He Lost Virginity At 12 :( Posted: 10-17-05 18:14pm
Hey,
im 17 and my bf is 18, weve been together
for 2 years and we knew each other as
friends years before we got together. He
lost his virginity when he was 12 with a
girl who was also 12, and his next time
was with me when he was 16 and I was 15.
Thing is, even though its been years since
it happened and weve been together years,
it still rips me in two to think that I
gave him my virginity when I was 15, but
his had already been taken :( he says it
didnt mean anything at all and that he now
hates the girl he slept with, but she is
still around and everytime I see her it
kills me to look at her and know that she
took what I wished for. My bf tell's me I
should'nt think about it and not to worry
cos he loves me so much and always will,
and that she meant nothing, but it hurts
so much. Everytime I bring it up he gets
mad and say's he does'nt want to talk
about it. Can anyone else understand
where im coming from ? :( xxx
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TysonH
Experienced User , Rather EHEALTHy
Joined: 14 Sep 2005 Posts: 52
Posted: 10-17-05 22:36pm
I'm in the same position. My g/f and I
have been dating for over 6 months and had
sex for my first time. She is 18 and I am
19..She lost hers at 14..And had sex with
two other guys after that..One including a
onenight stand....Thinkin of that just
rips me apart..It just hurts. But she now
knows what love is, since i'm with
her...But I know how it hurts..However, he
should still talk to u about it..My g/f
and I talk bout it when it's on my
mind..However i'm always asking
questions..Even questions that are
irrelevant, and qusetions I ahve already
asked.. It just never ends. I'm just
surprised after 2 years it still bothers
you. I hope to god it leaves me
soon..Good luck!
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elaineska
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 15 Oct 2005 Posts: 28 Location: Midwest US
Posted: 10-18-05 16:48pm
I definitely know how you feel. My
boyfriend and I are both virgins and love
each other deeply, and it would hurt
either of us if we couldn't be the other's
"first." but sometimes people believe they
truly lose their virginity only if their
first is with someone they love or care
about. Perhaps you could consider
yourself to be his "true" first. Most of
the time when you're 12 you don't really
know what you're doing anyway. I'm
suprised he had even hit puberty that
young! But anyway, I hope this makes you
feel better. If not, i'm sure you two can
work out your feelings somehow :)
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chaosbob
Experienced User , Rather EHEALTHy
Joined: 21 Jun 2005 Posts: 148 Location: LA
Posted: 10-19-05 13:01pm
Holy...12 is some young to be having
sex....They should be still playing with g
I joes, and barbies for christ sakes
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Kittykatus
Experienced User , Rather EHEALTHy
Joined: 12 Oct 2005 Posts: 89 Location: United Kingdom
Posted: 10-19-05 14:06pm
I know exactly how you feel hunny. But at
the end of the day-you've shared something
special with him, and he's sharing you
love with you. It does suck. Half of my
mates have said that they lost their
virginity to 'experienced' men, but they
have stuck with them and the relationship
has strenghtened. As long as you love
each other then that's all that matters.
Don't let it dwindle on your mind,
otherwise it will rule your mind and you
make yourself unwell. Believe me I know
xx
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Lilypad
Extremely EHEALTHy
Joined: 10 Oct 2005 Posts: 1043 Location: Ohio, USA
Posted: 10-22-05 06:33am
My husband and I made an agreement not to
disclose how many partners we've had
(thank god) because we feel all that
matters now is that we are together.
I know its too late for you and that you
already know, but I think it is unfair to
make him feel bad for having a life before
you!
Just think if something terrible happened
to your boyfriend now, or you broke up,
you would eventually move on and sleep
with someone else. How would you feel if
that person gave you a hard time??
And he said he cant stand that girl now,
so there shouldnt be anything to be jealus
about.
I say, lighten up and move on. Let the
past stay in the past and quit bringing up
a sore subject!
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