Ok, I am 26 and just got married and lost
my virginity - yes, we waited and i'm so
glad we did.
I have a bunch of questions so if you can
answer one or all, please do!
1. I started birth control the month
before we got married. I had my period
on my wedding anyway even though I was
trying to skip it and it's been light but
still there - for almost 2 weeks!
So of course my first time was soooo
painful (ihear it's worse when you have
your period.
But on top of that, I am barely stimulated
anymore. We used to mess around a little
and it was always easy to stimulate by
clitoris and breasts but since we had sex,
I can barely feel it anymore. Is it
maybe a psuchological thing because I know
it's going to hurt? I mean, it still
hurts - yeah technically it's only been
about 7 or 8 times, but I thought it
wouldn't hurt by now.
Is this normal? Is it because of my
period? When's it gonna stop hurting?
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JanetBee
Experienced User , Rather EHEALTHy
Joined: 28 Apr 2004 Posts: 332
Re: How Long Will This Last? Posted: 10-21-05 16:19pm
If you had done a lot of foreplay and were
properly lubricated, it maybe would have
hurt, but should not have been so painful.
I've never heard that it is worse when
you are on your period (but then, most
women probably don't have their period the
first time they are having sex). Was it
also your husband's first time having
intercourse? Did he make sure you were
aroused?
It definitely shouldn't be hurting any
more after 7 or 8 times! I guess the
problem there is that you aren't aroused.
I wonder if you are feeling guilty about
having sex, even though you are now
married? Were you brought up to feel that
it is wrong? I think that it can be hard
to get over that even after you are
married, and you are technically
"allowed".
It could also be something about the
particular bcp you are using, that maybe
doesn't suit you very well. It's possibly
it is impacting your libido. The best
thing is probably to go see your doctor
and explain how you are feeling.
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dreamweaver
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 19 Oct 2005 Posts: 17
Posted: 10-28-05 16:28pm
I also dont feel anything with clitoral or
breast stimulation, but it's not a new
thing for me. It's been that way before I
lost my virginity, while I was sexually
active, and after my bf and I agreed we
should wait to continue having sex until
after we're married. (spiritual beliefs
and all, mostly mine, but he respects them
and will only do what i'm comfortable
with. We also hadn't had sex for very
long, just a couple of weeks or so.)
unfortunately, I haven't heard any advice
for achieving an orgasm without clitoral
stimulation, so I cant really help you,
sorry, but I do know how you feel, sort
of.
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Liz26
Experienced User , Rather EHEALTHy
Joined: 24 Oct 2005 Posts: 51
Posted: 10-31-05 03:21am
Did you wait at least a few days after the
first time? If not, you should have. You
needed time to heal. Also, make sure you
are lubricated. If it is dry it isn't
going to feel too good.
