Joined: 22 Oct 2005 Posts: 2 Location: vancouver,wa
Are Virgins a Turn Off? Posted: 10-22-05 19:01pm
Dont know if this is a big sexual topic
but....I wanna know if i'm normal!!
Guys, are you standoffish when you find
out that a girl is a virgin? I am and I
try not to tell guys but when I do they
either want to take it and dont understand
what its going to take for them to take
it.....Or they run in the opposite
direction. Why??? I want a man dammit!
Haha
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chubbycheeks
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 20 Oct 2005 Posts: 32 Location: lake placid, florida
Posted: 10-23-05 17:50pm
Well i'm a virgin too and any guy that I
ever went out with I told them straight up
that I was a virgin and that they wouldn't
get in very easily they accepted that fact
and we were able to move on with our lives
and my current boyfriend(who is not a
virgin)told me that he's not gonna
pressure or force me to do anything I
don't want to do he said if i'm not ready
then he'll wait till I am(even if it's
many years from now)so they just have to
accept the fact that youre a virgin and if
they cant then you know they only want one
thing and it wasn't meant to be.
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chubbycheeks
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Joined: 20 Oct 2005 Posts: 32 Location: lake placid, florida
Posted: 10-24-05 22:58pm
Me again I asked my bf if virgins were a
turnoff and he said no. He said the only
thing he can think of is that they might
be worried or turned off cuz you wouldn't
know wut youre doing but don't know if
any of this helps hope it does
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junfanJKD
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Joined: 21 Oct 2005 Posts: 25 Location: New Jersey
Posted: 10-25-05 12:41pm
Of course not virgin is better than havin
done it for me at least you know the girl
is clean at least :p
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~baby~g~
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Joined: 08 Jul 2005 Posts: 221 Location: Ohio
Posted: 10-26-05 01:30am
When I first met my b/f we were both
virgins *we aren't now* & he loved the
fact that I was a virgin because nobody
had taken that away from me! Now that we
lost it to each other he feels even better
cause he was the one that got to do
that..Lol..If that makes any sense?
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mcmas
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Joined: 30 Oct 2005 Posts: 3
Re: Are Virgins a Turn Off? Posted: 10-31-05 06:16am
missmo
wrote:
dont know if this is a big
sexual topic but....I wanna know if i'm
normal!! Guys, are you standoffish when
you find out that a girl is a virgin? I
am and I try not to tell guys but when I
do they either want to take it and dont
understand what its going to take for them
to take it.....Or they run in the opposite
direction. Why??? I want a man dammit!
Haha
don't be in a hurry! Find a boy who wants
to be with you.
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Lilypad
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Joined: 10 Oct 2005 Posts: 1043 Location: Ohio, USA
Not Necessarily! Posted: 11-06-05 05:18am
junfanjkd
wrote:
of course not virgin is
better than havin done it for me at least
you know the girl is clean at least
:p
not necessarily, when I caugt herpes from
my exboyfriend it was from him rubbing up
against me naked...We never had
intercourse! How much does that suck!
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pixma
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Joined: 17 Aug 2005 Posts: 1015 Location: NSW Australia
Posted: 11-06-05 08:48am
I would have thought no!!
But then again it depends on how long you
are wanting to wait to loose your
virginity!! Maybe thats what is scaring
them away!! *shrugs*
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ironmantaylors
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Joined: 03 Nov 2005 Posts: 38 Location: montana
Turn On Posted: 11-06-05 13:23pm
I am a man, and I would love to marry a
virgin. It would relieve any
insecurities about my performance.
You need to make sure that any man is "in
it for the right reason". Many men are
in it for the chase. And being your
first is the end of the chase, so long see
ya girl so to speak. Got what he want
the notch in the bed post.
Gaurd it, make the first time with someone
who will appreciate your gift now and
forever.
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Jiiarian
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Joined: 07 Nov 2005 Posts: 12 Location: Anchorage, Alaska
Posted: 11-07-05 07:26am
Really it depends on the guy.
--going off of teenaged basses--
most of the time, if he wants a
relationship were it's all sex, drugs,
rock 'n roll, he'll go for a girl that's
been deflowered.
Reason being is because she's already had
her heart broken by that male that
deflowered her, and a lot of girls, like
myself and some others, become rather
careless about their body.
They use their body for sex like a
prostitute does, to pretty much get what
she wants, which could be anything. Keep
in mind, this isn't all women, this is
some.
Now, for a virgin though, it's hard to
find a good-guy out there anymore.
A lot of virgins become clingy with the
man they have sex with for the first time,
like I did, because it was the first
person you shared such a precious gift
with, and not many guys like that.
But for the men that do like it, it's
because they like having someone they can
protect and are greatful for what you gave
them, which is a great, great thing
indeed.
Basiclly, don't worry about it. You'll
find your good-guy one of these days, but
make him work for the prize, that way, if
he really wants you, he'll wait.
Good luck dear.
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flowmotion
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Joined: 26 Oct 2005 Posts: 7
Posted: 11-07-05 14:19pm
I think its sort of a turn on to be with a
virgin. Being there first and knowing
nobody else has been inside them I find to
be a turn on.
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Jiiarian
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 07 Nov 2005 Posts: 12 Location: Anchorage, Alaska
Posted: 11-08-05 01:58am
flowmotion
wrote:
i think its sort of a turn
on to be with a virgin. Being there
first and knowing nobody else has been
inside them I find to be a turn
on.
but it's the aftermath we're afraid of.
We don't know if the man will just up and
leave us after, with only god knows what
left (regretful emotions, anger,
depression, brokenheartedness, and
pregnancy in some cases) so really, it
being a turn on for men is nice, but it
being a turn on for a man who wants to
stay with us afterward is an even better
thing.
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Stu
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Joined: 24 Oct 2005 Posts: 39 Location: United Kingdom
Virgins Posted: 11-08-05 03:49am
Most of the girls I know don't have any
emotional attachment to the guy who was
their 'first time'. I think everyone
remembers their first time, of course, but
it doesn't have to be a big event in your
life. It depends on the circumstances I
think.
My view is that the thought of being with
a virgin can be more of a turn on than the
reality of it. The one time I was the
first guy in a girl's sexual life I found
it a little unpleasant. Because it was a
little painful for her. Of course I was
very gentle and made sure everything was
at her pace (it was her who initiated the
whole thing, not me). But although it
was something she wanted I still found it
very hard to be doing something that was
causing her pain.
I think the main point is that it
shouldn't matter whether a girl is a
virgin or not, because the reasons you're
with her should be a lot more substantial.
But if we're just talking sex for the
sake of it then I would be more turned on
by a girl who has had some experience.
P.S. Not wishing to contradict anyone
else's views. These are just my
thoughts... :)