Ok, here is my problem...I am 15 and I
recently found out that I am pregnant. I
told my boyfriend and he totally freaked
out. I haven't talked to him since..I
also had to tell my parents, which was
horrifying. My mom didn't know that I was
having sex..Let alone unprotected..And my
dad was very disappionted. I talked to my
mom about abortion, although I wasn't to
keen on the idea...She said that it is my
decision...I do not know what to do!! I
am really scared, I mean, I am only in
10th grade and I have no way of caring for
a child. I do not want to have an
abortion, my best friend's sister had an
abortion and I couldn't belive it! I
guess I just don't like the idea of
killing an innocent child.. I am 6 weeks
pregnant now and I have been thinking of
adoption. I think that would be a better
decision..I need some advice! Can
somebody please give me some advice on
what to do? I am really scared...
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~baby~g~
Experienced User , Rather EHEALTHy
Joined: 08 Jul 2005 Posts: 221 Location: Ohio
Posted: 10-28-05 16:21pm
I agree with you on abortion, no innocent
child should get killed cause mom &
dad mess around! Well, adoption would
never be an option for me but if you
wouldn't be able to take care of a baby
then that's the next best thing to do.
You get to choose from people & get
updates on your baby every so often but
i'm not 100% sure how it works. Now
another thing to think about though is
what are you going to think after you see
your baby? Knowing that that's your blood
& flesh but is going to someone else.
It's completely your decision, and no one
can help you with that. Good luck.
<33
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henrysbabygirl08
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 27 Oct 2005 Posts: 33 Location: Mo
Good Luck Posted: 10-28-05 16:53pm
Hey im 15 too and pregnant 4 weeks I
havent told my mom yet but anyways I am
really glad u dont want an abortion I
believe if ur not ready to take care of a
child let parents who are loving and ready
good luck make good decisions
That's what I was always told by everyone,
it made me realize how cold hearted people
are. I'd never be able to get an abortion
ever, I mean yeah it's crossed my mind,
but only because it was an option I could
of taken.
My sister got an abortion when she was 15
& I remember, I hated her for it, I
didn't speak to her for weeks. She ended
up getting pregnant again when she was
17.
Now, i'm 17 & 5 months pregnant, and
can't imagine what i'd do if I didn't feel
my son's kicks. I'd feel incomplete with
myself.
You know you're baby's heartbeat starts
beating 26-29 days after conception? Most
of the time, girls havent even found out
their pregnant this soon, which makes them
get an abortion while the baby's heart is
beating.
Anything that has a heart feels, and it's
no different from killing an actual
person.
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poohbear101
Experienced User , Rather EHEALTHy
Joined: 30 Nov 2004 Posts: 383
Posted: 10-28-05 21:55pm
You're bf may just need time to think
things through. It's a big blow for him
too you have to remember. When I told the
father of mine he said three words and
then I didn't hear from him for almost 2
weeks. He just needed time to think of
everything through and now we're trying to
work everything out.
No one can tell you what to do, I just
know that I could never have an abortion
and I know that going through 9 months of
having a child grow inside you and
becoming apart of you I could never give
it up either. I'd feel too connected.
But you have to decide what's right for
you. If you're not ready for a baby then
adoption is the best option, but a lot of
mothers find it hard to go through with it
once they've seen their baby.
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Iluvtyler125
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 28 Oct 2005 Posts: 2
Thank You Posted: 10-30-05 12:05pm
Thanks everyone for all your help! I
actually have spoke to my boyfriend since,
and I have some good news! He has decided
that he wants to be a father and care for
our child. He says that he may only be
17, but he does have a steady job, and
that he couldn't bear giving up his own
flesh and blood. I am starting to get
excited about having a baby, but also a
bit scared...Our parents have agreed to
help us in the process. Some of my
friends and family are kind of angry at
me, and insulting me to my face, saying
that I am only a stupid child, and I would
never be able to care for a baby. I guess
I can understand a bit what they are
saying, but at least I am trying to be the
best mom that I can! I just hope
everything goes well, and that it is a
healthy baby...I think that it would be
amazing to fell the baby kick..I can't
wait. Thank you again for your help. I
will keep in touch with updates :) I am
also looking for some baby names, if you
want, you can suggest some!
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Baby_Girl12306
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 30 Oct 2005 Posts: 11 Location: Kansas City, Mo
Posted: 11-02-05 18:22pm
Well I hope that you decide to keep it im
15 too and I am keeping mine I cant stand
to think about giving mine up or anything
im almost 29 weeks and having a girl we
are naming her kaylee renee im still with
her dad and I plan to be so I hope that
everything works out for you and for the
people that talk down on you just show
them that you can be a good mom it doesnt
matter what everyone thinks its what you
think and know is best for your baby and
congradulations!!!
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oh_mommy
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Joined: 04 Sep 2005 Posts: 3738 Location: vancouver island, bc canada
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Posted: 11-06-05 02:28am
I am soooo proud of you girls for keeping
it, un-planned or planned. And when you
walk down the street with ur big bellys
one day dont be ashamed or care what other
people are saying, be happy that ur child
who will love and depend on you is soon to
come, and they are the ones who are
missing out on something so wounderful. I
want to get preg, but my bf dosnt :cry:
he does want one but yet he dosnt, he
wants me to complete school, but I can
just take a semester off and come back. I
would just graduate a semester late!
