Please Help Explain

No offense, but why r u getting an abortion???

Is a major surgery, and they need all the info on you that they can get. To do research on the baby...They don't just throw them out or give them a burial, they work on them. Please do not have an abortion if you are preg, every baby deserves a chance.

Jennifer

Im not going to have one I was just exploring all my options....

How old r u? And how far gone r u?
Liz

7 to 8 weeks

Sorry for such the short answer but imi 20 years old and I am having a lot of complications with this pregnancy....

What complications r u having? Did u want this baby? What about the father? Sorry about the questions it's just we cant say much if we dont know the story

Well, once I tell you about it you will probably not want to hear about "my" story but me and the father are together and we decided to have a termination but it was just hard to do because I knew there was something going wrong...I was bleeding very heavy after I went to the doctors and they did tests and told me I was pregnant. I was told when I was around 5 years old that I would never be able to carry a child because I had internal bleeding when I was 5yrs and they had to do whatever possible and they said that they had damaged alot of vital things...My parents told me that doctors are always wrong and that it was possible to get pregnant and I didn't really believe them because I have only been sexually active with one guy (my boyfriend) and had unprotected sex for 4yrs and then this happened and I know that they was something wrong because of the heavy bleeding and I know it it normal to spot when pregnant but this was defiantly not spotting...So anyways decisions later here I am and I had gotten an abortion earlier this week and I am not feeling alright about it...It just makes me sick to think about the whole thing, and I really miss being pregnant and now I feel extremely guilty.

Well, I can understand you feeling horrible and guilty about it, but then aagin, maybe you should be. Your body and the bleeding that was happening was nature taking it's course...Whatever it was leading to. But taking matters into your own hands is another story altogether.
I'm sorry, I just have a really hard time finding compassion for people that are able to kill an innocent life and then need sympathy and help from someone else....Where were you when your baby needed help?

I totally agree with u.These people want sympathy & yet,do they deserve it? No matter how hard it seems,the poor baby is always the one who takes the punishment 4 its parents mistakes. Its so sad a life has 2 end like this when it's hardly even begun

You are upset about this. You will be fine. And your baby will come when you are ready. Just do us all a favor and use protection and do as much as you can to make sure you don't get pregnant until you are ready. Abortion is not a form of birth control.

Jennifer

Thank you jennifer for the constructive post, but some may see it as sympathy but sympathy can only occur when the one who receives it asks for it...Well you dont see me asking for anything so please dont post if you have know idea what you are talking about...But if you think you know people through a few paragraphs off a web-site then you must be an fool. Oh and by the way an ectopic pregnancy is "not" nature running its coarse and thats what they found in this pregnacy and the abortion that I had was not only for me not being able to have children in the future. But oh well your right im a bad person for knowing my body and knowing that something was wrong and your a bad person for replying to something you had nothing to say to but bad comments. But if you think that people like me deserve pain well im in pain now more than ever.

They need to know your medical history and your blood type because with abortion there is a chance that you can lose to much blood...

You are mixing your beliefs with medicine and it's not right. I am pro choice. A baby is not a baby until you've given birth to it. Can a fetus drink from a bottle? Can a fetus cross the street? Can a fetus do their chores? Did think so. Stop confusing your logic with science. As for sympathy, I think we all have choices. Sounds like this girl made the right one for herself.
For me, i've chosen not to listen to a person who posts a "sex in the city" picture next to her name and then judges others for their choices. If you are an avid "sex in the city" viewer you will remember that three of the women decided to have an abortion... Seems like you are still tooning in. Why don't you write sarah jessica parker about her character choices while your at it.


Best,
jesse

And am I not entitled to my opinions?...I think I am!!! I am fine with u guys having ur opinions and I will not judge u for that so please do not judge me.U can think what u want.And by the way,this post was written by me on 16th decemeber (over a month ago) & I 4got about it til I got an email 2 tell me there was a reply!
Best wishes
p.S. I love sex and the city! I wouldnt stop watching it because one of them had an abortion-its fictional!!

Your "facts" about abortion are also fictional.

You have a right to your opinoion, but this is a health forum, not an opinion colum.

Best,
jesse

If its not an opinion column then don't impose your opinions either.

May debate is based on science. Science is not an opinion. I'm simply asking people to call it a fetus and not a baby.