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ellie_pl

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No Strings Attached Sex?
Posted: 10-20-05 16:32pm

I know it's probably just the fact thaat i'm on the rebound speaking but what does everyone think?
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Mistress_Raven

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Posted: 10-20-05 21:22pm

I say go for it :)
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wife2jason_mom2ryley

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Posted: 10-25-05 16:38pm

Noooo nooooo nooooo!!! And i'm saying this from experience. After my boyfriend and I of two years broke up, I thought the same way you do. I had sex with diffrent guys, no strings attached and all it did was got me even more of a broken heart. It's your life though...Do what you feel.

Teresa
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trinaoftexas

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Re: No Strings Attached Sex?
Posted: 11-04-05 10:35am

You can do it if you want to, but think of what you're saying...
No strings attached sex means...

1. When you need a little extra affection..Like someone to hold you...That person is going to get their nut, throw on their clothes, and leave without saying good bye.

2. If you or your partner becomes preganant, does that mean no one has to be a responsible parent to a child born outside of love and committment?

3. Contracting an std is each person's fault cause I doubt both parties will be honest about their sexual history when all they want is a climax.

4. You won't be chilling with this person cause when you call them just to hang out as friends, they are only going to want to have sex with you and that is all you are good for.

5. Jealous ex's may want to take out their anger on you cause their man or woman is cheating and they've seen your number on the caller id often.

6. Women and men talk about the partner they've had. Do you really want your name slung through the mud because of a gossip?

So, just think about that.
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pixma

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Posted: 11-04-05 12:21pm

I say go for it!!!!!!

To be honest I miss it sometimes!!
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kitty2luv

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Posted: 11-04-05 12:38pm

I would go for it .. I did it for 3 years , and now that I am with my b/f of 8 months I miss it , I have planned on cheating on him , but the guy I will cheat with .. Stood me up n he has a girl too.. I dont think I have the <3 too cuz we r trying for a baby for 5 months n nothing has happend , I guess everything hapens for a reason .. So hunny go for it but keep it safe
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wife2jason_mom2ryley

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Re: No Strings Attached Sex?
Posted: 11-04-05 15:04pm

trinaoftexas wrote:
you can do it if you want to, but think of what you're saying...

No strings attached sex means...


1. When you need a little extra affection..Like someone to hold you...That person is going to get their nut, throw on their clothes, and leave without saying good bye.


2. If you or your partner becomes preganant, does that mean no one has to be a responsible parent to a child born outside of love and committment?


3. Contracting an std is each person's fault cause I doubt both parties will be honest about their sexual history when all they want is a climax.


4. You won't be chilling with this person cause when you call them just to hang out as friends, they are only going to want to have sex with you and that is all you are good for.


5. Jealous ex's may want to take out their anger on you cause their man or woman is cheating and they've seen your number on the caller id often.


6. Women and men talk about the partner they've had. Do you really want your name slung through the mud because of a gossip?


So, just think about that.


great points!!
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britney0581

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Um...
Posted: 11-04-05 15:28pm

kitty2luv wrote:
i would go for it .. I did it for 3 years , and now that I am with my b/f of 8 months I miss it , I have planned on cheating on him , but the guy I will cheat with .. Stood me up n he has a girl too.. I dont think I have the <3 too cuz we r trying for a baby for 5 months n nothing has happend , I guess everything hapens for a reason .. So hunny go for it but keep it safe

what are you nuts? You plan on cheating on someone. I hope he has done something really wrong to deserve it...Sex is suppose to be something you share with a person that you truly love and want to spend your life with...Not just so you can have an orgasm....That is just plain dumb...It's suppose to be an emotional and physical bond that you share only with your life long partner...Not the world
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britney0581

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If?
Posted: 11-04-05 15:30pm

I think if you do that it will cause more damage than it will good...Maybe to some people it doesn't seem like it is having an effect on them...But it is and it will...Especially if you do get married ....It becomes a lot harder to share your "soul" with them...Because a part of it was already given to someone else.
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sandyallen

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Posted: 11-04-05 16:58pm

If this is what you then go for it. It would be scarry this day and age wih all the std's and all, I would make double sure that I would protect myself and not get hurt. To me sex is very personal between a man and a woman that really care for each other. It is your choice, I am not here to judge you. I would also make sure that no one else is getting hurt too. A girl friend or wife, a boyfriend or a husband.

Good luck!
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pixma

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Posted: 11-06-05 08:42am

At the end of the day if you can wake up the next morning with no regrets than all is good!! Like I said previously "go for it"
i did it for a few years with and without having a b/f at the time! I have since found a nice bloke that I love enough not to cheat on him. It was just apart of my self discovery journey I guess you could say!!
When you feel like crap afterwards then you know casual sex is not for you!!

Enjoy the experience!!
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Loki_

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Posted: 11-12-05 02:32am

There's gotta be some strings attached. Most likely emotional ones. If you've just gone through a breakup, maybe it's revenge, or maybe it's just things that are making you feel like you need to do something. Think rationally a bit, it's not always best to jump into situations with "no strings attached" because there usually are strings. Just becareful, it might hurt even moreso than the break-up. And it might even be something you'll regret for a long time.
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Cambion

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Posted: 11-12-05 04:03am

I personally could never do such a thing - I have always seen sex as something special and meaningful that you share with someone that you love, even if it is in the heat of the moment :) I could never just go and have sex with someone who wasn't my lover just for the sake of having sex...If I needed an orgasm so badly, I would give myself one and not depend on another person to give it to me. Also, I don't think there is a such thing as "no strings attached" sex, especially if you know the person you plan to be with...Whether they are a friend, and ex, or even the best friend of your lover, if there is no emotional attachment prior to the sex, there will probably be one afterwards, and then you've got a problem.

But as said, that's only my own opinion - if you find no problems with no strings attached sex, then by all means, go for it.
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tbaa_29

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Go For It
Posted: 11-21-05 18:48pm

Go for it but be careful

dont ever rely on anyone to take precaustions alway take your own.

You only live once, get it out your system before you find someone you love and want to settle down with.

Good luck
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kb77

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Noooooooo!
Posted: 01-11-06 02:37am

I only say know, because what started out as no strings attached sex for me - ended with the guy falling in love with me, and I felt really bad. I guess he didn't get the whole "no strings attached" part. Lol!
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RubyLei

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Posted: 01-11-06 08:01am

I don't think anyone can give advice on this because it is down to personality...I don't think there is anything wrong with casual sex if both are aware it is purely on a "no strings attached" basis...It also depends why you want it....If the answer is affection then your lookin in the wrong place....If you just want physical pleasure and it isnt going to leave you feeling empty then go for it...The fact your having doubts does make me think that perhaps its not the right thing for you. The question isnt "can I have no strings attached sex" but more "am I able to" everyone's emotional stabilty is different its a decision you have to make for yourself

rue
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kb77

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Posted: 01-11-06 13:48pm

I agree!
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needadvice30

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No Strings Attached
Posted: 01-24-06 06:47am

Not all guys will just get their nut and leave. I have had no strings attached sex before and had no problem laying there and cuddling with that person and let them talk about whatever they want. I find it gives them a chance to talk to someone who is not biased and they can say whatever they want because since it was not strings sex they dont have to worry about making sure they dont say anything wrong.

So if you want to have no strings sex I say go for it.
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