Hey Dads I Could Use Your Help...if You Can Posted: 10-18-05 22:40pm
Hi dads.
Im a first time mom and in my 28wk. I am
here to ask you if you would be able to
help me with somethings.
Me and my boyfriend are both new at this
and dont really know what to expect. I
have been the one who is trying to read up
on whatever I can when I can...And what he
knows about all this is what I tell him
from what ive read.
I wanna know if there are classes that he
should take to better prepare him or if
there is a website that you recommend that
helped you out.
Did you watch any videos to help you out??
What else did you do to help you prepare
for this journey??
Anything that you all can sugget would be
great...
Thanks again...
Sheena
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wife2jason_mom2ryley
Experienced User , Rather EHEALTHy
Joined: 19 Sep 2005 Posts: 288 Location: Amherst VA
Posted: 11-04-05 16:14pm
Hey...Well i'm not a daddy but my hubby
is. We ae first time parents as well. I
did the same thing you did in reading all
I could to him. There is really nothing
you can watch read ect. That is going to
prepare either of you. You can learn alot
form doing these things but when your baby
is born it will be nothing like you
expected. You will both be fine when the
baby arrives.. You will both just somehow
know what to do. My husband and I didn't
take any classes or anything and we are
doing just fine.
God bless and good luck,
teresa
just keep reading all you can to him.
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young_n_stupid
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 15 Nov 2005 Posts: 10 Location: aust. atm
Posted: 11-15-05 02:14am
Im not a dad...Yet.
My baby is due soon. Im scared as hell,
im only 17. I love my gf and my baby, but
I still dont know what to do. And im
starting to think no matter what age any
guy is going to be scared. The best thing
I can hear from my gf is she is okay, and
this is natural. Talk to him about the
pain and once he hears from you no program
or video will be able to tell him your
alright when ur giving birth, of course he
will worry he loves you and it's his baby.
Nothing is more special to a man then his
gf' and his baby. But let him no, yes it
is natural and 1000000000's of ppl go
thought it, let him know it is a labour of
love and that u need him. Men have a
funny way of stepping up to the plate when
they love their girl.
Hope this helps.
Lata. Trav.
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wife2jason_mom2ryley
Experienced User , Rather EHEALTHy
Joined: 19 Sep 2005 Posts: 288 Location: Amherst VA
Posted: 11-15-05 16:51pm
Hey trav. Are you planning on being in
the birthing room with your gf during the
delievery? My husband is only 20 (not
much older than you) and he is doing a
great job being a daddy...And i"m sure you
will also. Just be patient with your gf
and your baby...It is going to be very
very hard for you both at first but I
promise, it will get better. Do you live
with your gf??
God bless and good luck,
teresa
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kismit
Experienced User , Rather EHEALTHy
Joined: 14 Aug 2005 Posts: 114 Location: tx
Posted: 11-15-05 20:18pm
Hey trav,
thanks for your advice. I was hopin some
dads would speak up more but I guess like
you said everyone is different...
Hes been pretty good about things so far.
I mean theres only so much I can explain
to him I mean he cant fully understand
cause its my body going through it. I
understand that.
He's 22 im 21...We're not all that old...
This news and new adventure is a all
different to the two of us...It caught us
off guard...None the less we are greatful
for the blessing of her...And her being
healthy during this preg too.
I just dont want us to get all caught up
in the stress of it all and forget to
enjoy it. I want the two of us to have
fond memories of when our daughter ...From
pregnancy to birth and beyond....
Thanks again to everyone that spoke
up...Feel free to keep it coming.
Im sure you will be a great pops as long
as you stay focused and devoted like you
seem to be. Good luck and congrats...
Sheena
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perfectdiamond19
Experienced User , Rather EHEALTHy
Joined: 07 Dec 2005 Posts: 115 Location: cedartown
Posted: 12-16-05 11:14am
My husband and I are expecting, he already
has a daghter with someone else, but he
did not help raise her he was not there
for anything at all. So this is like new
to him, I am 20 and he is 23 , I am so
scared our son is due anyday now. James
my husband is all cool and he says he is
not scared. I wonder if he is jsut trying
to be strong for me. Like when we foind
out I know he cried but he will not admitt
it to me. When we found out I started
crying and he held me and then when I laid
down he went out side to smoke and I gave
him his space. I knew he got upset. His
eyes were red when he came back in . He
told me the other night that it would all
hit him once we get to the hospital / I
know he loves our son he talks to him all
the time and tells him he loves him and
kisses my belly ./ do you guys think that
he is scared? Since he has already seen
one child born
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Tamadrummer
Active User, Really EHEALTHy
Joined: 15 Oct 2004 Posts: 710 Location: Zephyrhills,Fl
Posted: 12-16-05 11:44am
There are classes here in tampa called,
something like fred's or ralph's. I
cannot remember but they are designed to
help the men become fathers/dads not just
donors to the cause.
I did not go to them because I was at the
perfect age to assist my baby brother and
baby sister grow and then I left home and
went 15 years without any children but it
is very much like getting on the bike and
riding again.
When you are in the hospital, there will
be different groups of professonials
coming around and offering services like
"wic" and mothering help as well as
fathering help.
