Ttc Without Husband's Permission

Did he give you a reason why he doesn't think you should have children yet? It could be something as simple as he just wants it to be the two of you so you have time to do whatever you want without having to worry about children. Some men just don't think they're ready for fatherhood until it happens and then they start to feel comfortable with it, but others aren't like that at all. He may resent the child if you have one before he thinks you two are ready, just like some mothers resent getting pregnant when they're not ready. I don't think you should trick your husband into anything that he may end up hating. Maybe you should talk to him more in depth about it and perhaps suggest settting some kind of time where you do start trying together. Good luck.

I am sure he wouldnt resent the child. He says we should buy a house first. Thats the only reason. I also think we need a house, but I think we can still buy one after I get pregnant

Getting pregnant without your husbands consent is manipulative and decietful. Having a family is something that should involve planning and consent on both parts!
It would be better to have a long honest talk about both of your reasons for wanting/not wanting to have a child.

I agree with lily!

Yup, if you are not seeing eye to eye on this, talk more to him.....But don't deseve him into anything

Thank you I just feel very strongly about that. My brother and his wife have alot of problems and she got pregnant when he wasnt ready...He was going to school. She stopped her bc pill s on purpose. He had to quit school b/c of that. I just think it is wrong to get pregnant on purpose if the man doesnt want to.

I agree with you 100%. I couldn't even imagine doing that to my husband. When my youngest was 1(now he's 3 1/2) I wanted to have another baby, but my husband wasn't ready. I mentioned this to a couple friends and they said "miss some pills..... He'll never know" :shock:
needless to say, I didn't take their advise!

Just wondering where "nemis" is and what she has to say about our opinions on this....

I was thinking the same thing :p

I am 23, and in july I found out I have stage 2 endometriosis, and that having children will most likely be difficult if I am able to conceive at all. Even after hearing this, my husband at first still wanted to wait to conceive like we had planned, but after many heart-to-hearts, we came to a decision together and are both ttc with our whole hearts. My point to this, is that even knowing I only have a short time to conceive, if I am able to at all, my husband's thoughts and feelings were so important to me. I wouldn't have tried to have a baby without his wanting it too.

Your marriage is the most important thing, and I am sure you didn't get married only to have children. My advice is to stay honest with your husband, because you don't want to end up alone or at the least hurt your marriage by bringing a child into it when that isn't something both of you are ready for. It wouldn't be fair to your husband or child, just try to talk to him honestly about how you feel! Good luck, I know how lonely it is to want a baby and your husband isn't sure...Take care and I hope you make the right decision

It is not like I dont care about his feelings. I do and we are not going to have a baby until we are both ready. I dont take birth control pills, we are on the natural method because I have some health issues when I take bith control. But right now we are no ttc at all

May I ask, how long have you been together? Their are other methods besides the pill, do not rely on the pull-out method because of the pre-cum which I am sure you are aware of. You seem pretty smart! Good luck to you both!

My husband and I have been married for almost 5 years, when we first got married I was ready to have children. We discussed it and he thought it would be best to wait 5 years to that we can have us time and really get to know one another and just have fun (not that you can't once you have children). Anyways, I have not lost me desire to have children and just recently we began discussing it and this is our first month to try.

I would say not to lie to your husband, it was such sweet a moment when we discussed it and he said we could start trying. Don’t miss out on that moment and the excitement. Besides if you go behind his back and do become pregnant I think you would regret it and always have it hanging over your head and totally violate his trust which is a bad thing to begin and could grow into a huge mess, you know how one little lie can get carried away.

Just be honest.

Trying to conceive without your husband knowing may sound like a good idea because you want a baby so bad, but really isn't the best idea. Just think of all the spontaneous "fun" you guys could have when you both know what your mission is. I have been pregnant a total of 4 times (the last was a miscarriage). We did not "ttc" with all of them. Some were happy suprises. But I found that when we knew we were ttc, the sex was better - it was more exciting. It actually got me "more in the mood" to know we were trying to get pregnant. Hope this helps. Just try to be patient:) hollie

I was thinking at one point to try to get preggo but then I thought about it, and I realised I would have to tell my bf if I did. We dont use protection so I was always thinking "when he pulls out I cam 'accidently' fall back and him slide into me by 'accident'" but then I thought "no, I cant lie to him, if he isnt ready then he isnt ready" so then later the next day I talked to him. (this was shortly after my period started0 and I asked him what he thought about it when my period came (we had a feeling I was preggo) and he said he was kinda sad because he wanted a baby sorta, but I would perfer that sorta to be a full on yes. So we decided to wait a couple months and make sure we havea stable income then we will ttc

I agree with all of u. I don't think u should deceive ur husband because all it will do is make ur husband resent u and possibly the child u have together. Not aonly that but will cause him to loose trust in u, and trust is a major thing in a relationship. I would not take that chance. Wait till ur both ready. If u have a huge desire to have a child try volunteering at ur local elementary, preschool, daycare, or just babysit for ppl when u have free time. Not only will it satisfy ur desire for awhile, it will give u good practice for when u have ur own children.