most men he thot
that I was the problem so there was no
need for him to go.
Now my doc is saying that if a woman had a
chromosone problem that she wudn't have
been able to carry a child to term. But
the mere fact that I have a child already
wud suggest to him that I am not the
problem that my fiance is, and considering
that his ex girfriend had two miscarriages
while she was with him too, then he must
be the problem.
Now he has to send my specimen to england
to get gentic testing done on it and the
results shud be back with in a week and
then we will take things from there. But
he is also sending us for blood test as
well to see if our blood is compatible
{sigh} but he strongly advice that I don't
get pregnant again, at least not for my
fiance other wise I am going to lose the
baby again.
This is so depressing. I can't eat. I
just don't know what to do anymore. I was
so sure that this baby was going to be
alright {sigh} I don't even know how to
tell my daughter. She was so happy, so
excited. We`had even picked out names for
the baby and decided what colour we wud
paint the nursery in. Last year I spotted
with both my pregnancies so I kinda knew
that I wud lose them, but I didn't spot or
bleed a day with this one and my morning
sickness was so bad that I was so sure
that this one wud be okay {sigh}. I am
just so depressed.
The thing is that I don't know if I cud
tie tony down to me knowing that I can't
give him the children that he so baldy
wants. After all I already have my
daughter, and to be honest I am quite
happy with her. I never wanted to have
another baby until I met tony but I was
happy with gabby. But tony doesn't have
any and he really wants to have kids and
if there is someone else out there that he
can have kids with just best he be with
her and forget about me. I wud feel so
guilty asking him to stay with me knowing
that I can't give him the kids he so
desperately wants.
Oh, well, just wanted to share. I have
been so depressed :(
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justacanadiangirl
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Posted: 10-12-05 14:16pm
Awwww hunni i'm so sorry to hear that! :(
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Jordan H
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Posted: 10-12-05 14:19pm
Oh my!!! I am so sorry for what you are
going through right now. I think that you
need to sit your fiance down and have a
serious heart to heart. Get all the tests
done (including his) and see what the
results come up with. If there is no
problem with you and he is the one with
something wrong then I don't see any other
solution for him (including with someone
else)
tell him that you are feeling this way.
Maybe he can reassure you. Keep you chin
up, and remember that you already have one
beautiful daughter.
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fatfamily02
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Posted: 10-12-05 14:22pm
I am so sorry--made me cry for you. I
will pray for you. I dont know what else
to say
--except I did have 3 miscarriages before
my first son. Then a molar preg after,
and another miscarriage and then my
daughter. Then another miscarriage and
my son. They never told us anything. I
was with the same man except for first
miscarriage.
Good luck and god bless you
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mia7
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Posted: 10-12-05 14:29pm
I am sorry to hear that. I agree with the
other person on this board. You both
need to be tested to see what is wrong and
have long talk.
Keep in touch and let us know how you are
doing.
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Mommie Dearest
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Posted: 10-12-05 15:36pm
Thank you all so very, very much!!! I
can't seem to stop crying {sigh}. I mean
I know went thru this before but this time
around just seems so much harder. I guess
it's the whole trying to cope with the
fact that tony & I may not be
compatible, it's jus so hard. But we
talked just now and we are going to get
tested and then we are going to take
things from there and see what happens.
He did tell me not to jump the gun that
the most important thing right now is
getting the d & c done and getting me
back to what I was before and then we can
talk about anything else after that. He
said my mental and physically heath has to
be imprtant righ tnow and then we can
discuss other things. I guess that made
me feel gud in a way, but I am still so
sad :(
anyway, I will chat with you guys after
saturday aok and once again big thank you
for everything!!!
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chaosbob
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Posted: 10-12-05 17:32pm
Good luck sweetie..Keep your head up!
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lidarkeyes
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Posted: 10-12-05 22:48pm
:cry: my heart goes out to you and I can't
imagine the pain! Keep your head up, I
will pray for you and your husband and may
god bless you too with a miracle!
Take care!
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annarella
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Posted: 10-13-05 03:49am
.............I'm sure theres nothing much
I can say that will help you much at this
moment, but I just wanted to say that i'm
thinking about you in this difficult
time!, am sooooo sorry for your loss, but
like your partner said, you've got to
think about your immediate heath now and
step by step you can talk about the
possible problems and a bit at a time you
both will come through this terrible time!
I'm sure your daughter will instinctivly
understand u (however young she is),and
will help you immensly!!
Xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx
annarella
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First_time_mum
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Posted: 10-13-05 06:21am
Oh dear, oh dear. I am sorry to hear
that mommy dearest. Your decision is
right. Have both of you checked-up and
take it from there. Take a well deserved
rest and wish you well soon.
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Mommie Dearest
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Posted: 10-14-05 08:26am
Thank you!!! To all of you!!!!
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kirztensmummy
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Posted: 10-14-05 22:29pm
:(oh dear... I am so sorry to hear that.
But I admire you coz youre strong not many
women could handle your situation like you
did and you gotta stay that way for your
daughter and your finace please dont blame
yourself for what happened, maybe
everything happens for a reason. Just
wish you and your family the best. Hang
in there sweetie
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Mommie Dearest
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Posted: 10-15-05 06:50am
Today I am going to get my d & c done
at 10:00, in about two hours and although
I have gone thru this twice before I am
still so scared and so nervous. I guess
with the ones last year I started spotting
and I heard no heartbeat, so a part of me
was prepared for the worse and besides I
was 7 weeks with my first and 9 with the
twin. But with this baby I actually heard
the heartbeat....Twice and I am already 11
weeks along, almost three months. I
didn't spot or bleed with this this one
either. I was so sure that this baby was
going to be okay, so this time around it
is harder for me {sigh}. But I will touch
base with you guys maybe next week, not
sure that i'll be in any condition to use
the net for the next two days or so. But
thanks for all your warm words and your
prayers. Really appreciate it, you have
no idea just how much.
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