Biggest Mistake of My Life (affair) Posted: 10-19-05 09:59am
I had an affair with with my friends wife
while I was going thru my divorce. I
could not stop the feelings I had for her,
in addition to knowing she was being
mentally and physically abused. Four
months went by and we got caught and all
hell broke loose. She is now divorced
with four children and trying to re-build
her life. In the mean time I found
somebody else and we have broken off the
relationship. She has excepted it and is
moving on. We occasionally keep in touch
too see how things are going in each
others life. The big problem is I am
living with a extreme amount of guilt over
the whole affair and am not sure how to
deal with it anymore. I have broken up a
family, and even though it was just as
much her decision as mine to get involved
and maybe it was better for everyone, it
still was not my place or time to
determine that. What can I do? I am
becoming very depressed over this not sure
if I need medication and counseling or ???
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ironmantaylors
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Joined: 03 Nov 2005 Posts: 38 Location: montana
What to Do Posted: 11-03-05 16:16pm
What you did was wrong, and you feel guilt
because of it. With guilt, happiness
eludes you. You are lucky, you can be
happy again. You should seek counseling,
find god, ask for forgiveness from him and
the man/woman/family you destroyed. It
will take time but you will be forgiven
someday and then happy again.
Don't let it happen again.
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lovinmom4
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Joined: 11 Jun 2005 Posts: 37
Think Before Acting Posted: 11-08-05 08:13am
You should feel guilty. You did help
break up a family. And it was your
friend's family. You need to think before
acting. Like ironman said, ask for
forgiveness. You will be forgiven.
Counseling would be a good idea. At least
you do have a conscience. Just dont act
so hastily in the future. She should have
gotten out of the abusive relationship
anyway, but not in the way it come about.
Good luck.
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duedirty
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Joined: 19 Nov 2005 Posts: 6 Location: Maryland
Posted: 11-20-05 00:02am
Maybe you shouldn't bad, she may had
needed the love (the touching).
