Ppl who dont lik teenagers havingbabiz say
things like 'its so dam hard to take care
of a baby it ruins ur life' and that but
wont deny theyv wished they never had it
and they r lik its the best thinig thats
eva happend and stuff like you cant
replace it so why wud teenz b put off if
adults say its horrible taking care of 1
but its the best thing in the world we
just go' well , I want something that is
the best thing thatll eva happen 2 me!!'
so im just saying if an adult (15+)says2u
its so much work I would not b put off at
all!!!
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poohbear101
Experienced User , Rather EHEALTHy
Joined: 30 Nov 2004 Posts: 383
Posted: 10-22-05 22:33pm
First people say its the hardest thing to
do because it is. My god, you're 11 years
old and you want a baby?? You probably
don't even do the chores you're supposed
to do at home let alone be responsible for
a child. It's not like a doll that will
be there to amuse you, something you can
dress up and take out and show off and
then put away when you're tired of playing
with it. A child is a life long
commitment, something that even someone
twice your age isn't always ready for.
Second, they say it'll ruin your life
because at your age it will. You want
kids, thats great. But have them when
you're a lot older and can afford them and
give them the life they deserve. What
have you experienced at 11? In a few
years you'll be in high school and going
on dates and hanging out with friends at
parties or dances, just having fun being a
kid. You think you'll be able to do that
if you have a baby? You need a chance to
grow and find out who you are, graduate
from high school, go on to college if
thats something you want, find a career in
something you love to do. Fall in love
because at 11 no matter what you think you
don't know what love is. But don't have a
baby now.
Yes, mothers do think that their children
are the best thing thats happened to them,
but don't you think that some of them wish
they had done things differently and
waited to have children? Been able to
just be free and do whatever they wanted
when they were young? I'm 21 and going to
have a baby in 5 months and I know that
i'm still not ready. I'm terrified, but
that doesn't mean I won't love this child,
it just means that if I had been smart I
would have waited a lot longer.
You may not be put off at hearing it, but
wait until you have to live it. And
you're up at 3 am feeding the baby, only
getting a few hours of sleep at night
because its hungry or sick or fussy.
You'll wish you had listened to everyone
then and kept your legs closed until you
were older.
Do us all a favor and learn how to spell
before you make anymore posts.
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diamondsz
Extremely EHEALTHy
Joined: 07 Oct 2005 Posts: 3173 Location: , Candyland-Canada
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Posted: 10-23-05 11:09am
I have to agree with poohbear except on
one thing
having a life!
I go out alot with friends, whether it
be clubbing or shopping and im 21 with a
14 mths old. Pregnancy is hard but its
not all that bad if you know how to play
the game of life.................Work,
take care of kids and have fun its still
possible. We are six kids and my parents
each go out once a week on their own, as
for me I go out to the bar 1-2 a month and
shopping on payday (this is without the
baby) lol!
The problem with alot of moms, they have
no patience and it doesnt just come
natural you need to take a break which is
quite normal.............
The ob gyn told me a story, because I
worried too much about going out and he
laughed and said better to be relaxed and
have a drink..
If a plane were crashing and all the
oxygen masks came down who would get the
mask first???? Mom or baby?
The mother, why? All due to a survival
instinct if the mother is unable to help
her child then both are a lost cause but
if mom can take a breath of oxygen well
then she can help her child and both have
the chance to live!!!
i have to agree with
poohbear except on one thing
having a life!
I go out alot with friends, whether it
be clubbing or shopping and im 21 with a
14 mths old. Pregnancy is hard but its
not all that bad if you know how to play
the game of life.................Work,
take care of kids and have fun its still
possible. We are six kids and my
parents each go out once a week on their
own, as for me I go out to the bar 1-2 a
month and shopping on payday (this is
without the baby) lol!
The problem with alot of moms, they have
no patience and it doesnt just come
natural you need to take a break which is
quite normal.............
The ob gyn told me a story, because I
worried too much about going out and he
laughed and said better to be relaxed and
have a drink..
If a plane were crashing and all the
oxygen masks came down who would get the
mask first???? Mom or baby?
The mother, why? All due to a survival
instinct if the mother is unable to help
her child then both are a lost cause but
if mom can take a breath of oxygen well
then she can help her child and both have
the chance to
live!!!
not everyone is as lucky as you and me
jess...... I know girls that have babies
young and their parents don't want
anything to do with them and the father of
the baby left them. They can't afford a
babysitter because they have limited
funds. Their friends turn their back on
them, they feel as though they have
nobody!
i dont know what i'd do with
myself if I was in that situation.
I'm so close with both my mom & dad
& can't imagine it any other way than
that, if it was different i'd die with a
broken heart.
that's good!
I'm really close to my mom as well....She
is my only babysitter. I don't trust
others to watch my kids....Too many bad
stories about kids being abused/molested.
I know this girl who had a baby by a guy
who molested his little brother, she even
knew he had done it before they even had
sex, it's crazy how people think these
days.
I know this girl who had a baby by a guy
who molested his little brother, she even
knew he had done it before they even had
sex, it's crazy how people think these
days.
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