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OaTmEaLfAiRy
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When You First Found Out...
Posted: 10-13-05 14:38pm
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How many girls here were seriously
considering abortion? What changed your
mind? (my sister is 17 and seriously
considering it, I just need a little hope
and something to keep my faith up.)
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jaydynsmomi
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young_mom
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Posted: 10-13-05 15:52pm
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I never thought about it. I seen it as I
could have used condoms and I didn't and
this is what I got out of it. So i'm
going to make the best of it. I'm 16 and
only 10weeks and 5days, and I really can't
wait till my baby gets here. And I
really don't think its fair to do
something like that if you are going to go
and have sex then you should be ready for
what can come of it. Thats how I look at
it. There are people out there that will
say I am wrong. But I think your sister
should really think long and hard about
this. I mean no one can tell her she
can't but she should really take the time
to think about that.
I hope everything works out for her. And
I wish her the best of luck.
~ashley~
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mia7
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Posted: 10-13-05 15:56pm
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I did not consider abortion! Nooo!!
I have heard of some people whose minds
were changed when they went in for an
ultrasound and heard the baby's heartbeat
for the first time.
If you are hoping that your sister keeps
the baby than try to have her go and get
the ultrasound. You can also go to
google.Com and type in fetal development
and click on "images" there's tons of
pictures of what the baby looks like.
It's amazing to see how much like a little
human they look like at such early stage.
I hope she does not kill her baby. Don't
let her!!!
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mia7
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Posted: 10-13-05 15:56pm
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I did not consider abortion! Nooo!!
I have heard of some people whose minds
were changed when they went in for an
ultrasound and heard the baby's heartbeat
for the first time.
If you are hoping that your sister keeps
the baby than try to have her go and get
the ultrasound. You can also go to
google.Com and type in fetal development
and click on "images" there's tons of
pictures of what the baby looks like.
It's amazing to see how much like a little
human they look like at such early stage.
I hope she does not kill her baby. Don't
let her!!!
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OaTmEaLfAiRy
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Ultrasounds And Development.
Posted: 10-13-05 22:09pm
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She has pretty much refused (so far) to
research anything but the minimal
procedures of abortion. She's barely
researched that. I've already tried
everwhere except the actual abortion
clinic (which, i've heard won't let you
look when they do the sonogram) for an
ultrasound but I keep getting, "oh, your
insurance won't cover it." even our family
doctor shot me down. She also shot my
mother down when she asked if we could get
a fetal heartbeat monitor. Supposedly we
can't hear it at 5 weeks, although the
nurse (at the same office, working for
that same doctor) said that you might get
a faint "whoosh, whoosh" if you listen
carefully. My sister has a counseling
session tomorrow with a church counselor.
She is inactive and has been for about a
year, so she'll probably just ignore
anything I say pertaining to heaven, hell,
or god. Right now, all i've got is a
little hope, some floundering faith, and a
lot of anxiety. I hope this guy can
inform her (at least) about what she plans
to do and maybe about what she could do
otherwise. I am not even opposed to her
putting the baby up for adoption, just as
long as she doesn't homicide it for
something it had no say in.
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babyrae
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Posted: 10-13-05 22:24pm
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The 3rd time I got preggy I didnt think
about abortion cuz I had one my first time
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Jazzy36
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Posted: 10-14-05 12:35pm
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It didnt cross my mind, because I had a
miscarriage and I know what it feels like
to lose a precious life...Maybe if that
wasnt the case, I would have considered
it..
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BrianBaby
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Posted: 10-14-05 16:59pm
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It was never an option in my mind...
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herexwexgoxagain
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Posted: 10-15-05 11:34am
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Yes, actually, I seriously considered an
abortion, and I am so glad that I didn't.
Just tell her that if she's going to be
going through with the procedure that,
even though she's scared and wants to get
rid of her problem now, her grieving time
will come and she'll have to suffer the
emotional consequences of having lost her
own child. If she surfs the net and
researches some stories about women who
have had abortions, she'll find that all
of them have some feeling of regret and
loss.
Best of luck to her though. Message me if
you ever need me. :)
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mia7
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Posted: 10-15-05 14:21pm
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Yes, I have heard that abortion clinics
say the minimum to those who have
abortions.
I know some girls who have had abortions
and they really regret it afterwards.
It's been years since and they still feel
bad.
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Kimmeh
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Posted: 10-15-05 18:12pm
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I never considured it. I'm 17 too, and
just about 20 weeks pregnant. When I
found out I was pregnant I was not all
that surprised (i had felt like I was for
a while), but when I first decided to have
sex I sat down and thought about the
consequences of my actions and what could
come of it. I did the best I could to be
protected (birth control and condoms) but
lol somehow I still got pregnant. I must
be very fertal or something. Lol.
Anyways yeah but since I had really
thought about how this could happen before
hand I had also planned on what I would
do. So abortion and adoption just where
not options for me. Plus I would have
felt guilty and like I was taking the easy
way out and I hate that feeling of not
doing everything you can. Good luck to
you and your sister. No matter what she
chooses please stick by her. Getting
pregnant at 17 is a very emotional thing
to go through and stressful. If you want
to talk pm me or send me an email.
Kimmie
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diamondsz
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Re:abortion
Posted: 10-15-05 19:59pm
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If your sister wants an abortion let her
have it in good reason
before anyone uses hell or heaven listen
to this
sex before marriage is a sin (so if you
get raped you sinned) abortion is a sin
I had an abortion at 16 I was dating an
abusive guy, that night he kept saying he
wanted to finish in me and I said no! ( I
was on b/c by the way) I left my parent
home because I loved this guy (he was 23)
and I did alot of what he asked of me and
still got mental and physical abuse.
