I'm 23 years old and I just lost my
virginity last week. Yeah, I waited til
I was ready. The thing is though,
nothing really happened beyond the initial
penetration, because it hurt so bad. It
felt like he hit something when he was all
the way in, I experienced a really sharp
pain, one I couldn't ignore. We tried
again, me on top, same thing. What could
he be hitting? He's average sized, not a
monster... I'm not a very big girl, i'm
only 4'8... Could that have something to
do with it? Could it have been my
cervix or something? I hope to get to
the bottom of this!! I didn't wait this
long not to be able to do anything! :)
thank you.
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Jennifer23
Experienced User , Rather EHEALTHy
Joined: 18 Oct 2005 Posts: 76 Location: Texas
Posted: 10-19-05 09:30am
Well, if you just lost your virginity,
then he is probably hitting your hymen!
It's a thin piece of tissue that is
usually broken when you first have sex.
It's not that way for all women. Some
women don't have hymen, some don't hurt at
all. It's different for every woman.
A lot of women will say that there first
time was painful and they bled afterwards.
You just got to take it slow, go at your
own pace and listen to your body. It
will get more comfortable the more you do
it and you'll be able to enjoy it more.
Good luck!
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churchie_7
Experienced User , Rather EHEALTHy
Joined: 18 Jul 2005 Posts: 58
Posted: 10-19-05 09:40am
I had the same kind of pain. So my
wedding night (my first time) was nothing
like you see in the movies!! We just
took it really slow, and made sure there
was plenty of lubrication. It was
uncomfortable the first few times for me,
and then things came easier. Like
jennifer said, just take it slow and don't
force anything. Listen to your body.
You know it better than anyone.
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Tylanas
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Posted: 10-19-05 18:54pm
If you weren't feeling pain until he was
all the way in, then it couldn't have been
your hymen, since the hymen is at the
entance to the vagina, not deep inside of
it :p
he may be hitting your cervix; or he may
be hitting your vaginal walls in a way
that you simply find painful. Again, just
take it slow and discover together what
works :)
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Jessrne
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 10 Jun 2005 Posts: 23 Location: Andersonville
Nothing You Haven't Heard Posted: 10-23-05 10:38am
Remember when you used your first tampon.
That was a different feeling that you had
to get use to, sex is the same way. The
mussels needs to stretch out before he
will glide in and out smoothly.
Also, your cervix is going to be lower
than most women because of your size.
I'm 5' and if my husband goes a little to
deep or we try a new position than i'll
feel him hit against my cervix.
Again you just have to listen to your
body. Your partner should be willing to
listen to you to make sex an enjoyable
experience for you both.
Hope this has helped!
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sarah1
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 10 Nov 2005 Posts: 1
Posted: 11-10-05 12:35pm
I think I may have the same problem, I too
waited until I had found the right guy (am
25) have now been with my boyfriend for
nearly a year and we have not been able to
have sex yet. I am only 5'1. I went to
see my gp and she said I have a very short
vagina, that she could easily feel my
cervix and that my boyfriend would only be
able to fit half way inside me. But we
haven't even managed that.
Are there any positions that would make it
easier?
