i'm sad, lonley and confused right now.
I'll try not to write a novel so please
bear with me! Alright, my boyfriend and I
have been together for 16 months. The
first few months were great, and then I
found out he was bipolar. Well, needless
to say I didn't know what to do about
that, so I talked to his mom. She told me
that he was diagnosed when he was 12 and
was put on a type of lithium. Well he
turned 18 and refused to take his medicine
anymore. He said it made him gain weight,
make his hair fall out, and made him sick
to his stomach. Then he started hanging
out with the wrong people. He had always
been the "bad boy" type. He was caught up
in felony charges of burgulary, drug
posession, and forgery. He went to prison
and was released out on shock probation.
Then he gets arrested a few more times but
does not get his probation revoked. Well
now it is 2005. He has a very good job in
the coal mines, and passing all of hid
random drug screens when he goes to
probation. The problem is that I found
out that he had been seeing the so-called
friends who helped him get into trouble
before. I know it was his fault but
they're not good influences either. So
anyway, this hurts me so badly that i'm
seriously considering leaving him. I
don't know what else to do. I'm not
trying to run his life but the dea has
already been to some of his old friends
house for drug busts, and he has 1 1/2
years left on his probation. If he goes
back to jail one more time then he'll be
gone for 5 years in the state pen. I
don't want that to happen. All i'm doing
is trying to help and to keep him out of
trouble. Is that so wrong? If you have
any advice then please let me know.
Thanks
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Jennifer23
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Posted: 10-19-05 08:36am
I think you should express your concerns
to your boyfriend. Let him know how you
feel and ask him what he thinks you should
do. Ask him to put himself in your shoes
and go from there.
Hope everything works out for you. Good
luck!
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Gh0stbear
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Re: Sad And Lonley Posted: 10-20-05 10:06am
Hi rhiannon,
i agree, you definatly have to talk to him
about your concerns. Its a normal guy
trait to be loyal to your friends.. Even
the bad ones. Let him know how worried
you are. Tell him that you love him and
thats why you dont want him in that
situation, not because you dont like his
friends. You might want to point out
that if he goes away to prison again, you
might not be there when you get back. Do
it in a kind, concerning way.. But tell
him to concider the oposite. If you went
away for five years, could he not see
anybody else in that time? Is it worth
the risk of loosing you for a couple hours
of fun with your friends? Is it worth
giving up all the things that he's worked
for since that time; his new job, a woman
that loves him, ect.. For a chance to
hang out with his buddies once in awhile?
Loyalty isn't a bad trait at all... But
he needs to realize that if his friends
really, really cared about him then they
woulnd't ask him to be in a position to
risk all that.
Just a guys view on the situation.
Best of luck to you rhiannon.. Hang in
there girl. I hope it all works out for
the best for you.
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