I am 22 years old and happily married with
a child. I am a housewife-i love what I
do! My family is my world and I revolve
around them. We recently purchased our
first home and I got my first puppy ever.
My life is very simple and I enjoy it
that way too. I believe in god and I go
to church nearly every sunday. I involve
myself with the church throughout the week
and I love praying for people. I love
lending a hand if needed or just giving
people advice. Look forward to hear from
any of you!
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aimz
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 27 Oct 2005 Posts: 5 Location: Wisconsin
Posted: 10-29-05 00:15am
Hi.
My name is amy. I don't know if you read
any of my posts, but I just found out that
I am about 6 weeks pregnant, and you said
you like to give advice, so I thought
maybe you could advise me. I just got out
of a very long, hard relationship... We
were together about a year and he was very
pushy and controlling, and I finally ended
it about a month ago and now I found out
that I am pregnant. I am very concerned
as to how I tell him, i;m not even sure if
I want to, though I understand that he has
a right to know that he is having a baby.
I am also concerned about being a young
(im 19) single mother. I want to be able
to raise my baby right, however I do not
believe in abortion, and adoption, as
selfish as it sounds, would be impossible
for me. Do you have any advice?
Please help.
Amy
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jma1
Experienced User , Rather EHEALTHy
Joined: 21 Oct 2005 Posts: 85 Location: Alabama
Posted: 10-29-05 15:46pm
Irst of all congrats! Motherhood is such
a wonderful experience. Tell him for
sure, I guess here I would be a coward
because I would tell him over the phone.
My reasons for that-he can be pushy and
controlling! If he isnt happy about the
results we do not wont any problems. If
he is okay with the fact he is going to be
a dad, leave it up to him, dont ask him
for anything. Let him help anyway he can
at his suggestions. Depending on his
reaction and how he does through the
pregnancy would determine if I would put
his name of the birth certificate. No
matter what happens or who tries to
convince you too, do not get back with
him!!!! I cant see you or the baby being
very happy with someone like that. I am
glad that you are having the baby, I am
proud to hear that you are taking care of
your responsibilities. There are plenty
of programs to get on to help you with
this pregnancy. Wic and medicaid are the
ones I know about. Talk to a social
worker and they can help you find programs
in your area. Make sure you talk to your
parents, you may think they will be upset
and at first they probably will, but they
will help you. I am sure they will not
let the daughter and grandchild go
without. Find a local church that has
assistance programs (if you are a
believer). I know for insistance that my
church puts on baby showers for single
mothers, they also have a clothes closet
(were you get all kinds of clothing for
free). Its there way of saying thank you
for not having an abortion. Write me
anytime, I will be here. Please dont be
to stressed out! Jessi
