Hey I am 16 years old and I have been gay
for about 4 years now if not longer. I
recently started coming out to my friends
and they are taking it just fine but what
scares me is the fact the I know I need to
tell my parents someday. My brother and
sister know and as far as I know they dont
care and support me. So if you have any
advice on how to tell your parents you are
gay please tell me.
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SoulReflections
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 13 Oct 2005 Posts: 4 Location: DC Area
Posted: 11-07-05 06:45am
Only you know your parents, hon.
I didn't come out until I was 18. I
battled from age 15 until I graduated high
school, but I didn't feel ready to tell my
parents until then.
The amusing thing is, my parents already
suspected... And actually asked me if I
was gay... So, I didn't really have to
approach them... I just had to be
truthful.
It only makes sense to be scared and
nervous. My suggestion is to try and
tell them at a calm, serene moment... And
not in the heat of anger or emotion.
Whatever you decide, I wish you much luck.
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Jiiarian
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 07 Nov 2005 Posts: 12 Location: Anchorage, Alaska
Posted: 11-07-05 08:36am
You have a beautiful start going dear.
I came out the same way too.
It took about three years before I came
out to my mom, but she seems careless
about it and is rather a free-lance mom.
Being calm and comfortable about it is the
best way to approch it when you feel like
it's time.
But if you keep feeling uncomfortable
about it, you could try holding out till
you move out sweetie.
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AvatarOfUrDreams
Experienced User , Rather EHEALTHy
Joined: 10 May 2006 Posts: 67 Location: Chicago
They Already Know... Posted: 05-17-06 23:18pm
I hate to say it, and don't take this
wrong, but they probibably already know.
I haven't officially come out to anyone
but most of my friends and a good nuber of
my family are just waiting for me to be
the one to say it outloud first.
It is easier for a female to hide it but
for male's, or at least all of those I
have known, it is noticible if you are
really close to the person.
I know that when I make an official
statement my father will accept it because
he has mentioned it many times in the past
that "if" I were to come out he would
support me.
Look at how they act twards other's or to
tv shows exc. To gague how they will
react. But no matter if they are
homophobes or not you are still their
child...That does go a long way towards
acceptance.
I wish you the best but unfortunately it
will either go as planned or things will
explode and it will take time for the
wounds to heal.
Either way, it won't last forever...They
can't deny who you are any more then you
can and eventually theywill come to terms
with that.