Anyways while doing the deed he was an ass
and pulled the condom off he claimed it
broke because when we were done he wasnt
wearing one anymore. I dont regret
having an abortion it finally made me
realize what an ass he was ( he told me if
the test came positive he would beath the
f^^^ out of me until the health questions
died.) I have learned so much from my
freaking mistakes
i dont want your pity
i dont want your hate
i believe in abortion in certain case but
dont abuse it
i married now, me and hubby said no matter
what happens we will keep them but the
environment in which my children grow is
filled of love and not hate and I love
being a mom but I think my expierence have
been a big learning curve
abortion is not birth control but it is
something that is there to help us woman
in times of desperate need I would never
do it again but I will not see hate mail
that incredibly immature
the clinic I went to actually tried to
persuade me from doing it and I had 3
counselling appt before I could do it
(they wanted to know who the father is and
I had to lie I didnt want to be in harms
way) ex bf even followed me when me and
hubby were dating and kept calling me
constantly he threw a beer bottle at me
cause I wouldnt date him................I
threw the bottle back him and walked away
since then I took self defense courses in
case the cops cant stop a stalker if hes
not on my property but I havent seen him
in two years so im happy
sorry I made this so long I had to share
this im 21 by the way
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herexwexgoxagain
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Re:abortion
Posted: 10-16-05 12:59pm
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| diamondsz
wrote: | if your sister wants an
abortion let her have it in good reason
before anyone uses hell or heaven listen
to this
sex before marriage is a sin (so if you
get raped you sinned) abortion is a sin
I had an abortion at 16 I was dating an
abusive guy, that night he kept saying he
wanted to finish in me and I said no! (
I was on b/c by the way) I left my parent
home because I loved this guy (he was 23)
and I did alot of what he asked of me and
still got mental and physical abuse.
Anyways while doing the deed he was an ass
and pulled the condom off he claimed it
broke because when we were done he wasnt
wearing one anymore. I dont regret
having an abortion it finally made me
realize what an ass he was ( he told me if
the test came positive he would beath the
f^^^ out of me until the health questions
died.) I have learned so much from my
freaking mistakes
i dont want your pity
i dont want your hate
i believe in abortion in certain case but
dont abuse it
i married now, me and hubby said no matter
what happens we will keep them but the
environment in which my children grow is
filled of love and not hate and I love
being a mom but I think my expierence have
been a big learning curve
abortion is not birth control but it is
something that is there to help us woman
in times of desperate need I would never
do it again but I will not see hate mail
that incredibly immature
the clinic I went to actually tried to
persuade me from doing it and I had 3
counselling appt before I could do it
(they wanted to know who the father is and
I had to lie I didnt want to be in harms
way) ex bf even followed me when me and
hubby were dating and kept calling me
constantly he threw a beer bottle at me
cause I wouldnt date him................I
threw the bottle back him and walked away
since then I took self defense courses in
case the cops cant stop a stalker if hes
not on my property but I havent seen him
in two years so im happy
sorry I made this so long I had to share
this im 21 by the
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i think that's great that you're happy and
content with your past abortion, but I
when you said "if you were raped you
sinned" I had to say something about that.
I don't really understand why you said
that, considering we were never talking
about rape in the first place, but if
someone is raped they have not sinned
because it was beyond their control and
they did not put themselves in that
situation. I just disagreed greatly with
that statement and had to say that.
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diamondsz
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Re:abortion
Posted: 10-17-05 07:39am
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I think that's great that you're happy and
content with your past abortion, but I
when you said "if you were raped you
sinned" I had to say something about that.
I don't really understand why you said
that, considering we were never talking
about rape in the first place, but if
someone is raped they have not sinned
because it was beyond their control and
they did not put themselves in that
situation. I just disagreed greatly with
that statement and had to say
that.[/quote]
>>>>>basically if your noty
a virgin when you get married then it a
sin this is concluding to catholic
religion, even if you were raped because
then you loose ur virginity. I know its
stupid but if you look back at the time
frame woman had no rights and you at fault
if u got raped basically you were
considered to have seduced a man an one
would have believed u otherwise. My
friend was raped and got one done when she
went to do a confession at church the
priest judged her saying she had commited
two sins and that she would really need to
ask gods forgiveness.
This board is about abortion and why ppl
chose not to have one but ppl should be
allowed to voice if they want one or have
had one.
This is why I have this I want woman to
know that abortion is there for people who
desparatly need
it....................Girls who get
pregnant from no protection well you asked
for it and well the ones who get 10
abortions its not right ..
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babyrae
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Posted: 10-17-05 08:28am
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There will always be different views on
abortions. But as I always said "you
cannot judge until you are in that
position".
Also, I have heard of rape being known as
a sin. In an amish town there was a girl
who got raped and her parents shunned her
and disowned her from the family. They
said what she did was a sin and was
inforgiveable by them cuz she soiled their
name or something. I dont know much about
religions since im not into any of them
but ive heard its different with many
religions so I guess it all depends on
your religion and beliefs.
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OaTmEaLfAiRy
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Abuse?
Posted: 10-17-05 21:51pm
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I think the two main reasons she wants an
abortion is because she's afraid of
something (probably childbirth) and "the
boy" is a jerk! He keeps nagging her to
get an abortion and he's always calling
her just to be like, "when are you going
to get it done? We need to get this done
soon!" which I really don't understand.
Why does he say "we"? He's not going to
be the one driving her 2 hours to kill her
baby. He's not going to be the one
sitting next to her bed waiting for her to
wake up (if she does it late or passes
out). He won't be the one babying her
when she gets home, or holding her hair if
she gets nauseous as a side effect! He
won't be there when she needs a shoulder
to cry on or someone to talk to! I just
want to punch this boy in the throat!
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