Pregnancy Forum - Pregnant On "the Shot" And Now Girlfriend Got Abor

I'm a little reluctant to post my recent dilemma, but i'm so lost on what has happened that any feedback would be wonderful.

Background:

i had been dating my ex girlfriend in an off and on again relationship for almost 8months. She has expressed to me that she is bipolar and currently medicating herself for that situation. Over the summer in august she went to get the 3month depo-vera shot as a contraceptive measure. We had taken some time off from each other and had gotten back together on numerous occasions since august and in most incidents having sex. About a week ago she came to me at 3am in the morning very visibly upset stating that she was pregnant. We were not together at the time and I was actually starting to see someone else. My questions revolve under the validity of situation. And before I state the facts I would like to state that my first reaction was not to get an abortion....I'm 24 and she is 20 and has supposedly had a child before when she was 15 and gave it up for adoption. In my mind my first reaction was that we should first talk to as many of the appropiate people as possible. Doctors to run blood work and double check, talk to a couple's counselor to see if we could do this and possible work out our issues and other things.

But here is a list of what I know about the situation and her.

She has had a history of emotional moments in her past. Including a recent bout with cervical cancer that was to have gone into remission with drug therapy. Migraine headaches. A series of family members and people that have died in her life....Uncles, ex boyfriends, family pets, the like. And as well as her daughter that she gave up for adoption she said that she died in a car accident weeks before this incident and was informed by the adopting parent.

From what I know she had to go the emergency room due to her headaches...Her doctor was concerned about the pressure in her head and wanted to have her get a ct scan. And they take blookwork for the test and that is when she got pregnant. (my understanding is that she can't have the ct scan if she was in fact pregnant...But I dunno). Well...According to the blood work she was a week and a half pregnant. Which sounds logical in relation to our off and on again relationship? A week and a half later is when she told me. Friends had seen her out drinking and smoking after she gained the knowledge and when she came to me, she wanted to get an abortion and had one scheduled two days after she told me at a planned parenthood in our town that I found out later doesn't do them here. I talked her out of that in order to discuss possibilities. I also allowed her to stay with me again in hopes of comforting and reconciling a potential mother to be that was hysterical.

My issue comes with asking her to do bloodwork and take an ept test. She would be about three weeks pregnant and she got visibly upset when I suggested such proposals. The blood work tests always seemed to be scheduled for days down the road and I was never a part of the scheduling process, she made all appointments. She would not take a test and in turn brought out some of my doubts. I feel horrible about this cuz I just want to know for sure and then support her undyingly either way she wants to go, but I was extremely frustrated.

As of monday she had an abortion at a private physician or hospital around 4pm on monday. I told her friday and saturday that I wanted to be there with her to go through the steps and support her, as well as see how far along the fetus was and what not. Satruday we had a fight about the truth of the situation and she said she wasn't sure if I could go with her. Sunday I sent a message stating I still wanted to and on monday I called stating the same. I understand it to be her right and being what she is comfortable with, but I just feel totally left in the dark...And everything is just a little much and I don't know what to believe.

My questions are this:
1) obviously no brith control is 100%...But has anyone heard of women getting pregnant while within the first 13week period of the shot.

2) having not missed a period to signify missing a mentrual cycle...Is it possible that she could have been further along than expected? Is a week and a half a resonable expectation to find out? And can you get an abortion done before 4weeks??

3) are clinics the only places that abortions can be done? And how long do they usually last? What does she have to go through?

4) what to do now?

I know that some of these questions and issues may be sensitive and I feel like as a guy I maybe shouldn't have doubts and reservations and should be more supportive. If she was pregnant and had an abortion I feel horrible for not being as supportive...But I feel like she wanted things on her terms and would not have accepted anything I gave regardless. I offered to pay for the procedure and be there for her, but she said insurance would cover it and she had enough money. I don't necessarily want to believe she is lying...But it is hard and would help to hear thoughts on the issue cause I felt like I had no control of what the right thing to do was.

Sorry so long,
best wishes