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Whitney4768
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Pap Smear
Posted: 10-25-05 19:17pm
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I know I have to have one cuz i'm preggie
the problem is that I just cant relax its
just the thought of that tool opening my
vagina just tenses me up my sis says you
will feel a lil pressure it will hurt for
a few minutes but I am scared were any of
you scared the first time?
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Posted: 10-25-05 19:21pm
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It's only natural to be scared. I
was.....But it wasn't that bad.....For me
anyway. Just really try and relax....It
helps!
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Whitney4768
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Posted: 10-25-05 19:54pm
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I totally feel the same way...I've went in
four times for a pap and I get so freaked
out that they won't do it. So they have
to give me some nerve meds next time (to
kinda make me out of my mind)...My doc
wanted me to try to go to a woman doctor
first before nerve meds though to see if
that would work, which I don't think it
will...
I don't know what to do, I know it's
something that all women have to do but I
just can't. I've tried and I even told
the doctor to just do it even if I was
crying. And I had my hubby go in with me
and everything to try to calm me down..
I'm sure it's not as bad as it seems but
it's so hard for me. Is there anything
you ladies can tell us that might help
ease the fear?
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Posted: 10-25-05 20:05pm
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I just had mine done 2 weeks ago its very
uncomfortable and kinda embarrasing but
its really not that bad...After all if
your pregnant this little thing called a
pap test is nothing compared to
childbirth! Honestly try and relax like
the other people on here have said. It
dont hurt! Best of luck!
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Posted: 10-25-05 20:11pm
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It's the fear of the unknown.....
If you try to relax, your muscles won't be
so tight....Which will make it much easier
on you. What happens when you're tense is
your muscles tighten and it hurts more.
Maybe try listening to music while having
this done ...
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Posted: 10-25-05 20:14pm
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Did the meds work I mean the meds that
made you go wild work
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Posted: 10-25-05 20:16pm
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That's what I keep telling myself.
I go in calm and collected and I am okay
up until the time when they stick those
clamps in. Then they keep saying relax
honey, it's not that bad...And I usually
get really mad because I just want to get
it over and done with but they won't shut
up and do it, but they won't because i'm
tense. Well yeah, I think it's natural
to be tense when some lady and man pry's
your legs open and then tells you to relax
when they are sticking clamps and a stick
in there. Then my doctor says "really
it's not that bad" and I was getting a
little snappy and said "really? When was
your last pap" he backed off then.
The reason I think it's so bad for me is
that my first pap was painful because they
broke my hymen (spelling?) they said it
hurt because I was still a virgin. My
doctor was a young pup too, and kinda
cute, until I kicked him. Woops. I was
only 19 and getting married in a month, so
I was totally stressed out. And ever
since then I haven't been able to go
through with it.
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Posted: 10-25-05 20:18pm
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I haven't got to use the meds yet. My
doctor is sending me to a woman first and
told me to have them give me the meds, but
they said the can't on the first visit
because I have to be "with it" to sign
papers and stuff. They said going to a
woman is way different, I don't know but
we'll find out.
It's really not that bad, I just get tense
when the doctors get halfway in and then
stop because they need to make sure i'm
"okay" then they say well we'll give you
another month and you can come back and
we'll try again. The last appointment I
had I got so tense, even with my husband
beside me holding my hand, that I clenched
my fist so hard that I drew blood from my
own hand with my nails. I didn't even
know I was hurt, until the nurse insisted
I have a bandaid...I said for what? And
looked down and my hand had blood all over
it. My doctor said it has something to
do with my nerves and it's nothing I can
control and need to be "medicated" next
time, but wants to see if a woman might
work first.
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Posted: 10-25-05 20:23pm
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Omg crissy you are just like me I was
layingthere today and the mid wife told me
to lay back I had my legs open but when
she got the speculum out I was about to
cry I was so scared I think its
embarrissing to me for another person to
stick something up your coochie hole but I
took a nap and I thought to my self if I
cant get my legs to open for a pap smear
then how am I gonna go into labor when my
legs have to be open like that.
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Posted: 10-25-05 20:31pm
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Really, I know even if it's hard it's
something that we all have to face. So I
have to just be strong and let them do it
I guess. Maybe wear a face mask so they
can't see how i'm feeling (lol) that's
the problem every time they see i'm upset
so they don't do it. I am a smaller
person too and I can feel "everything"
they do so i'm a little jumpy. I really
want to have a baby in the next year so
this is just the "pre steps" I have an
appointment in january, that's the
earliest they could get me in with the
lady doctor. So I might just call my own
doctor and ask him to give me just a small
dose of something for my nerves and give
it a shot. There's always something that
scares a person to death...This is what
scares me, but i'll just have to get over
it
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Posted: 10-25-05 20:32pm
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Lol at jlee but she is so very right about
people crowding around when ur in
labor...Boy is that ever the truth I mean
"hell its like the whole football stadium
is there" that was a great way to put it
jlee lol lol keep up the good work! :d
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Posted: 10-25-05 20:35pm
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I don't know what scares me....Just
does...Not that it's embarrassing or that
it's going to hurt...I've been through
worse...I don't honestly know what scares
me....I guess it's the idea of being in
the room with ppl I don't know looking at
personal things...Even though I take my
hubby in though I still get squirmy. He
always jokes and asks "if it would help,
i'll strip too"
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Posted: 10-25-05 20:39pm
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Too cute! What a great hubby chrissy!
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Posted: 10-25-05 20:40pm
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You will be fine! What are you gonna go
when you have to have that baby and people
you dont know are looking at personal
things? I mean a simple pap test isent as
bad as labor! It takes a matter of a few
minutes and its all done...Having a baby
can take hours or more! Please just get
ur pap done! Its very important and it
can tell alot of things like cancer and
such!
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Posted: 10-25-05 20:42pm
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Chrissy if I may ask how old r u? First
baby? It has to be first baby! But how
old r u? Seem kinda young and thats ok
but I am just trying to say that its not
so bad to have a pap!
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Posted: 10-25-05 20:43pm
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Thanks I know. I already told my family
and friends...Nobody in the room but my
hubby when we have a baby...Something I
want the two of us to share together, but
alone if you know what I mean. It's too
special and I want jeremiah to be the
first one to see our baby. I'll get
through it...I'll just have to put away my
fears and hope for the best. I think
maybe a woman doctor might understand more
and not be so scared to hurt me like a man
doctor....The guys don't really know what
it feels like, maybe a woman will know if
I just experience it once and see that
it's not that bad, that i'll be able to
handle it from then on.
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Posted: 10-25-05 20:46pm
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No i'm not pregnant yet. I'm just on the
site to see what other ladies go through
during pregnancy to see what I need to
expect and how to take care of myself
before and during. I want it to be
perfect.
I'm 21 and have been married 2 years on
tuesday next week.
We want to start having a family this
coming year. We have to sell our house
now so we can have a better home for our
baby. Right now we live in a real nice
neighborhood, but right next door to a
trucking company and a bar/grill for
harley people.
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Posted: 10-25-05 20:48pm
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Congrats on your 2 year anniversary!
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Posted: 10-26-05 18:32pm
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Paps have always been painful for me!!!.
The last time I had a male doc give me a
pap and I was so pissed at him! He was
telling me to relax and looked at me like
I was crazy for feeling discomfort I was
about ready to cry!
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