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Q: Please Help...i'm On the Verge of Suicide

asked by: britney0581 on October 27th, 2005

New User

Hi, if you have read any of my other posts than you would know that approxamately 2 1/2 months ago maybe a little more than that..I had a miscarriage. I was approximately 4 months or a lil more along. I never went to a doctor to confirm that everything was removed or not because I couldn't go to a doctor for several reasons. I have been extremely depressed and it doesn't seem like it is going to go away. I love my fiancee with all of my heart and he is there fore me 24/7, but this pain will not go away and I donno why. I am to the point where I have considered how i'll end the pain through suicide. I can't take it anymore, and since the pregnancy was a secret I cant talk about it to anyone and it's killing me in side. I feel unfit or something...I donno..I'm sorry if this sounds stupid I just am so freaked out right now. This has nothing to do with my fiancee he is an amazing man and is there for me in every single situation and he has been here to comfort me. I just need advice from a female persepective because I haven't been able to get any from friends b/c the pregnancy was secret. I think that talking about it to someone may help me because not talking about it is driving me mad thanks for your help

Replies(11)

rdy4one

replied on October 27th, 2005

New User

Why sweetie, thats all I want to ask you is why? I understand the pain of you losing your baby but you still have your life and thats a blessing. Be thankful that you are able to wake every morning, eat, do for yourself. I know your problem seems big and its the only problem in the world but trust me it's not. There is always someone out there with problems bigger then yours. Just think if you weren't ever able to conceive, there are women in this forum who would like to know the feeling of being pregnant, and guess what you experienced that at least. True your baby did not make and i'm sorry for that but you are not dead, try again and i'm sure you will be successful. Suicide????? Do you know how precious life is, you have a fiance that is there for you 24/7 some of us don't have that, we don't have anyone but you have to be strong and make through. Things will get greater later, behind every dark cloud there is sunshine. Keep you head up and no suicide is not the answer, it will only hurt more people in the end. When you feel the strength then just concentrate on trying again.

mongirl

replied on October 27th, 2005

Experienced User

I can understand that you feel the way you do. Alot of women feel depressed and have a sense of loss after a miscarriage which is very difficult. But if you have not been to the doctor I think you should do so soon because you physical health and emotional health is at risk. Its a horrible thing to go through without talking about how you feel maybe you should see a counsler to talk to if you cant talk to your family or friends. But the most important thing to know is that taking your own life is not the anwser! You can get through it without that. Hang in there.

mia7

replied on October 27th, 2005

Experienced User

Please try your hardest to work up the courage to see your doctor. I know this is tough for you, but you have to try and make it through. Suicide is not the answer. Think about your fiancee. I am sure he loves you very much. He just lost his child, don't let him lose you too.

With time and help, you can get through this. Go see your doctor, tell your doctor what happened, make sure that you ask if they know of somewhere that you can go to get help. Make sure you don't get an infection.

Life is precious and you are lucky to be here. Although it's tough for you right now and it's hard to deal with something like this. You have to make it through.

Don't ever give up.

Pupka

replied on October 27th, 2005

New User

Probably it's none of my business, but why your pregnancy was a secret?? Or did you wanna do a surprise for your fiancee? Anyway, he is the only person you should talk with about everything. Whatever's happenning to you, he must know about it first, not the forum. He is the one who will understand and support you in difficult minute... Suicide is a nonsence thing... It's teens' problem. I hope you're not a teen.

britney0581

replied on October 28th, 2005

New User

I Have

I have talked to him about it....And he is very supportive and is there for me. But I need to talk to someone who has been through this before so I know what to expect. I need someone to tell me what is happening with me, and since my fiancee is a man (of course), he doesn't know about the reactions of the female body as someone who is a woman and who has had a miscarriage or pregnancy would. Im sorry if my problem is mediocre, but it is still a problem. Ya, I know that suicide is a stupid way to do something, and I don't want to hurt him, that is why I haven't done it. But I just feel like the pain isn't going to go away, and it hurts so much every day. Sorry again if this sounds stupid.. I can't help feeling this way. Thanks

lil_blaze2004

replied on October 28th, 2005

Moderator

Ok not to worry you even more but if you were 4 months along, it is extremelly important that you go to a doc to make sure everything came out. If not, it can cause major health probs to you and you may have major probs trying to conceive again.

I had 2 miscarriages when I was younger and with the 2nd one I was 3 months along and had to have a d&c to remove the extra tissue.

It is hard to get over but you will. Try to find a support group in your area, they are annonymous so no need to worry about someone going and saying soemthing,. Good luck.

sashalovesjosh

replied on October 28th, 2005

New User

to Britney

Britney my name is sasha. And first off I would like to say you are a very strong person to ask to speak with someone to help you cope with this. I am sorry to hear for your loss it is a very hard thing to go through. And I can only imagine the emotional heart ache you have for that. But take in consideration sweetie that you have your whole life to live and that god works in very mysterious ways. I see that you have a fiance and it sounds like you are deeply in love and that he makes you feel so good. Think of all the good things you have . It will get better each day, it may take some time but it will. Think of in the future what you and your fiance will have.. A house.. A family. It will happen. Be patient and pray to god to remove your heart ache, he will see you through...
I will pray for you as well.
May god bless you,
sasha

ocean_luver

replied on October 28th, 2005

New User

Oh hun, I am so sorry for your loss. I can't imagine what that feels like to lose a child. I do know however what it is like to feel hopeless...Heartbroken....Suicidal.
It's like your whole world has been shattered and you feel like you will never be able to put back together the peices.
It's only understandable and ok that you feel this way. You probably will for a while and that is ok too. It will get better little by little. And you can help that process by taking care of yourself...By being understanding of yourself...By being good to yourself. Talk to someone or look into support groups. Sometimes it helps to just talk about it and you may need to talk about it for a while.
And remember: it's not your fault. These things happen. And like I said, be understanding of yourself. Talk to yourself like you would a best friend. Would you think and tell your best friend that she must be defective? Well you aren't either.
So curl up on the couch with some tea and light some candles and make that dr's appointment....For your future baby, your fiance and you.

zetta2005

replied on October 28th, 2005

New User

Pleeezzee Reeaadd

Hey many name is rosezetta, and I have been on the verge of killing my self also. But my then boifriend, now fiance tells me that everything is going to work out. I have had three miscarriages and now I think im pregant again. This time i'm not having the symptoms that I used to have. My life too has also been very horible, since I met brian evrything been trying to go good. Not physically but mentally. Girl all I have to say is pick ya head up and let your fiance comfort you, that caca feels good as hell. There is always another day. Tonight just get in the tub and drink a lot of water. Me as a message therapist is telling you to just beleive in life its self. If you want to figure out my past email me>

luv every 1

peace

smilegirl90

replied on October 6th, 2009

New User

plz donnot let sucide claim you everyone has rough times it seems to me you have gone through alot for me my best friend died 5 days after my birthday. that year my birthday was easter. and a week later my other friend commited sucide. my mom ended up in the hospital diying.
my little brother scared and my dad keept leaving me fpr the night. well a while later i july my other friend died i wanted to die but would that be the right thing to do is just give up keep fighting

smilegirl90

replied on October 6th, 2009

New User

you have been through loads of stuff but listen plzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzz. dont do it

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